After wrapping up our portraits, our guests began arriving quickly. We had a table welcoming them to the ceremony with programs, our guest book, escort cards, and yarmulkes for the men to wear if they wanted to.
A heart theme began to emerge toward the end of my planning process. First in our invitations, then when I found these adorable shoes for our engagementpictures, then finally in my last wedding magazine purchase- Martha Stewart Weddings, Summer 2010- I found this simple escort card project. I ran with it, and even found heart embossed yarmulkes.
I just wish I had a sign inviting all the men to wear one! I thought my side of the family would think it was fun and wear the Jewish tradition, no question—-but it turns out they didn’t know they were allowed to! Lesson for interfaith weddings—communicate everything you can so guests know they can participate.
A line quickly formed and we experienced a bit of a delay…
Eep! I had meant for the guest book and escort cards to be out for cocktail hour, not with the ceremony programs…
But hopefully they were able to relax on the other side of the terrace when they entered the ceremony space…
One more cultural miscommunication: Catholics leave the first two rows open for the bridal party to sit during the ceremony, but we had a mostly Jewish ceremony and our friends remained standing. Bummer for pics like this (and the late-comers standing in the back ). But it was smooth sailing from here.
I probably would have avoided little hiccups like these if I had hired a day of coordinator…or maybe if our site coordinator wasn’t MIA. But fortunately, our DJ/MC helped keep the schedule on track, and once the Rabbi started officiating, he explained the ceremony clearly for our non-Jewish guests.
Did you have a DOC to keep things on track? Interfaith brides: Did you see any cultural differences emerge before the ceremony even started?
Photos by Lorraine Daley Wedding Photography
Previously on the Thimble Recaps:
- Actress & Costume Designer (+ day job)
- Wedding Date:
- October 2010
- The Pearl S. Buck House