My First Meltdown

So…I made it until June (remember, we got engaged in November) before I truly freaked out about anything, but when I did, I definitely freaked out.

See, here’s what went down. I found these FABULOUS shoes. Really, they were stunning. I wouldn’t take my word for it either, so here you go—these are the shoes that I just had to have:


Image via Polyvore / Aldo Lafera in suede / No longer on their website :(

So anyway—I thought, OK, the girls are going to be wearing all different dresses, but wouldn’t matching shoes look great? My concern was that if I left the shoe situation wide open, I would end up with TOO much variety. I mean, I want the girls to feel like themselves and feel like they look stunning (which they all already are, of course), but I didn’t want someone to decide glitter pumps would be a good idea. Instead, I took it upon myself to ask that everybody head to Aldo and purchase the shoe. (And yes, if you’re wondering, I did purchase those lovely shoes myself as well.)

Shoe decision made! Easy! We decided to go as a group (sans MOH Cubbie, since she lives in Florida) to purchase the shoes—this way, there could be no error in shoe choice, no salesperson encouraging them to go for the patent instead. Basically, I just wanted to supervise the purchase of the shoes. Creepy? Maybe. But it was a good thing I went.

As the ladies tried on the shoe in different colors (because there weren’t any of the tan left) we discovered that they were out of size-five shoes. *crickets* BM Lails needed a size five. This is when I started to get a little distraught. Then the salesgirl tried to take FSIL/BM T to the register to purchase her shoes…

At that point, I’m pretty sure I very nearly pulled an Exorcist move with my entire body. WHY, oh why, would FSIL/BM T order shoes if you don’t have the same shoes for the other person in the wedding party!? (I had ordered mine online before sending them to my girls, so I was all set.) We had already explained that it was a wedding party, and that I wanted everyone to match…so I didn’t understand why she was pushing BM T to go order the shoes.


Cat image created on I Can Haz Cheezeburger / I added the commentary. ;)

There. I said it. Or that crazy kitty did. Same thing. I had a mini breakdown. The salesgirl offered to call around to see if they could locate the shoes somewhere (they were sold out online, of course), and BM Lails gave the woman her contact information in case they tracked the shoes down in her size. Then the girl again asked if FSIL/BM T wanted to order shoes. I’m pretty sure that was the point I said something about matching and then we just left the store.

After several days with no call, I finally gave up and chose a different (but almost exact copy) of that shoe. Everyone got their shoes and all was well. But boy, I was upset at first. I think it was less about the actual shoes and more about the fact that, though we had made what we wanted pretty clear, she kept trying to sell us on something different.

Did anybody else have a moment over something ridiculous? I know I’m not the only one, so come on, fess up!


Mrs. Otter

Indianapolis, IN
Wedding Date:
April 2013

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    Mrs. Toadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:50 pm

    Bahaha I’m sorry but this is hilarious, and I totally understand being frustrated about pushing salespeople and I cna assure you more than one attendant has pushed me away with attitude.

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    ABoxForPandora 57 posts, Worker bee @ 2:44 pm

    When I went dress shopping with my MOH and FMIL, I found a dress I LOVED. The sample size was WAAY too small, and in white and red (one of my least fave colors), but I loved the way the dress made me feel. So I went to order it. I was told that is came in a color I loved, and my size. When I got to the register, I was told it didn’t come in my size. Great. Fine. I’ll get it one size smaller and have it altered. Then it didn’t come in that color…. I had a melt down. I should have take it as a sign and just left David’s Bridal and never gone back. Every time I step foot in that store I want to scream!

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    Justine D, Guest @ 2:55 pm

    My 2 teenage sisters will be my bridesmaids for my May wedding. I am dead set on a Spring-theme. All things light and floral and pretty. What dress does my mother pick for them to try on? A floor-length strapless dress in deep purple, gray, or brown. About as far from my vision of short, flowly dresses in bright floral colors. After listening to all 3 of them go on about how pretty these dresses were and how beautiful they looked, I broke down and cried over the phone to my fiance how much I hated the dresses. He helped me put my foot down and we ended up finding dresses we could all agree on, and I let them pick the shoes I wouldnt normally have chosen. So now everyone is happy ((I hope, anyway!))

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    debeachgirl 742 posts, Busy bee @ 4:17 pm

    My mother and cousin are size 5. That can be a hard size to find. So glad you found something. Why was the sales girl so pushy?

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    Mrs. Pony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 4:51 pm

    It’s not ridiculous to be upset, it sounds like their service was seriously lacking.

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    Mrs. Gray Wolf 725 posts, Busy bee @ 5:43 pm

    ugh i blogged about it, but i definitely had a few bad moments when i found out my rental dress idea wasnt perfect. it’s okay to have those moments!

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    kassandra, Guest @ 7:31 pm

    This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read. The saleswoman wasn’t being “pushy.” She thought you wanted those shoes, which you did, so she was trying to sell them to your bridesmaid while she had them, and tried to help your other bridesmaid find them in her size. Calm down, Jesus Christ.

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    Mrs. Panda 1324 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:15 pm

    We all have that moment. Me, I think I’ve had like 20–definitely have more than my fair share of meltdowns and bridezilla moments. Ugh. =/ I always feel so bad afterwards, but damnit, I want it my way.

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:33 am

    I don’t blame you for being upset! I mean one of my bridesmaids was in charge of getting the shoes for my 3 girls. I requested a low heel because I am super short. What does she get but a super high heel with a platform! I nearly freaked! Luckily I didn’t take it out on my bridesmaid but I felt like going all bridezilla on her lol!

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