I’m So Honored…To Share This Update and Talk About Our Wedding Colors

First off, thanks for all the advice and comments. When I wrote about my awesome honor attendants here, you were all very helpful as usual! The general consensus was to avoid asking H Bomb and C Fri to order anything specific and that maybe eggplant and chocolate brown wouldn’t look so good together. Insert Miss Sword’s sad face here.


(Please note, this photo was not taken recently, but a few years ago when a very over-tired and over-emotional Miss Sword was traveling from the UK back to America.)

But I didn’t stay sad for long!! I rallied and talked to my girls and came up with a totally new plan!

And real quick, it’s worth noting that all of the men will be wearing different kilts. Instead of mismatched girls, I’ll have mismatched guys, and I guess that’s why I’m leaning so heavily towards having the bridesmaids and honor attendants be as uniform as possible.

I’ve known all along the honor attendants should be in a dark color, I just had chosen the wrong dark color. Why hadn’t it hit me before? The honor attendants should wear black!

Yes, black. At a wedding.

Here’s why: All of the groomsman will be wearing kilts with black jackets, bow-ties, and shoes. The ushers will be black suits and dress. Plus, everyone can re-wear a LBD, right? Plus, I think black, eggplant, and ivory will look wonderful together!

I remember awhile ago someone commented on a post of mine saying they were curious to see how brown and black would mix together at our wedding. Umm, SO AM I!! Haha!

I finally made a color board of our wedding colors, thanks to the guidance of Mrs. Wizard and the newly married Mrs. Wallaby. I’m pretty terrible at this sort of thing, and it took me longer to make than I’m willing to admit, so please be kind. As I look at all the colors together, I’m worried they don’t look as good as they did when they were still in my head. Does anyone else feel this way about their colors?


colors via Design Seeds/ edited by Miss Sword

Tell me, does this scream dark, dramatic, elegant, and romantic to you? Does it make you think of running through the Highlands in Scotland? Does it remind you of your favorite fairy tale? Are you turning your head wistfully right now yearning for your love?

Yea, whatever. CLEARLY, you all lack imagination. :)

For the sake of my sanity, let’s recap each color choice and it’s appearances at the wedding.

Black: parts of the groom and groomsmen’s attire, ushers attire, honor attendant attire, frames and signage/decor

Ivory: bride’s dress, flower girl dress, some flowers, some decor, tablecloths

Forest Green: ivy in the centerpieces, parts of the bouquets, the plants in the atrium space, leprauchauns, some of the groomsmen’s kilts

Chocolate brown (kinda wishing I started calling this is espresso from the beginning): napkins, most of the centerpieces, the wooden castle (oops haven’t mentioned that yet!), one handfasting cord

Eggplant: bridesmaid attire, flowers, lighting, and one handfasting cord

There is one item that includes ALL of these colors, and it’s the kilt of course!


Sword family tartan/ image created at Scotweb

At the wedding, I encourage all of our guests to find a piece of the tartan fabric and stare at it closely, very closely, to see all of our wedding colors blending nicely together, because who the hell knows how the rest of the room is going to look!

(all photos personal unless otherwise noted)

I know Miss Panda shared her fears that her wedding day won’t be as magical or as put together as she hopes. Do you wonder how your wedding will look when everything’s all said and done?

What do you think of my honor attendants wearing black?


Mrs. Sword

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March 2013
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    Kyann, Guest @ 11:37 am

    Umm…I was totally with you there, running through a field of heather in the Scottish highlands, yearning wistfully for my love while a herd of deer graze nearby.

    But I have an overactive imagination, so…

    I think those colors are going to be beautiful together.You could aways add a sash in one of your colors to your honor attendants, too (ooh…eggplant sashes and black dresses!). In the end though, it’s going to be lovely.

    And you’re doing a handfasting! I’m so excited. We’re doing one too. :)

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    scottishmrs 3213 posts, Sugar bee @ 11:52 am

    I think black is perfectly fine for weddings and will go well with the bridesmaids’ eggplant gowns. I’d love to see how the black in your wedding works out!
    My wedding colours were black and red with pure white accents. I think they looked great! My husband wore his kilt and had his black jacket etc and the groomsmen wore black suits with red vests and tartan ties (I’m not ok with the mismatched tartans the way you are and it was much cheaper to buy them ties than kilts). My bridesmaids’ dresses were knee-length and black from the hem to just below the bus then red from there up; I also had them wear whatever black heels they wanted. I’m actually surprised I never got any comments about the black attire, but I guess we had enough other non-traditional things that people just didn’t say anything (at least not to me or the hubs). We also did black tableclothes at the reception with red napkins and white dishes.

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    honey 1684 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:55 am

    I think it is elegant, dramatic and romantic all tied together with a beautiful kilt :) It will look great!!!

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 12:34 pm

    It looks quite elegant to me, too! I think it will go together very well.

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    RapunzelRapunzel 812 posts, Busy bee @ 12:50 pm

    I LOVE your colors together. I really do think it has that elegant, dramatic, “dark Scottish fairytale” look and I LOVE that the colors in the kilt are all of your theme colors!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 5:04 pm

    I think this will look perfect, your colors look great together!

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 6:56 pm

    Black is the perfect addition!

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:57 am

    thanks everyone!! :) Also, how awkward is it that my color board is vertical and most people’s are horizontal? FAIL.

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:12 pm

    @ScottishMrs: So, I wanted to say, I’m actually kind of scared about the mismatching tartans! Most of the weddings I’ve seen with kilts have the guys in matching tartans. We’ll see what happens, my main goal was to be flexible and allow the guys to wear their family tartan so we’ll see how it goes!
    @Kyann: haha, glad you were right there with me! And yay for a handfasting!

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    graywolf 725 posts, Busy bee @ 6:54 pm

    i think they look great together – try putting your color board right next to the image of your tartan…that way you’ll see them pulled out of the pattern even more. i feel the same way about my colors sometimes – it helped me to make a mood board with pictures next to my colors so i could really see it.

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    MrsCov 50 posts, Worker bee @ 6:04 am

    I think your colours are going to look great – they’re fairytale in a woodland fairy, autumnal, natural way rather than a scary pink princess way, which is excellent!

    Don’t worry about the mismatching kilts – at our wedding we probably had a selection of about a dozen different tartans and it looked just great.

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    Anon, Guest @ 8:58 pm

    Love the colors. Just an idea, but don’t know if its possible for your girls ir you”ll like it, how about the lbd and a tartan sasch? I think it will look lovely.

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:37 am

    @Miss Gray Wolf: Good idea girl!

    @MrsCov: Oh yay, glad it worked out for you!!

    @Anon: You, a tartan sash was our original idea for all the women in the bridal party but we could only afford to order so much of our fabric, so it’s not really an option! I’ll be getting a sash made though. I’m very excited about that!

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