Two Sweethearts, One Table

I know, I know—I’m not clever. At least I try, right!? ;) Today, we’re talking sweetheart tables. Before I talk about the table, though, let me talk more about the decision making process.

Like many bees before me, when I started thinking about all the things you must know before you get married, I thought it would be beneficial for us to read Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. I know how I give love to others, but when it came down to my preference in receiving love, I wasn’t exactly sure how my results would come out. After reading the book and taking the assessment, both Mr. O and I scored the highest in quality time. Given how we enjoy spending our time, the results did make sense…which leads me to table talk.

Given that our preference is spending quality time together, we wanted to ensure that we had moments of our day built in that would give us that quality time—special moments for just the two of us to enjoy without any pressure. Since we’re having a fairly small wedding, we plan to skip the receiving line and visit with our guests after we finish eating. We also considered that if we had a more traditional head table, we would be talking to some of our favorite people, but not necessarily each other.

So, a sweetheart table it will be! Not to mention…I love the look of a sweetheart table in photos!


Image via Style Me Pretty / Photography by Allie Lindsey Photography

This is my standout favorite, I’ve even started looking around for similar letters!


Image via Every Last Detail / Photography by K and K Photography

Another beautiful option, especially if we can’t find any letters we love!

For practical reasons, we’re going to have a four person round rather than a two. This will allow us room to display my bouquet, have our Mr. & Mrs. letters, and ensure that I have plenty of room to not spill on my dress. ;)

What do you think? For married bees that did a sweetheart table, did it work out well for you?


Mrs. Otter

Indianapolis, IN
Wedding Date:
April 2013

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    Mrs. Doily 1718 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:08 pm

    We chose to do the head table, but mostly because the majority of our wedding party was single, so they preferred to sit with us. Plus, it’s the more common thing to do here in my area. Mr. D and I found another way to get our little moments in other ways!

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    Mrs. Scepter 333 posts, Helper bee @ 4:12 pm

    We did a sweetheart table and I am so glad we did. People came up to us throughout our meal, but we still managed to get 10ish minutes by ourselves and it was wonderful!

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    anemonie 1578 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:59 pm

    I’d know those letters anywhere, because we used them for our (almost) sweetheart table the same way! They’re from Pat Catan’s.

    I say almost sweetheart because we seated our MOH and BM with us so they could be seen easily during speeches (and so the photographer could capture photos of them and us during their speeches easily). It was still much more intimate than a full head table, and I’m very glad we did it.

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    Mrs. Camel 703 posts, Busy bee @ 4:59 pm

    Our families are crazy and I hate the fact Mr. C had to sit with the other groomsmen (and not with me) at a recent wedding we attended. I had to sit with some of his distant relatives I didn’t know very well. I really, really hate making small talk so I wish we could have sat together so that he could smooth things over. For those reasons, we definitely want to do a sweetheart table. So you are planning on doing the MR and MRS letters?

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    Mrs. Otter 1321 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:11 pm

    @Mrs. Doily: We actually have a wedding party who are all in serious relationships! (Except my brother, but he’s bringing a family friend as his date.) So that helped us in making the decision to do a sweetheart table – I would feel bad leaving them all alone!

    @Mrs. Scepter: That’s what I’m hoping for! I don’t mind guests coming up to say hello, I’m just happy we’ll get to eat and have a few moments to ourselves before the party starts. :)

    @anemonie: I hadn’t even thought about that! I’m making a note of that now – thank you. :) We’ll probably have them come stand around us, but thank you so so much for pointing that out! And for the letters, since I was looking for them. ;)

    @Miss Camel: I am! And since anemonie pointed out where they were from, I’m planning to get the same ones! That’s something that came up though, we don’t want people to bring dates then not sit with them, but we didn’t want them at the head table soo… best solution for us!

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    Mrs. Pony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 5:24 pm

    We did a sweetheart table, and it was great! I hate when I’m separated from my date at a wedding, so I didn’t want our people to be separated either.

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    Mrs. Toadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 10:45 pm

    I never heard of head tables until the Bee, so every single venue offered a sweetheart table, we have never talked about it, but I’m 99% sure we’re going with a sweetheart.

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    Miss Manatee 31 posts, Newbee @ 11:30 pm

    @Miss Camel: Thats why we want to do a sweetheart table too! I went with Mr. Manatee to a wedding where I didn’t know a soul except his small family. For most of the weekend I wasn’t even sure why I was there, since the bride had the wedding party involved in activities the whole weekend. So by the time the reception started after I’d been wandering around for several hours waiting for FI while they took pictures, I was just fuming to walk in and see a head table.

    So as much as I’d like to ‘exact revenge’ on the bride and put her hubby at her head table, I just cant! We’ll be having a sweetheart table too. Hopefully we’ll be able to have a few seconds to ourselves in an otherwise hectic day!

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    Selaen 64 posts, Worker bee @ 3:02 am

    Oh how I dreamed of having a sweetheart table! But the FI veto’ed… He said it’d be too creepy with everybody staring at us whilst we munch through our tea…

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