Hawkily Ever After: How Sweet It Is

This may sound silly, but the part of the reception that gave me the most pause was the cutting of the cake. No, it had nothing to do with the fact that we had no idea what we were doing or that we hadn’t practiced or even discussed how we would cut it. The concern I felt had everything to do with the dreaded cake smashing.



Mr. Hawk fancies himself quite the jokester. For the entire 14 months of our engagement, he promised that he was going to smear cake and icing all over my face, and I promised that if he did, there would be hell to pay. Thankfully, Mr. Hawk got the message, but the uncertainty in my face says it all.


The “I don’t know what I’m doing” face





The “I’m watching you” face


The “don’t you even think about it” eyes


The “get this icing off my finger” look



No smearing! Success!

I’ve never really understood the whole cake-smashing tradition. After all, who wants to pay hundreds of dollars on hair and makeup to be covered in icing?

What’s your take on cake smashing?

All photos by Valerie Demo Photography


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    kelannadc 339 posts, Helper bee @ 12:48 pm

    I’m glad he didn’t smash it. I’ve never quite understood that tradition. You get dressed up, declare your love for each other, and then erase all of the painstaking make-up/hair etc.

    I told my wife that if she even thought about it, the reception would come to a screeching halt. LOL

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    pokerbunny 1 posts, Wannabee @ 12:50 pm

    Wow your cake looks GORGEOUS! Who was your vendor? :)

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    RapunzelRapunzel 812 posts, Busy bee @ 1:02 pm

    Oh my goodness, your cake and cupcakes are both absolutely stunning! And I’m totally agree with you on the face-smashing: we’re already agreed not to do it!

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 1:30 pm

    Mr. Whale has been WARNED. I will not have cake smashed on my face under any circumstances. Because once you wipe off the icing, your make-up comes off right along with it!

    Glad to know there are men out there who will follow the rules! :) Also, that first pic of you all is so cute!

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    dcgirl655, Guest @ 1:49 pm

    I am obsessed with your cake! That is exactly what I want!! Gorgeous!

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    pinkmoon 10748 posts, Sugar Beekeeper @ 2:16 pm

    Gorgeous cake and stand! Oh and there will be no smashing! I’s kill him haha.

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    HeathenSwan 779 posts, Busy bee @ 2:32 pm

    My brother and his ex did it, but they had a casual reception (as in wearing “bride” and “groom” t-shirts with jeans at the dinner). The funniest part was my poor niece who was three at the time. She was sitting there, eating her cupcake, and the food fight broke out right above her. She looked up at them, rolled her eyes with the best “ugh!” face I’ve ever seen and continued eating her cupcake.

    When I took her into the bathroom to clean the mess out of her hair, she looks at me and says “And they get mad at me when I drop food on myself. This is all their fault!”

    I don’t necessarily like it, but I’m sure it’s just for fun when people do it. Though I think both have to be on board with it, otherwise it’s rude.

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    Mrs. Bracelet 279 posts, Helper bee @ 2:38 pm

    I was the same! I told Mr. B that if he wanted to smash cake, he would NOT do it when I’m wearing a dress that cost a pretty penny!

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    emmerbug 68 posts, Worker bee @ 3:09 pm

    Easy way to prevent cake face smashing, use forks to feed each other.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 6:14 pm

    I love the look of your cake! I am very against cake smashing, for many reasons, but mostly because I hate to waste cake :)

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    Red Poppy 31 posts, Newbee @ 6:50 pm

    Gorgeous cake! We weren’t fans of the cake smashing either. Me, because I didn’t want my makeup messed up, and him because he was concerned it would make him break out.

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    missp_bee 176 posts, Blushing bee @ 10:16 pm

    Where on earth did you get your cake/cupcake chandelier? I have been looking high and low like a crazy lady and cannot find one anywhere. We are also doing cupcakes with a small cutting cake and I am in dire need of something that can accomodate both.

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    hawk 1117 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:18 am

    @pokerbunny: We used Pearl’s Cupcake Shoppe in Richmond. They make the BEST cupcakes, hands down.

    @MissP_Bee: We actually rented them from our cupcake vendor. I’m not sure where sure purchased them, but they are very helpful at the shop. I’m sure you could Pearl’s and they would let you know where they were purchased. Good luck!

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    x0jlynn03 3397 posts, Sugar bee @ 11:52 am

    I told him he can get a little on my face, but he has strict zone he can get it on.. below my eyes and not past my cheeks.. I figure it’s easy enough to dab away frosting from those areas (nose, chin etc). If it messes up my eye make up or hair I’d kill him though. So as long as he stays in that region, it’s fine.

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    camel 703 posts, Busy bee @ 1:16 pm

    Wow GORGEOUS! I love everything about these photos.

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