A tavola non si invecchia. – Italian proverb.
Translation: At the table with good friends and family, you do not become old.
Ever since I was little, I remember many many family events that occurred around a table. Even though my grandparents and I had a difficult time communicating (my Chinese is awful), food is the universal language that everyone speaks. It never mattered what was going on, everyone always got together for a lovely dinner.
During special events, I always loved the mountain of food, the seemingly endless stream of things to try. I didn’t realize it at the time, but our large tables seems to be a very Asian phenomenon. Having that type of family-style dining is not common at fancy events like weddings.
There seem to be two major options available:
1) The three-course dinner: I don’t think you can get any more standard than a three-course dinner with your usual choice between the standard chicken, fish, and vegetarian option. I understand it makes catering easier for the chef, who doesn’t have to prepare as many different entrees, but it doesn’t make for an interesting meal. Furthermore, being related to the world’s pickiest eaters ever (on both sides of our family), I’m not sure there are things that everyone can agree on.
2) Buffet/stations. I like the idea of giving people options here, and they can get as much or as little food as they like. However we’re not a big fan of buffet. We’re heard many horror stories about buffet lines taking forever, food running out, etc., etc. and, furthermore, we don’t like the idea of people having to wait for food while other people are finishing up already. Because our venue is fairly tight on space as it is, I just don’t know if buffet/stations make the most sense.
However, in my heart, I really would prefer to have it served family style. Mainly being able to have lots of food choices is something that is very important to PBear and me. We are definitely foodies at heart. We love trying new restaurants and food is a very central part of our relationship. We would like to incorporate that love into our wedding. Dinner is a large part of the reception, especially since we don’t plan on having dancing. We’re envisioning a large dinner-party type of feel. We don’t care if it takes a while as long a the food is good and the food keeps coming.
I’m thinking of something more similar to tapas, or small plates.
How gorgeous does that look? We want to be able to bring in a multitude of different types of foods, everything from mac-and-cheese bites:
Source: Enjoy Life, It’s Delicious
To possibly sliders:
Fries in a cup:
Or any type of bite-sized foods really. I think this could become quite a fun and fairly unique experience. My goal would be to have formal dinner party feel but add a little bit of a fun twist.
PBear and I have been to family-style wedding receptions and loved them, but I am a little worried about how other people will like it. I’m worried that they’re going to get really confused and weirded out. Has anyone else done family style? Did it work? Did you enjoy it? What problems did it have?
- Boston, MA
- Graduate Student
- Wedding Date:
- June 2013