Twogether in Texas

We’ve  always known we would do some sort of premarital counseling. Both of us grew up with the mentality that divorce is not an option. Considering that the divorce rate in the United States is a staggering 50%, we knew we wanted some tools to help ward off those odds. It didn’t hurt that our church also required it for us to be married, but they were incredibly flexible about where it was done!

Early early this morning (8:00am on a Saturday, ouch!) Mr. Manatee and I battled OU/Texas traffic up to Anthem in Dallas for our premarital counseling seminar. Texas has this fantastic (and completely free!) program for engaged couples called Twogether in Texas. Completely non-faith based, this program approaches touchy subjects like communication, anger, money, previous marriages and blended families. Surprisingly, sex was not really discussed! After completion of the full day program, couples receive a certificate of completion that earns us $60 off our marriage license! I actually found this program on the side bar of advertisements on Facebook.

We dragged out of bed at 7:00am, picked up some liquid courage and joined seven other couples in the most fantastic full backed leather chairs.

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The class ran from 8:00-4:00pm, and it was surprisingly a lot of fun! The class was taught by a really wonderful couple who had been together for almost 25 years! They immediately got us up for several “ice-breakers” that let us really get to know each other, including sharing our love stories. It was a really great mixed group! Because we got the awkwardness out of the way early, it was really amazing to get to hear and share personal stories and struggles we’d had in our relationships throughout the day. We also got a workbook with amusing pictures and interactive activities, a love language quiz and instructions to write an “Only You” love letter to our future spouse! Some of the discussions and activities were hard, but we learned so much! At the end of the day, this really tough-looking martial arts instructor shared his “Only You” letter with the group, and it was an incredibly touching tribute of his love for his future wife and incredible excitement about their child on the way. We all got a little teary-eyed! Mr. Manatee wrote me the sweetest letter that I can’t wait to frame.

Oh yeah, and we got free lunch!

Did you opt for premarital counseling? Was it a chore to get through, or an experience you enjoyed together?

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Miss Manatee

Location:
Fort Worth, TX
Wedding Date:
June 2013

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    dancingriss 304 posts, Helper bee @ 3:29 pm

    Oh I’m so glad you mentioned this. My fiance and I live out of state, but are getting married in Texas. I’m gonna look into it!

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    sand dollar 1334 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:58 pm

    Oh how funny! It’s such a small world. I actually used to work for the marketing company with ANTHEM! They have a great program. We also did a class prior to getting married, and really enjoyed it. Our favorite exercise was for communication. You had to draw something, then take turns describing it while getting your SO to draw the same thing, then compare the two and see how different they looked. It was a really eye-opening exercise!

    I’m glad you used the TNT program! It’s state-wide, so I hope more Texas brides read your post and take advantage of it :)

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    Miss Care Bear 193 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:49 pm

    Lucky you getting it for free! We have to pay 250$ for our program!

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:54 pm

    That’s a great program! Our marriage license was only $60.

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    otter 1321 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:50 pm

    I’m so jealous! I can’t find any similar services here – hopefully our officiant will have some ideas for us :)

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    Miss Canaras 75 posts, Worker bee @ 6:42 am

    My fiance and I did counseling as required by the Catholic church… but the series we attended was calling “Beginning to Live in Love” and it was awesome. It was 4 couples being guided by a married Catholic couple, and it was 3 hours every Sunday for 4 weeks. It was definitely beneficial, and much better than we expected! (we had heard horror stories.) I definitely would recommend it to engaged couples!

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    manatee 31 posts, Newbee @ 8:49 am

    @Mrs. Sand Dollar: Wow! Small world indeed! We really did love it, and we’ve already used some of it in arguments discussions since!

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 12:11 pm

    Pittsburgh also offers this! It’s called TWOgether Pittsburgh and they offer various programs, one for couples preparing for marriage, for blended families, for singles, etc. – much like you said. I’m so glad you posted about this!

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    sarahblais 120 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:50 pm

    This sounds great! I wonder if there is something similar in my area…

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    dlbaqua 837 posts, Busy bee @ 11:53 am

    Thanks for the review. We’re going to do the online version of this class (I can’t believe he agreed to do it!)

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