The One with All the Pie Charts

So, I’m not sure if you’re aware of this or not, but we’re getting married this Saturday. Holy crap, you guys.

Now that we’ve established that…

Let’s take a look at the RSVP breakdown!

The guest list for this wedding was MASSIVE. Originally, Mr. Potion and I had imagined inviting 100, maaaaybe 150 people, with about 50 people actually showing up because of the rather inconvenient location (Middle-of-Nowhere, Alabama, though it’s Middle-of-Somewhere to us).

And then the church told us that, technically, they could sit 300 people.

And then my mom checked out reception venues, and the winner told her they could accommodate 200, or maybe even 250 people—or, if we utilized the outside space, as many as we want!

This is a dangerous thing to promise someone like my mom.

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Photo taken by Mr. Potion at The Most Awesome Bridal Shower Ever

See, my mom is one of the sweetest, most loving people in the entire world, and family is very important to her (so therefore family is very important to me, too). Since it seemed there was no limit to how large our guest list should be, she wanted to make sure to invite EVERYONE IN THE ENTIRE WORLD who is in any small way related to me, even if we haven’t seen or spoken to them since I was an infant.

Perhaps this is a trait common to all moms, as Mr. Potion’s mom did the same.

How many people do you think we ended up inviting?

Go ahead, guess.

If you guessed a whopping 278 people, you would be correct!

When I was addressing the envelopes, I wanted to make sure I had spelled everyone’s name correctly and that we were 100% sure the addresses were right. A few times, I’d come upon an odd-looking name or an address that just didn’t quite seem complete, so I’d ask Mr. Potion if he knew whether or not it was spelled right, assuming the guest in question was from his side.

“How should I know? I don’t know who that is.”

Yeah, that exchange happened more than once.

Usually we were able to figure out what side the guest came from (not that it mattered for invitations, we just wanted to know) based on the state they lived in, but in some cases we had to call up our moms to double check. We think we finally were able to establish which of us is related to all the strangers on the guest list, and were therefore able to compile the following pretty charts!

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Out of the 278 invited guests, 70 RSVP’ed yes. Many of the 208 “nah…”s are actually just presumed “nah…”s, as we were never able to track down a definitive answer for many people. (The number we gave the caterer is nicely padded juuuuust in case we get some unexpected arrivals.) I wouldn’t say my online RSVP experiment failed—we sent out 127 invitations, and 62 parties used the website to RSVP, whereas a handful called in their response—I’d just say that it’s not a foolproof way to ensure that everyone sends in a response. I’m convinced that, no matter how convenient you make it, some people are just too lazy to tell you that they’re not coming—they just assume that you’ll just assume that they don’t want to show up.

Anyway.

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The invites themselves were nearly evenly distributed between the two of us—168 people on my side, 110 on his. I have a really, really big extended family, and, like I said, EVERYONE had to be invited.

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Out of the 70 people who RSVP’ed yes, however, a large majority are from my side. I suppose this has to do with the fact that most of my family lives in the state of Alabama (or very near it) but, honestly, we both expected more of Mr. Potion’s friends and family to make the journey for The Big Day. While we’ve said from the beginning we’d rather have a small wedding, and while we know that fewer guests means we’ll have time to really interact meaningfully with everyone that day, it was still a little heartbreaking to watch the “nos” trickle in from his side.

This bride’s side/groom’s side breakdown could make for one very lopsided church…so we’re just going to ignore the concept of “sides” and ask people to sit wherever they want.

That’s right, folks, it’s time for another sign! (This is probably the last one.)

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{personal photo}

This sign will be on display at the front of the church next to the basket of programs. Aside from our immediate family members and the bridal party, the ushers will be instructed to seat people so that the church fills up evenly, without asking “bride’s side or groom’s side?”

What percentage of your invited guests actually RSVP’ed? Was your guest list evenly distributed between the two of you, or did either one invite significantly more people than the other? Are you having your guests sit on “their side”?

*all graphs created in Google Docs*

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Mrs. Potion

Location:
Herndon, VA
Wedding Date:
November 2012

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    mswallaby 2069 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:33 pm

    So excited for you! We are pretty much down to counting down the hours… ahh! And sigh, another sign – we still have at least 5-10 signs to make because I don’t think most people will understand our escort cards, drinks table, or really any of the oddball things we’ve planned haha.

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    Highness 82 posts, Worker bee @ 12:48 pm

    We’re using chalkboard paper (it’s in the scrapbooking isle at Joanns) and spray fixative. Any extra signs can be whipped up in a jiff. Can’t wait to see you recaps!! Congrats!!

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    RapunzelRapunzel 812 posts, Busy bee @ 1:01 pm

    Yay, I’m super-excited for you Miss Potion (and for Miss Wallaby and any other brides getting married this weekend too!). I’m glad to know I’m not the only one with a HUGE invited guest list, and I’m kind of hoping we have lots of “nah’s” too: I’m nervous about the fact we’re inviting 200+ people when I originally wanted a small wedding!

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    BrideLawyer 31 posts, Newbee @ 1:22 pm

    Our guest list will be very disproportionate. Like you, my large family is mostly local, while his smaller family is mostly several states away. I work in a large office, while he works out of the house. We are also going with the sign to distribute people evenly at our venue. I love your sign!

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    mswallaby 2069 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:39 pm

    @Highness: Wait hang on there’s such thing as chalkboard paper! *hits head on desk* omg. Doh. I wish we hadn’t wasted time on making the smaller framed chalkboard signs!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 1:50 pm

    Only a few days, so excited for you to celebrate with your friends and family!

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    Merelymere 472 posts, Helper bee @ 1:55 pm

    Yay Alabama Brides! I’m looking forward to your recaps, since we’re doing a Catholic wedding as well. And we have had the same experience with the guest list ;) I really hope that a lot of the people we don’t know don’t come, because the number got VERY HIGH VERY FAST and we didn’t plan to pay for this many people!

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:21 pm

    We were very simialr to you with an even distribution of invites. We had much more of an even distribution with who is coming. Really it should be split into 3 ways as there are many of our guests I would consider both our friends that are attending! I am so excited that you are so close to your big day!

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    angelwinged 127 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:07 pm

    could you send me a template of your new sign if so please message me and I’ll send you my email

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    potion 223 posts, Helper bee @ 9:14 pm

    @Angelwinged: it’s not made from a template…the map is a page from a calendar I found at Paper Source, and the letters are all individual letter stamps I found at Michaels. hope this helps :/

    And thanks for all the positive thoughts everybody- keep on sending them so I keep my sanity this weekend!

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    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:54 pm

    Our ceremony was pretty informal so guests sat wherever they could be the closest to the front. I was surprised that our guest list shrunk by so much but understood that it was difficult (and expensive) for my extended family with young children to fly out for a weekend.

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:02 pm

    yay! it’s coming up! I’m so excited for you! I really love your sign. I’m considering a similar sign as well since our venue is very small and the bride and groom sides are lopsided. We need people on both sides or otherwise, there won’t be enough seats for everyone. Your gorgeous maps always make me wish I picked a travel theme!

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    charleenbarila 24 posts, Newbee @ 2:44 am

    Saturday is the big day for me! Eeek!

    Our venue has a minimum of 175 people, so we invited about 192. What surprised us was the majority of people we invited with a +1 decided not to bring a date, so that, combined with the people who RSVP’d no (only a small amount) we’re actually under our minimum by about 12 people. Really frustrating. But our venue is throwing in a bunch of extras at the cocktail hour to make up the cost difference so we’re at least getting stuff for the money we’re spending.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:27 am

    Yaay Potion! just a few short days! Have a fantastic week.

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