The One Who Makes Life Come to Life

After realizing my dream readings didn’t really exist, I began to search for wedding readings that were non-religious; sadly they were not from my favorite literature and also did not have the witty sarcasm that many readings have. Through all of my searching, it became clear that no matter how I changed the wording in my Google search bar, the same readings kept coming up. Although this initially made it difficult to choose, I soon began to notice that some of my favorite of the seemingly slim pickings were from children’s literature.

Now if there is one area of our upbringing where Mr. B and I differ, it is our aptitude for reading. See, I LOVE reading. Once I get into a book, there is no going back, and more often than not, I’m done with it in a matter of hours. Mr. B , on the other hand, hasn’t so much as picked up a book in the four years we’ve been together. He just.doesn’t.enjoy.reading.

As I tend to do when requesting Mr. B ”˜s opinion on wedding-related issues, I chose my top three options (Mr. B always is a much a better contributor when not asked to just come up with ideas of his own accord) and let him choose from there. When I picked out the three options I would present him with, I figured he’d have absolutely no idea where they came from or why I picked them. But much to my surprise, he knew they were all from “kid’s books.” ( I promised him BONUS points for figuring it out!)

I had narrowed it down to three options, and was hoping he would pick his top two. Here our are top three:

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From The Velveteen Rabbit, by Margery Williams

“What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”

“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.

“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

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From The Irrational Season, By Madeline L’Engle

But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take”¦It is indeed a fearful gamble”¦Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature. To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take”¦If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation”¦It takes a lifetime to learn another person”¦When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.

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And from Now we are Six by A.A. Milne

A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.

I decided prior to sending him his choices, that I would be happy with any combination (although my favorite was the one from The Velveteen Rabbit) as to not be disappointed by letting him choose.

Which two would you choose from that selection? Any guesses on what Mr. B chose?

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Mrs. Buffalo

Location:
San Diego, CA
Wedding Date:
September 2012
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    shaynapunim 654 posts, Busy bee @ 3:39 pm

    I absolutely love the A.A. Milne quote!!

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    texasaggiemom 595 posts, Busy bee @ 3:41 pm

    These are all great choices! If you want another one to consider, check out “The Little Prince” which talks about “taming” someone. Whichever one you choose, perhaps you can incorporate other elements of it into your theme (rabbits, etc.)

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    futureMFG 283 posts, Helper bee @ 5:14 pm

    I like all of them, but I think the readings from The Irrational Season and Now We Are Six are my favorites!

    And I’m in the same situations with reading with my guy – I LOVE reading (I got a Kindle for my bday because he “[didn't] understand how you don’t have one already”) and he rarely reads. Like, just started reading Harry Potter this past year. Guys!

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    memorialbride13 482 posts, Helper bee @ 6:28 pm

    The last 2 are my favorite, but I love all your choices!!

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    aokay 66 posts, Worker bee @ 7:15 pm

    Those are beautiful selections! Any of them would make me cry like a baby…

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    chipmunklove 433 posts, Helper bee @ 9:52 pm

    We used the Madeline L’Engle reading at our wedding and it was beautiful! One of my bridesmaids said she loved it :-) All of those reading are sweet, any of them would be beautiful!

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    nikstar 246 posts, Helper bee @ 11:52 pm

    i love them, i think i want to pinch one for ours

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    graywolf 725 posts, Busy bee @ 4:51 am

    aww i love the milne!

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    mz2handgrip 119 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:25 am

    I’m having a moment…The velveteen rabbit is my favorite childhood book!!!

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    Highness 82 posts, Worker bee @ 7:43 am

    I love the Madeline L’Engle one. I have this one by Dr Seuss in our guest book and may put it on our programs as well.
    “We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”
    ― Dr. Seuss

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    scottishmrs 3213 posts, Sugar bee @ 8:58 am

    I would pick #2 and start it after the words “But ultimately” and #3. I really like #3. We had a church wedding and therefore never even considered non-religious readings, but I’d imagine that it is difficult to find them in English. I just tried looking up Pride and Prejudice quotes for you and they all suck. They mention names everywhere or they have to do with Mr. Collins’ parish. That’s saddening since it’s my favourite book and is also considered to be one of the greatest classic romance books of all time, yet it has nothing worthy of being a wedding reading in it.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:15 am

    I love #3, I just love what it says.

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    shortnsunny 101 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:41 am

    Those choices are great! I understand your dilemma, and I love Winnie the Pooh–so I put it in my vows. For the ceremony, I picked a Calvin and Hobbes bit about love (and cooties–I figure we will all need a little laughter in that moment). FI sounds like yours, and our wedding planning has gone pretty much the same! He’s very good about picking from choices, but original ideas are a little lost on him.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 11:50 am

    I love the Milne one, they would all make wonderful ceremony readings!

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    alleycat 661 posts, Busy bee @ 11:54 am

    @Highness: OMG I love this. Thank you for sharing…I think this will make its way into our photo album :)

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 5:44 pm

    I love the We Are Six one!

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    MsMagtoMrsK 52 posts, Worker bee @ 3:09 pm

    All of them are great, but I am stealing the A.A. Milne quote for my wedding! Thanks!

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:11 am

    I think they are all amazing! I especially like the We are Six one its so true and beautiful!

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    Michelle, Guest @ 2:42 pm

    the poem you listed as being from “Now we are six” is not in that book nor was it written by A A Milne it was written by Richard Bach. I was very upset after purchasing this book for my wedding and finding this out!

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    Maris, Guest @ 5:48 pm

    @Michelle:

    Thank you for posting that I have looked through the book like 5 times!

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