Who Is That Beardless Man???

Hey, hive. Anyone familiar with no-shave November? Well, as much as Mr. A would have loved to participate this year, his new-found position as a security officer pretty much made that decision for him. You see, after probably seven years of having a beard (his school system actually allowed full beards in their dress code and he was able grow one starting in ninth grade!), Mr. A had to shave that adorable baby face of his for work.

Now I know what you’re thinking: So what? No big deal, Miss A! And you would be right, of course. The fact that Mr. A is now a clean-shaven dude of the working world really isn’t a big deal at all, in retrospect. But for Mr. A, shaving his face was a HUGE DEAL. He doesn’t feel like himself without facial hair, and to be honest, after being with him for three years and only knowing him with facial hair, the change was definitely something I had to get used to, too. When he first did it, I’ll just be honest: he looked WEIRD. Maybe because his skin was crazy white underneath that beard, or maybe because it looked like a child’s head had been Frankensteined on a grown man’s body after the hair came off. Whatever the case, I would constantly find myself staring at him while we were watching TV or in the car together. It just didn’t look like “him” without the beard. For comparison, here’s a side-by-side photo:


On the left, Mr. A getting ready for the annual charity ball / On the right, Mr. A and I this weekend at a USO 1940s benefit dance

He was mostly worried that he wouldn’t look like himself in our wedding photos, and I totally get that. I would equate it to me having to chop all my hair off for a job and then be short-haired for the wedding, in which case I definitely wouldn’t feel like I was “me” at my absolute best. But I think now that he’s been clean shaven for a while, he’s gotten used to the beardless dude staring back at him in the mirror. I know I have! And really, Mr. A looks pretty adorable whether he’s rocking the beard or not. The only slight wedding-related inconvenience I’ve run into with the whole non-beard situation is this:



For his own peace of mind, we’ve discussed the possibility of him asking for permission at work to start growing a beard a week before the wedding (he gets pretty substantial growth in that amount of time). But if that plan fails, I have no doubt it will still look like Mr. A up there at the altar on our wedding day. And to be completely honest, he’s perfect to me whether he has facial hair or not. It just might take a little convincing for Mr. A to believe it!

Did you or your significant other have to alter your physical appearance in some way prior to the wedding? (And SUPER-IMPORTANT QUESTION: Should I paint over the beard on the peg people version of Mr. A for our cake topper or leave it as is for posterity’s sake?)


Mrs. Armadillo

Houston, Texas
Wedding Date:
March 2013
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    mholden 167 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:43 pm

    I say keep the beard on the peg-person — it’s cute!

    I’m actually amazed that a school system potentially *wouldn’t* allow beards in the dress code. That seems so micro-manage-y to me.

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    RoxanneV, Guest @ 2:51 pm

    Keep the beard on the peg and paint the beard on hubby so he matches the peg!

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    happyface 5777 posts, Bee Keeper @ 2:52 pm

    Don’t paint over the beard… leave it there it looks too darn cute!

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    mrsjjc 246 posts, Helper bee @ 3:00 pm

    I can’t believe his work doesn’t allow beards! It’s not like it would hinder his job performance. How weird!

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    scepter 333 posts, Helper bee @ 3:00 pm

    @RoxanneV – love your comment.

    And I totally vote for leaving the beard on the peg – it looks so cute!

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    kit_kath 1327 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:16 pm

    I’ve only seen my SO clean shaven in old photos. He has a full beard (and it’s very thick) and I can’t imagine him without it. He thinks he looks weird without it, so in his recent job hunt he wouldn’t he made sure to ask at every interview if that would be an issue.

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:29 pm

    I agree with fellow commenters above! Keep the beard on the peg! Especially if theres a chance he can grow it back for the wedding!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 3:50 pm

    Keep the beard on, it’s so cute and obviously matches how most people see him. Hopefully he can grow it back for the wedding (assuming he wants to).

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    msarmadillo 497 posts, Helper bee @ 4:17 pm

    @MrsJJC: The facial hair rule is due to the possibility that during some kind of catastrophic event they would be required to wear gas masks, and facial hair would interfere with the mask forming a proper suction. They are allowed to have a mustache, but I vetoed that pretty quickly, haha.

    @RoxanneV: Bahaha, yes! Brilliant!

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    debeachgirl 543 posts, Busy bee @ 5:22 pm

    Neither of us altered our appearance but if FI shaved his beard I might not recognize him. After close to 6 years together with beard it would be weird. He once shave it real close and that was strange, so I feel you.

    And I say keep the beard on the figure.

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    Mrs. Panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:53 pm

    your peg person is adorable. you have to keep it like that. so cute

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 6:59 am

    I made Mr. Dragon promise he’d run any facial hair changes by me pre-wedding. I really love his beard and I don’t so much love his bare face, haha! Now he’s doing Movember and it’s brutal.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:36 am

    @RoxanneV: HAhahahaha, that is a great solution.

    I don’t think you should paint over the peg person, but being honest I would, I’d like it to look the way my groom looked the day of the wedding, but that’s just me.

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 7:09 pm

    I would leave the beard. It’s still him, whether or not he has a beard on the big day.

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