The Many Shades of Blue

Bridesmaids’ dresses are the total bane of my existence right now.  I guess I’m not sure if I’m going about picking a dress correctly, because I feel like I’m having a way harder time at it than anyone else is.

I’m imagining dresses that are very soft and sweet.


Image via Southern Weddings / Photo by Nathan Westerfield / Bridesmaids’ dresses by Anthropologie


Image via Rock N’ Roll Bride / Photo by Natalie Norton

I’m not really caring too much if they’re identical or just matchy. Shouldn’t that be easy? Half of me is trying to be very nonchalant about it, while the other half of me is about to tear my hair out.

My current problems:

  1. My three bridesmaids are scattered around the world. It’s not like we can all go to a store and pick out one and ta-da done. Trying on dresses would have to be done one at a time, and frankly there are way too many options out there.
  2. The color blue I have in mind is apparently not in style right now. It’s great if I find a cute dress that I like and my girls look good in, but often I’ll look at the swatches, and there really just isn’t a good blue option. What is up with that? I’m aware that they really can’t have every version of blue ever, but I really don’t think I’m being picky.
  3. All of my bridesmaids are different shapes/sizes. I don’t really want to just declare a style without seeing how it looks on them, but at the same time, I’m not sure there’s a style that will make everyone happy.
  4. I really dislike the standard bridesmaids’ dress. I feel like oftentimes, bridesmaids’ dresses have a very distinct style to them—a satin, bright color look that just screams bridesmaids’ dress. This reduces the rewearability of the dress, and at 200–300 dollars a pop (when they already have to fly in), it’s just a little too much.
  5. Too many cooks in the kitchen. I know everyone means well, and everyone has their own tastes, but it really makes it much more difficult to pick something when you know it probably won’t make everyone happy. I’m a people pleaser, especially when I feel weird having complete say in how someone looks at my wedding.

My current top contenders:


Jenny Yoo Keira / Image via Hitched

I really want it in this color:


Jenny Yoo Kenzie in Turkish Blue / Source: Bella Bridesmaid

I like that it’s convertible, so my girls can wear it however they want to on the day, but it’ll still be matchy. Furthermore, it means they should be able to wear it again because they can always just wear it differently. On the other hand, it’s really expensive. When I wouldn’t feel comfortable paying that much for a dress, it’s hard for me to ask my dearest friends to pay that much. I might be willing to split the cost, but still, it’s a lot of money.

The other dress is from ModCloth:


When the Night Comes Dress from ModCloth

I originally bought this dress for a friend’s wedding thinking, oh, I can totally find a better dress than this for my girls. Nope, I totally can’t—not at that price point, at least. It’s gorgeous, it comes in all sizes, it has free shipping both ways. I really want them to try it. If it looks good on them, I think it’ll just be the easiest/cheapest solution.

Picking a dress is seriously stressing me out, and I’m always reminded that even if we settle on a bridesmaids’ dress, there’s still the question of shoes, accessories, hair, and makeup. Aaaah!

Anyone have a really hard time finding bridesmaids’ dresses in the colors they want? Did you feel like bridesmaids’ dress shopping is harder than shopping for your dress? Did you just give up and settle? Has this affected the other colors in your wedding?


Mrs. Panda

Boston, MA
Wedding Date:
June 2013
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    kbiceling 298 posts, Helper bee @ 12:05 pm

    @Miss Panda: I wore it to a friend’s wedding a couple of weeks ago. It’s REALLY comfortable!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 1:11 pm

    I just picked a dress, knowing from a friend’s nightmarish bridesmaids’ dress shopping experience that it would be easier on everyone :) Plus, I really love the modcloth dress!

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    dalmatian 592 posts, Busy bee @ 5:08 pm

    I love the Modcloth option! So unique but still classic. I have the dress from the first pic – from anthro from around the holidays last year. The modcloth one seems pretty similar.

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    potion 223 posts, Helper bee @ 6:49 pm

    Um, can I volunteer to be a bridesmaid in your wedding so I can have an excuse to buy that ModCloth dress? (In case you didn’t know, I’m a little obsessed with that place!)

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:51 pm

    @Miss Potion: seriously, get it. It’s an awesome dress. it may or may not be in my closet as we speak ;)

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    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:53 pm

    It’s difficult to make everyone happy so try to go with an option that will save you some stress. Are mismatched but similar shade dresses an option?

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 8:02 pm

    I’m in love with that ModCloth dress! Absolutely to die for!

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:57 am

    I left bridesmaid dresses quite late so I started to stress! We ended up getting 2 off the rack at a discount price, and one ordered and came well before the wedding also at a discounted price! Don’t worry, you will figure it out!

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    WoodenShoes 389 posts, Helper bee @ 3:25 am

    we are going with dresses from they are convertible, but at a fairly reasonable pricetag (you know, as reasonable as BM dresses go.) The great thing is that the dresses don’t need to be altered, which also saves money.

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    lovelyduckie 756 posts, Busy bee @ 10:36 am

    I actually purchased a bunch of dresses out of my own pocket, and at least 2 of my bridesmaids will go through them with me next week. We’re seriously considering having everyone in different shades and shapes of teal (maybe even teal lace). For the most part I’ve decided to go down the department store route. If we decide we don’t want the dresses I’ve purchased, but have decided to mismatch, I’ll let them pick out their own dress over the course of the next year.

    Here are the dresses I purchased

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:07 pm

    @Mrs. Pain au Chocolat: I’m having a hard time picking one dress that I like that everyone else seems to, having multiple dresses just seems like a disaster waiting to happen

    @WoodenShoes: I really love the idea of convertible dresses, but I have some friends who don’t think it’s really flattering. I think the straps can sometimes get loose easily and I hate for them to be fidgeting with the dresses constantly

    @lovelyduckie: gosh you’ve found some really gorgeous dresses, hm… I’ve been trying to stay out of the teal range of blue, but you might be convincing me to think about it as a possibility! decisions, decisions…

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    Red Poppy 19 posts, Newbee @ 8:12 am

    I love the Jenny Yoo bridesmaid dresses. They can be so versatile and definitely worn again! But I love the lace too… Don’t stress too much about the decision though. As long as the dresses work with your idea of the wedding and are affordable, your bridesmaids will wear whatever makes you happy!

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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:21 pm

    I am definitely struggling… I have been looking for 6 months and while I know that I’m somewhat picky, I didn’t think I was THAT picky. I’m having a really hard time of it. I like both options, but if you feel better about the Modcloth pricepoint, then go for it! That being said, a convertible dress is probably worth a little extra cash, because they can get a lot of use out of it. And they could always dye it if they wanted to change the color!

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:28 pm

    @Red Poppy: I’m trying not to stress out about it, I feel like it’ll work itself out. I know they’ll look gorgeous either way

    @Blonde17Jess: wow 6 months? I think that’s close to my time frame as well. It has been one of the most difficult decisions for me. I didn’t realize that it seems to be a difficult decision for other people too. I keep thinking I’m not being picky, but maybe I am *shrug* good luck on your search!

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    MissSpark 180 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:34 am

    I’m having the worst time trying to find a dress that I like in the shade of blue that I’m looking for…I had no idea that Bridesmaid’s dresses would be the thing I struggled most with! Good luck!

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    crisss99 32 posts, Newbee @ 8:33 pm

    I got married last weekend and my girls all wore convertible dresses with no issue – and they run the gamut of sizing/height. We got them on etsy at coralie Beatrix. Really couldn’t beat the $99 pricetag. I know she’s incorporating sheers and lace into some if the dresses now, too. All the girls got tons of compliments, and they loved how comfy they were!

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:40 pm

    @MissSpark: I think picking the shade of blue is the hardest

    @crisss99: those dresses are gorgeous, hm…

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    Giselle Windham, Guest @ 7:22 am

    Im a bridesmaid dress designer. maybe we can help you

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    JLane, Guest @ 4:08 am

    Did you consider little borrowed dress?

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