Even though we’ve already booked most of our “big” stuff, I think it’s helpful to reflect on how we actually came to our decisions. So, our first BIG decision was the venue. Because, obviously we couldn’t have a date without the venue.
Before we started looking, we talked about what was most important to us. We decided that our absolute number one priority was having a beautiful ceremony location.
Can I brag about my guy just a little bit here? I love him so much. When I asked him what was more important to him about our wedding, he said (without any prompting) he wanted to ceremony to be amazing. He said he doesn’t care if the reception is in a run down community center, but he wants the ceremony to be incredible. (Isn’t that sweet? He’s more romantic than me. It’s awesome.)
Clearly, I wasn’t opposed to having a spectacular ceremony, so the ceremony site became the focus of our search. Luckily for us, we had very similar visions of where we would like to get married. Neither of us wanted a church wedding (I have always sworn that I will not have green church carpet in my wedding photos!). And we love the idea of an outdoor wedding with a spectacular view. We both started dreaming about a fantastic wedding on a cliff overlooking the mountains or the ocean.
Image by Alex Schoenfelt
Destination wedding in Bali, anyone? Image from Kayangan Estate
Wedding in the Canadian Rockies. (Image by Heather Ellis Photography)
So beautiful, right? The only problem is…it turns out we just don’t really have any cliffs near either of our hometowns. Mr. Whale is from the Gulf Coast. I’m from central Kentucky. We decided we needed more focus. Unless we were going to fly out to California or Canada, cliffs were probably out.
There was a brief moment where we considered a beach wedding on the Gulf Coast.
I knew I would not put up with the humidity for a beach wedding on the Gulf Coast. So we put our heads together and realized, “Hey! The East Coast has mountains! The Blue Ridge Mountains!” And that’s when the magic really started happening. We realized that any wedding would essentially be a destination wedding for us. (We live in Maryland for school. And that’s too far for anyone in our families to travel.) And so we decided to go with a pseudo-destination wedding. (Everyone can drive there. But everyone will need a hotel room.)
Once we settled on the Blue Ridge Mountains, I could really get to work on doing my research.
How did you start your venue research? Did you have a vision in mind? Or did you just starting visiting place?