(…or guy friend, but I just had to give Robyn a shout out!)
This might go without saying, but being engaged has been a really romantic time for Wolfman and me. While sometimes we can lose the forest for the logistical planning trees, for the most part we’ve been able to enjoy the time and really start to look ahead to our future.
But, another relationship that has been strengthened is that between my friends and I. Not just in practical ways—helping out with some DIY, letting me borrow materials—but in the “OMG we are becoming real adults together” way.
Pals after the DC Color Run!
I don’t know about you all, but it’s really been during this wedding planning process that I’m realizing that my friendships are maturing into the makings of lifelong relationships. You grow up talking about getting married, having kids, buying homes—it’s been so exciting to actually see these things come to fruition and realize that these friends you’ve made along the way are here for it all.
At BM G’s bridal shower.
I recently re-read this article from Rumpus about the power of female friendships (which is amazing, BTW), and the gist is that the relationships we have with our friends can be just as emotionally powerful as those we share with our spouses. I wholeheartedly agree with this sentiment. I have often thought that my relationship with Wolfman is actually enhanced by the close relationships I have with my friends—and I think the relationship I have with my friends contributes to my closeness with Wolfman. You so often hear horror stories about wedding planning bringing out the worst in people (watch any episode of Say Yes to the Dress: Bridesmaids!), but I’ve really had the complete opposite experience and for that I’m incredibly grateful.
MOH K’s bachelorette party.
I’m curious to see if this is a common feeling. How did planning a wedding change—or not change—your friendships? What role do your friendships play in your relationship with your significant others—or do they not? What do you think of the Rumpus article?
All photos personal.