Sweets for My Sweet

Mr. Wallaby and I have HUGE sweet teeth. We exercise frequently, and we generally eat pretty healthy, so we try to use those reasons to justify our daily sugar intake, but seriously, we both love all things sweet. I often bake homemade treats (Mr. W’s faves are chocolate chip cookies and molten chocolate cake), but we also love to go out for ice cream, frozen yogurt, or just to get a chocolate bar at the grocery store.

Now that I’ve told you about our sugar consumption habits, you may find this surprising: Mr. W and I don’t care much for wedding cake. Don’t get me wrong—I will always take a few bites of cake at weddings we attend. I would never pass up that opportunity. But I’ve found most wedding cakes to be fairly bland. Cakes decorated with fondant are especially low on my list—I prefer the yummy flavor of buttercream frosting to the sleek look of a cake covered in fondant. But even buttercream cakes have not generally piqued my palate. Mr. W has told me he feels the same way. He can’t remember enjoying any of the slices of wedding cake that he’s tried at past weddings.


Fondant wedding cake: so beautiful…but not Mr. W’s and my favorite dessert / Cake by Wildflowers by Lori / Photo via Wildflowers By Lori


I would MAYBE spring for a fondant cake if it were shaped like a bundle of asparagus. That is pretty dang creative! / Photo via Sweetapolita

I decided that, in lieu of cakes, we could have pies! We live in the South and are tying the knot in November, so fall Southern wedding = perfect for pies! Even better, I had the idea that we could ask our local guests to bring home-baked pies to the wedding, and Mr. W and I would have a taste test and award ribbons to the bakers of the best pies. Doesn’t that sound fun?!?


Photo by J. Malahy Photography / Image via Shanna Lumpkin Events

We encountered a small glitch, though. Most of our local guests are Mr. W’s male friends from college (read: bachelors who don’t know how to operate an oven, let alone pull off baking a pie from scratch) and Mr. W’s family friends, who are mostly Persian and don’t normally bake American desserts like pies. (We had a huge Thanksgiving celebration last fall with all of Mr. W’s family friends, and all of the pies were store bought. I’m all over that next year! 😉 ) I also worried that asking people to bake cakes might be too much of a burden, especially if they are not into baking or are busy the weekend of the wedding.

So we went back to the drawing board. My mom expressed her desire that we have a traditional wedding cake. One of the groomsmen’s moms offered to bake our wedding cake—their family is Mexican, and she bakes Mexican wedding cakes as a side business. And so Mr. W and I are going to meet with Groomsman J’s mama in a couple weeks to do a taste testing and decide on a plan for the cake(s).

Mr. W would like a tres leches cake for his groom’s cake—has anyone ever seen this pulled off at a wedding before? It could prove messy, but what the heck! We haven’t decided yet what to do about the bride’s cake, though, and we’re pretty overwhelmed with all of the options out there. So, here’s where I need your help: what are some wedding cake flavors that you’ve enjoyed? What cakes are great crowd-pleasers, and which ones should we try to avoid (for the sake of picky eaters)?


Mrs. Wallaby

Wedding Date:
November 2012
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    beckys0 2249 posts, Buzzing bee @ 3:04 pm

    oo- I love Tres Leches that would be soo delicious (the messier the yummier!)

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    Beth, Guest @ 3:07 pm

    Passion fruit!

  3. mstoadstool Member
    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 3:11 pm

    Tres leches is good as long it is a one tier cake, if she’s into mexican recipes she might want to bake a cajeta or “dulce the leche” cake, those are really good but very sweet, sometimes I try to avoid them because I get overwhelm by the sweetness.

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    genie 723 posts, Busy bee @ 3:26 pm

    If you really want tres leches, maybe you could do a trio of one-layer cakes? And have them on separate cake stands? That way, you could do two tres leches, and one other flavor, and you could have a display similar to multiple pies.

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    Emmie, Guest @ 5:13 pm

    I got married in Houston and really wanted a tres leches cake. We went to El Bolillo (across from the Farmers Market (Caninos?) on Airline) and they said they couldn’t stack a tres leches cake. Bummer! But we ordered a beautiful wedding cake (I think it was pina colada with pineapple filling-I don’t eat chocolate) from them and a tres leches cake (with strawberries) that we left blank (no decorations at all) and after my husband and I cut our cake at the reception they served plates with two slices- one slice of wedding cake and one slice of tres leches. I don’t know if it would have been more expensive to have them decorate the tres leches one (ours stayed in the back the entire time and was never on display) but it was super cheap- $1/slice. It worked out great for us and people really loved the tres leches cake. We had a lot of out of town guests (like 75%) and they all really enjoyed it. We definitely got a lot of comments on how good the tres leches cake was. I don’t think most people even realized that we had two separate cakes! Good luck!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 5:21 pm

    This sounds delicious! And, now I want cake and pie :)

  7. painauchocolat Member
    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:03 pm

    Tres leches sounds drool-worthy!!!

    The yummy: try an apricot filling. Seriously amazed at how yummy it was. I think it works with a November wedding.

    The divisive: carrot cake is one of those flavors that people either love or really dislike.

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    Highness 82 posts, Worker bee @ 8:11 pm

    The baker we’re using does a tres leches as a wedding cake. She’s in Conroe and is a hoot to work with. Her flavors are amazing. We’re getting amaretto and vanilla and raspberry for the wedding cake and black forest (dark chocolate and cherry) for the grooms cake. She uses chocolate fondant and does all her icing in buttercream. PM me if you want her info.

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:30 am

    I love the idea of pie but you are right to doubt the logistics of it all! I think wedding cake can be really good but if you want something different then the pie idea isn’t bad. Instead of hiring a baker that makes cakes can you hire one that makes pies? If I was to choose a cake flavour I would always go yummy chocolate or red velvet. Red velvet is especially yummy with cream cheese icing (frosting)!

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    ItsPronounced_ABear 715 posts, Busy bee @ 5:56 am

    Ours was lemon. Had my heart set on that since I was a teenager.

    Got LOTS of compliments!

  11. mswallaby Member
    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:58 am

    @BeckyS0: Glad to hear you like it!!! It’s Mr. W’s favorite kind of cake!
    @Beth: Never had it, but that sounds so good!!!
    @Miss Toadstool: I’m ok with having a one-tier cake, I’d rather have a one-tier take that tastes great. You’re so right, caramel cakes can overdo the sweetness.
    @Mrs. Genie: I love that idea! Thanks!!
    @Emmie: Your story gives me so much hope! Glad it worked out for you!!
    @Mrs. Pain au Chocolat: Hmm I’ve never tried apricot cake but that sounds really, really good :)
    @Highness: Wow yumm invite me please! Haha jk! At this point we have booked a bride’s cake, but I will PM you the next time we need a cake (which is often, for entertaining).
    @Jacofblues: I never thought of that, but asking a baker to bake the pies for us is such a good idea. I agree, red velvet + cream cheese frosting is delishhhh. I have a red velvet brownie recipe, with cream cheese frosting, and it’s divine :)

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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:14 am

    I always love white cake with raspberry filling for wedding cakes. I used to work for a caterer, and those were always my favorites!

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    red_pepper_gal 1754 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:23 pm

    Cupcakes always seem to taste better than actual cake; I’m not sure why.

    We bought pie from a local bakery (they delivered it) and had our caterer serve it for dessert. It was delicious and really easy, and I loved that we were supporting our local community.

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