We met with our first potential JOP earlier this week, and we had a great conversation with him. He was very funny and relaxed, and I really liked him. His fees were a little on the high side, but not that unreasonably so. And I really believe that he would do a great job. I’m just not sure I can justify the cost, especially when we haven’t looked at any other JOPs.
But what I realized very early on in the conversation was how I knew very little about how I wanted the ceremony to go. What should be the most important part of the day is the part that I haven’t really thought it through yet.
Things I know I want to include:
1) Emphasis on the community. I knew I wanted to focus not just on our love and us coming together as a family, but I also wanted to put an emphasis on our roles in the community. I believe that it’s really important to say our vows in front of our friends and family because we are cementing our promises not only to each other, but in the eyes of the people who are so important to us.
I originally wanted to have the vows in the middle of a circle but unfortunately, due to our venue, the geometry wasn’t in our favor, and it was just not going to happen.
Thus, instead I wanted to focus on rituals such as a ring warming ceremony, which will let everyone be a part of our ceremony.
2) Personalized vows. PBear and I have a huge number of inside jokes, gags, and silly things that are just us. I really want to tell everyone how much I love him in my own words, even though I will cry like a baby the whole time.
How freaking adorable is this. / Photo by Taylor Jackson Photography
3) Readings. I’m a total sap, and I really love readings about love and romance. The last couple of weddings we’ve been to haven’t had readings, but I really love to include some additional and very dear people to us. There are people that I would like to be a part of our day but don’t seem to fit the bill of bridesmaid/groomsman, and I think any of them doing a reading would be lovely. Of course, that’s assuming I ever narrow down the readings.
I love the idea of using a children’s book. That’s very us, and oh there are so many good choices. Not really sure what to pick, though.
Did anyone realize late in the game that they had not really thought very much about the main event? Did you plan it out or just let your officiant figure it out?