Excuse me a moment. hive:
Oh hive, do you remember my dress inspiration?
Alcanar by Pronovias
The thing I LOVED about this dress was the layers and layers of tulle. I dreamed about that flowy tulle.
Well, if you remember, I trusted a local seamstress to make my dress. I saw it evolve through my appointments, pinpointing things I didn’t like, feeling pushy and bratty every time I pointed something or asked her to change something.
Three weeks ago I had a dress fitting. I left Marisol’s shop feeling very sad. I was so sad I didn’t feel like blogging about it. The thing is, I didn’t love my dress. It was nice, it was unfinished but I could tell it was going to be very beautiful, but I didn’t see that sea of tulle I was dreaming about. I didn’t see my dream dress.
Being fair, it was part my fault. I was not specific enough. My seamstress asked specifically if I wanted four layers of tulle and I said yes and didn’t say anything about it in the first appointment. Silly girl, I know, but the thing is I felt bratty and high-maintenance when I pointing at something specific, which is ridiculous since I’m paying for this.
I spent the next two weeks dreading my next appointment, thinking about getting married in a less-than-dreamy dress, and thinking in a decade I wouldn’t look back to my wedding day and think I looked gorgeous.
by Ana Von Rebeur via Lifepulp
How lame is that, hive? I write that now and I feel ridiculous. I liked the dress, why would I have to LOVE it? As Miss Sword said just weeks ago, why do we feel pressured to love our wedding dress? Isn’t it enough that we like it? Isn’t it enough that we think it’s beautiful and we look great on it? And I looked great in it, hive. It gives me a fabulous waistline I didn’t know was possible.
So, after days of pathetic sulking (so pathetic I’m glad I didn’t talk about it with anyone else), I realized it didn’t matter, the dress is beautiful and it looks great on me (you’ll have to take my word for it, or at least play along). Mr. Toadstool won’t care it’s not a flowy ball gown (he doesn’t even know what a ball gown is), and our guests will not know it is not my exact dream dress.
So now my dress is an almost-A-line gown and it’s BEAUTIFUL.
Did you have any dress regret? Did you end up with a dress that was not your “dream dress”?
I love my dress, but I honestly don’t think it has to be a “dream dress” at all: if it looks good on you and you’re happy in it, then get married in it! Honestly, the reason I love my dress so much isn’t so much what it looks like but that my mom made it for me and I know it was made with love–seriously, it could have been any dress she made and I probably would still be excited to wear it!
From the picture you showed, your dress looks beautiful too, and even though it wasn’t what you originally intended I’m so glad you’re happy with it!
I think your dress looks beautiful! To other brides who feel dress regret, I completely understand!
I purchased the 2009 Demetrios Ilissa #973 gown for $2100 tax included and then completely fell out of love with the whole shape and style of it, but today I decided I was going to be selfish and go to a Maggie Sottero 2013 collection trunk show, and I found the dress of my dreams. Both my mom and I cried and I knew right away that this was the dress I was meant to be in. I ended up getting %15 off because it was a trunk show and the dress of my dreams only cost me $1524 tax in!!! I could not be any happier and I am trying not to feel too guilty about spending the extra money. Now all I need to do is sell my gorgeous Demetrios Gown to someone who will love it the way it was meant to be loved. I think that it is very important to listen to that little voice in your head when it comes to buying your wedding dress. If it feels wrong, dont buy it…wait a few days and re-evaluate! Don’t waste $2100 like me!!!
Awww cariño, I feel bad you don’t love your dress… I’m not 100% about my dress either. ugh!! Pero en serio, estarás preciosísima y te sentirás tan contenta!
Your dress is beautiful and I hope when you look back on your wedding day you will see it as the masterpiece it is.
When I found my dress it wasn’t at all what I thought I would want – although i loved my dress it wasn’t what I thought I would get to wear on the one in a lifetime day – but I look back at the pictures and think – That is MY Wedding Dress, and I hope one day we will have a kiddo that will want to see the pictures of her mommy’s dress when she married daddy.
I absolutely adore my dress – but we changed locations last minute so now my dress doesn’t exactly match the location. I think I’ll stick with my dress, but maybe not wear a hoop underneath like originally intended and remove one of the more garden-y details so it’s more suitable for our coastal location. Fingers crossed between myself, my Mum, and my MOH we can find a way to make this work!
I certainly like my dress but I’m not sure I love it.
Unfortunately, I found out it only cost $200 while I was standing in the mirror trying it on. I am afraid the price swayed my decision.
It’s ‘Jessie’ by Maggie Sottero, its lovely, but like I said… I’m confused if I love the price or love the dress.
That being said, my mom absolutely adors the dress and she saw me in 20+ dresses before that one. She swears this is the one.
I agree with the girls above, it’s a nice dress, I look pretty in it AND it was a great price and doesn’t need alterations. That’s enough.
Your dress really is beautiful, and it really looks great on your! It’s so hard to ask for what you want, but not come off as demanding. I think it’s best to have someone advocate on your behalf that’s not worried about being labeled a bridezilla or something.
I also think that a wedding dress should be a dress you look good in an like. It’s how we choose every other piece of clothing, so why should it be “I MUST LOVE MY DRESS” when it comes to weddings?
I am very happy with the dress I chose, and would have been just as happy in one or two other contenders.
I can understand your disappointment and how you felt like you were being demanding when pointing out the little things during fittings; it’s how I can feel when put in the same situations. That being said, the dress you’ve shown is absolutely stunning and as long as YOU make IT look good, who minds if its not the original look you wanted? Best part of it? You have a ONE-OF-A-KIND, and that is amazing in itself. 
Myself, I have yet to find a dress and my wedding is June 29. I’ve tried a few on and thought they were pretty but, like you said, I’m just not feeling like its screaming at me saying “BUY ME.” I’m now to the point feeling a little disheartened because everytime I go into a dress shop they’re pressuring my mother and myself that I need to choose the dress I want YESTERDAY because it needs to be ordered and altered, etc. I’m glad you’ve gotten to the point where you’re happy with your dress. I only hope I can get that point as well.
I had serious dress drama with a discontinued dream dress, and ended up with a second choice. Alterations did a lot to help, but up until the day before the wedding I was sitting on preowned wedding dress sites. The day of the wedding, though, I put on my dress, and I couldn’t have been any happier. And I probably would’ve been just as happy in the dream dress, or any other dress that fit for that matter, because I was just happy the day was here.
Your dress is beautiful! Could you add a hoop skirt or petticoats to make the skirt more poofy?
Personally, I love how your dress looks even better than your inspiration picture. You look stunning. Honestly.
Also, your post helped me a lot because I’ve had some dress regret. I keep thinking my dress HAS to be the be all, end all most amazing piece of clothing I’ve ever wore or will ever wear in my whole entire life!!! I mean…how’s that for impossible?
I’m working of feeling free to just love my dress as it is and calm the heck down already.
your dress looks gorgeous. you are going to be one stunning bride!
I have a very love/hate relationship with my dress. When I put it on, I love, love, love it, but when I’m just thinking about it… I’m always wondering if I made the right decision. It usually means I end up trying it on like once a month when pbear is out 
I think your dress is amazing, and i think when you see it after its totally done, you will know its the dress for you
You know if you put a birdcage under that skirt it’ll become a ballgown dress!
If you want it to poof out more something like this could help: http://www.lady-faire.com/civilwar/lace-petticoat-side.jpg
@lealorali: Aww reading it in spanish makes it sound much warmer. Thank you.
@mrshollinger: I understand, prices tends to convince you, but your mom must have a great reason to tell you that is the dress. Either way I’m sure you look gorgeous.
@midnightsbeauty: Yep they tend to be pushy. My strategy was to go by myself and tell them I’d go back with my mom or friends, I’m awful.
@ColoroftheSky: I’m in that stage: Just love it, is your dress, is fantastic. I believe it now
@PlumeriaSplash, Future Army Wife: I’m actually wearing a chrinoline under it (a small one) I might get a bigger one, but I don’t want it to look short.
I think the dress is divine! But you really should be happy with it for wedding day. Why not ask her to add more layers of tulle like the original picture? Tell her she did a fantastic job but you really dreamed of more tulle. I dont think it would be that difficult to add some more to it. And that way it would be more flowy. I think the top is beautiful. It fits you well. And is sparkly. Moderations wont hurt, I asked some of my seamstress last minute and she was happy to do it. You would be surprised at their response, they really do just want the bride to be happy. Good luck!
I think the dress looks fabulous on you! I am having a similar problem with dresses, where I haven’t fallen in love with any thing yet. Too bad my friends and family have fallen in love with one for me- now I am here wondering- it looks good on me, it fits with the venue, I like it, is that good enough?
I like my dress but don’t “love” it. I didn’t want to pay over $2,000 for the one I really loved so found something similar that cost half as much.
Mrs. Toadstool, Obregon, Mexico Age and Occupation: 23, Research Assistant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Sales Manager Engagement Date: October 1, 2011 Wedding Date: December 2012 Venue: Hacienda los Agaves About Me: I’m a born and bred Mexican girl with a severe coffee addiction, an obsession for books and an aversion for exercise. I like to plan things, so this wedding’s my dream project---I just need to remind myself from time to time that I’m the bride and not just the planner. I recently realized brown’s my favorite color as I was trying to incorporate it in every aspect of our wedding and I'm dreaming of an autumn vibe since we don’t have that around here. I’m marrying my best friend and partner in crime on the day of our nine-year anniversary! He’s an awesome, smart, fun guy who is patient, and crazy enough to spend the rest of his life with me. We’re planning our not-so-dreamy dream wedding in December in a non-traditional way and making it our own.
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