A Bee’s Life: Funnel Cake Edition

Hi hive. Although I’ve been a little absent lately, I am still alive and riding the newlywed wave until it crashes. Before I say “auf wiedersehen,” I wanted to contribute to a few of the ongoing series. (Because I just can’t get enough Weddingbee!)

My history with blogs:

I started my first online journal through my Deviantart account nine years ago and wrote there fairly often while sharing artwork. Mostly really emo stuff that you’d expect from a teenager. I had a few blogs off and on during university, but it wasn’t until I left for my Swiss study abroad trip that I started writing daily. (I had a lot of time on my hands.)

I enjoy expressing myself through writing and I’ve always liked the sharing nature of blogs. I may not have time to blog daily anymore, but I still want to share my perspective with the world and I appreciate all the positive interactions within the blog community.

How did I find Weddingbee?

I am one of those women who had NO idea what Weddingbee was before I was engaged. I never started pre-planning my “someday” wedding, I did not have a Pinterest account to pin wedding ideas (although I do now, post-wedding!), and because my Swiss residency status sort of threw us into the engagement, there was not a lot of time to spend mulling wedding planning before it was a reality.

I found the Weddingbee Boards through Google, and I admit that I didn’t really understand the blog portion of the site for several visits. I just thought that the main page was featured bloggers and I thought I could just add a post myself somewhere if I wanted to share about my wedding.

Nope. Tricksy. Apparently you had to apply. Weird.

My application story:

I decided that I did want to be one of these blogging bees on the main page, and so I read the application process to figure out how to accomplish my goal.

I was still a ways out, so while I waited for my application window to open I started my wedding blog and began writing about Mr. Funnel Cake and myself.

Pengy was extremely busy with work when I applied, and I didn’t hear from her about my application for over a month. I was pretty sure I would be rejected because it was taking so long, but lo and behold I was asked to be a bee!

Why Miss Funnel Cake?

OK, here I will admit that it was not all sunshine and rainbows when I became a bee.

I was so excited to blog for Weddingbee that I completely missed the fact that there are predefined bee generations. (Someone’s thick!) I was under the impression I would get to make up my own character (crazy me!), and I was heartbroken that I had to stop calling Mr. FC by the name I’d made up because it was really cute and meaningful for us. I may have cried a bit.

Mr. FC didn’t help either. I was having a difficult time choosing my moniker from the carnival generation because I didn’t like any of the monikers as much as my personal one. (I was in mourning.) Mr. FC thought the whole concept of Weddingbee was preposterous, and while he didn’t mind me blogging about us, he told me that he really didn’t give a shit which name I chose. Ouch! :(

So I chose Funnel Cake for all the reasons I mentioned in my intro post. And it is true, you do sort of grow into your moniker even if it’s hard to get used to at first. First world problems, I know.

On being a Weddingbee blogger:

Being a Weddingbee blogger is amazing. I didn’t have any engaged friends in Zürich and none of my few girlfriends were excited about planning a wedding, so I had no one to share with but Mr. FC.

Sharing our wedding through the blog was the perfect way for me to release all my pent-up bridal energy without driving Mr. Funnel Cake crazy. And the hive is a seriously amazing place full of so many creative ideas and support. I am so happy I know all these women now, even if we haven’t met in real life yet.

But blogging for an audience as large as Weddingbee is not always easy. There are tons of people who don’t like your dress, venue, photographer, or how you deal with problems with your fiance, and they aren’t afraid to let you know. You really have to actively try and be politically correct while still expressing your own opinion about why you chose your flowers. Haters gonna hate, but they are a small downside to sharing with all the wonderful bees in the hive.

Blogging is also pretty tiring. I work full time and I really had to make time each week to plan out three to four posts a week. It just takes a lot of time to write, re-write, edit, and then add or make images to insert into your post and credit all your sources. I was definitely ready for a break post-wedding!

My tips for potential applicants:

1. Be prepared that not everyone will love you or your wedding. You will face more negative opinions than you ever would on your small private blog, but don’t let that scare you away from all the amazing positive people out there. They make up for it. I promise.

2. Word of advice: If you’re not totally in love with the current bee generation and you are still a year out from your wedding, wait until a new generation is released. I mean, if I knew about that Manatee last year I might have put off the wedding until 2013 so I could apply now. ;)

3. If you become a bee, you had better recap! We all know that bees are also susceptible to called-off weddings, divorces, getting pregnant shortly after the wedding, and any number of other situations, but the whole reason you sign up to do this is to share your wedding with the hive. As a reader following the planning, seeing the final result is the highlight of Weddingbee, so if you become a bee, please, please don’t leave us hanging! You know I’ll still be lurking and reading in my spare time. :)

BLOGGER

Mrs. Funnel Cake

Location:
Zürich, Switzerland/Columbus, Ohio
Wedding Date:
October 2011
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    Mrs. Toadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 3:57 pm

    Oh, the endangered species generation left us all thinking about postponing our weddings till 2013 right? ok, I’m kidding.
    Thank you so much for sharing FC, I really enjoyed readin about your two weddings, your inspiration and all your trash the dress. :)

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    Lone Star, Guest @ 3:59 pm

    Ooo, thanks for the demand for recapping! There are so many who haven’t done any recaps or who have dropped off the face of the earth and it’s just such a tease. Stopping recaps in the middle with no explanation is rough too! I totally get people have stuff to do, but just let me know you’re alive!

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    Mrs. Rubber Stamps 791 posts, Busy bee @ 4:02 pm

    I {heart} you Mrs. FC! You totally keep it real.

    I am two years post wedding and I still enjoying reading WB – especially the recaps and I appreciate all the Mrs. that take the time to finish what they signed up for.

    P.S. The Manatee is my fave too :-)

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    Mrs. Dragon 2891 posts, Sugar bee @ 7:40 pm

    When I first got accepted I was 7 months out from the wedding and insisted to Mr. D that I would finish my recaps. He told me I might change my tune after the wedding, but we’ve been married for like three weeks and I have all but two written (and both of them require input from other people or they’d be done too). I kinda feel like a crazy person but I REALLY wanted to see it through!

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    Mrs. Pony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 8:12 pm

    Love you FC! Such great advice and suggestions :)

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 8:21 pm

    I agree on the recaps! It’s always a bummer when bees disappear! (I’m glad you recapped so much!)

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    Mrs. Funnel Cake 1171 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:46 am

    @Miss Toadstool: Thanks!

    @Lone Star: Yeah! I should have thrown in that I wish everyone would capitalize on the 600px wide images too. These itty bitty 400px images drive me nuts! :P I want to see big, beautiful recap photos!

    @Mrs. Rubber Stamps: It’s just hard to give up once you are hooked. :) I can see why all the girls who found it pre-wedding couldn’t turn away!

    @Mrs. Dragon: Dang girl, that’s a fast turn around! You are so lucky to get the pictures so soon. I can’t wait to see your recaps start turning up! :)

    @ChicagoDreamer: Yeaah I miss bees when they disappear. It’s so cool to see the weddings in the end!

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    futuremrscpt 952 posts, Busy bee @ 7:26 am

    Seriously, its annoying when bee’s fall off the face of the earth! There’s plenty of bees from the last few generations that married in the last year that we haven’t heard from. Makes me sad.

    Thanks Mrs Funnel Cake for you know, doing yours! :-)

    Also, I’m curious as to what you wanted your made up moniker to be before you were forced to chose?

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:12 am

    I totes thought that each Bee made up her own icon. When I first applied, I have all sorts of visions of which Bee I would be (clearly, that didn’t happen haha).

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    Mrs. Sword 1019 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:23 am

    great comments FC! It’s so true that you have to take the good comments with the bad and insensitive ones. Sorry you had a dream moniker in mind! But now you’re Mrs FC and it just works! :)

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 11:22 am

    I’m so sad that you’ll be leaving shortly. :( I agree with the recap idea – it’s so upsetting when people just bounce and leave the readers empty-handed. I LOVED your recaps (especially your pictures, so stunning) and am so glad you shared everything with us, specifically your Budget Breakdown. :)

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    Mrs. Gray Wolf 725 posts, Busy bee @ 1:23 pm

    great post, FC! out of curiosity (if you don’t min sharing)…what was that ideal icon?

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    Mrs. Funnel Cake 1171 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:28 pm

    @futureMrsCPT: @Miss Gray Wolf: it was a burger based on a play of our last name. Actual nickname in real life, so it was really sweet for me. I still call Mr. Funnel Cake this old Mr. name sometimes. :)

    @Future Army Wife: I’m SO happy I was not the only person who thought this. Seriously. :P

    @StephK527: So glad you enjoyed the recaps and the budget! Budget is always a hard post to hit “publish” on.

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    Mrs. High Wire 1021 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:37 am

    Yes, on the recaps!!! I got knocked up right away and finished mine, dangit! Best advice is to just get them done ASAP while you are still excited about weddings in general. That fades quickly once your own personal wedding is over, I feel.

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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:52 am

    Definitely agree, that recaps are one of the best parts and it’s so disappointing when Bees don’t recap!

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    Mrs. Coyote 1480 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:37 pm

    Hahaha oh my gosh FC I love your tips!! I’m going to admit that I didn’t quite understand how the generations worked and was very upset when I had to choose an avatar RIGHT before the fairy tale generation was announced. I should have applied a month later! ;)

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