Bridesmaid Barbie

When I first got engaged and asked my favorite ladies to be my bridesmaids, the first question they asked was, “Are we going to have to wear bright-colored 80’s dresses?”

If someone was to try and describe my sense of style, the words “understated,” “neutrals,” and “romantic” would most definitely not be used. I love bright, vibrant colors. I like polka dots and bold stripes. Glitter is my best friend.

And I see no reason for my wedding to be any different!

BUT, I have to remind myself that my bridesmaids are not dolls that I get to play with and dress however I like. If they were, they would totally be wearing colored tights or colored petticoats, because I think those things are awesome. They would look exactly like this:

Image via John and Jen Photography


Aaaaaah! Isn’t it amazing? I want every single dress in that picture!

But as much as I love this look, I’m not going to have my bridesmaids wear dresses like these. Why not? Maybe I’m weird (okay, I know I am, but that’s beside the point), but when I’m with my bridesmaids at my wedding, I will be looking at my four best friends in the whole world. And I want them to look like themselves, not some weird version of themselves that’s kind of like me. So even if these dresses would fit perfectly with my personality and my wedding “theme,” I feel like I wouldn’t recognize my bridesmaids if they wore dresses like this.

Anyone have any similar situations with their bridesmaids? Do you think I should have them wear my style of dresses anyway??


Mrs. Blue Whale

College Park, MD
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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    Mrs. Bracelet 279 posts, Helper bee @ 6:55 am

    Haha, I think your common sense is telling you to do the right thing. 😉

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    dcgirl655, Guest @ 7:07 am

    I have actually said to people that my bridesmaids are not dolls I get to dress up. Great minds! I’m sure whatever you pick will be gorgeous.

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    Highness 82 posts, Worker bee @ 7:14 am

    I’m love those dresses too! That would be such fun but I agree that it might be too much to look at up on the alter. Can’t wait to see what you choose.

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    graywolf 725 posts, Busy bee @ 7:18 am

    i chose long dresses because i liked it, but definitely tried to pick something sort of neutral when it came to style. im sure you’ll pick something that is a nice middle ground!

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    debeachgirl 543 posts, Busy bee @ 7:24 am

    I too love love love bright color. I get annoyed when people have bland boring registries. However I am going for white, navy and pewter for my wedding colors, which is so not typically my style. Again I think putting people in bright orange my favorite (which clearly would not look good on everyone) or sticking to my usual color vomit trend wouldn’t be very nice. So neutral it shall be and oddly I am very okay and happy about it. Oh and I only went with long dresses b/c it winter and I thought they may appreciate having their legs cover and not having to worry about the winter pastiness.

    But I do love the look of those dresses!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 7:25 am

    I love these dresses, but I totally understand not wanting to force your style on your girls if it wouldn’t fit their personalities. I’m excited to see what you choose for your bridesmaids!

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    GFerg 4071 posts, Honey bee @ 7:29 am

    I actually quite love a bright colored dress with a bright petticoat…though not all of these colors at once. I’d pick one and rock it out!

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 8:10 am

    I felt really weird dressing up other people so I let my ladies choose their own outfits. If you’re willing to compromise all together, though, I think everyone can be happy!

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    castle 1191 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:24 am

    I made my bridesmaid wear bright orange! Lol but they did have a say in the dress style/designer/etc. I think a couple of them weren’t too excited to wear an orange dress, but they all ended up loving them!

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 11:35 am

    @dcgirl655: Yeah! Way to be smart! :)

    @DEBeachGirl: I think those colors sound beautiful for a winter wedding. If I was getting married in winter, I think I would focus on silver glitter… I can’t contain myself :)

    @Mrs. Castle: You’re brave! I had to go find pics of your bridesmaids to see. It is a pretty intense orange, but it looks great against the green of your venue. Also, I have to say that I LOVE your bouquet. That’s probably the most beautiful orange I’ve ever seen.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:29 pm

    I like the bright colored dresses but I wouldn’t put my BMs in that because my OCD needs some kind of matchiness.

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    RapunzelRapunzel 812 posts, Busy bee @ 12:52 pm

    So I LOVE those bright dresses (my ‘maids are all wearing mismatched brightly colored dresses) and think my girls would love them too, but I can totally understand that if your girls wouldn’t like them it wouldn’t make sense to have them wear them. Can’t wait to see what you did choose!!

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 6:37 pm

    I feel like you could still pick one or two great bright colors…that way it’d be cohesive but still you too!

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