In an ideal world I’d have the ceremony I want, I would walk down the aisle with my dad in a beautiful garden, the judge would officiate a true ceremony instead of just babbling legal things and making us sign the license, we’d have readings and a small ceremony inside the ceremony, we’d write our own vows and have an emotional “now we’re married” moment. It’d be memorable.
Back to reality. Chances are we’re not having a ceremony remotely close to what I want. For starters there’s the judge thing. We need a real judge that’ll go to our venue and marry us there. I’m hopeful that I’ll find someone who’ll be willing to play along and will give a chance for readings and a small ceremony—someone who’ll allow me to walk down the aisle and will not want to just get there, sign the papers, and be done with it.
Image via Hacienda los Agaves’ Facebook page
I’d like to have a small ceremony, since there’ll be no ring exchange ceremony. I liked the idea of the lasso ceremony, but since it is strongly related to the Catholic wedding and that’s an open wound, I don’t want to risk anyone feeling offended by it. I like the idea of a handfasting ceremony, but I’ll have to ask Mr. Toadstool about it since I think he’ll find it odd.
I still need to go find a judge that’ll fit our needs. Unfortunately, my job’s schedule doesn’t help and they’re not online, so phone it is.
Did you struggle finding someone who’ll officiate the wedding you want? Do you have any suggestions for ceremonies inside the ceremony?