The PWC (Post-Wedding Chop)

I was a bad bride. I didn’t work on any of the projects on our DIY list for several weeks. Instead, I was:

  1. Going on fun dates with Mr. Wallaby.
  2. Watching a lot of Shark Tank, a show I recently discovered and now am clearly addicted to.
  3. Cooking way-too-complicated meals that make too many portions. So.much.leftovers.
  4. Organizing Mr. W’s kitchen and bedroom closet, to make way for my things when I moved in the week of the wedding.

Mr. W and I reached a point where we were just ready to get married. All of our vendors were booked, the invitations had been sent, I’d made the favors, I’d collected a mountain of vases for our centerpieces and vintage postcards for our guestbook, my dress was getting its final alterations…we’d been busy as bees!

With the wedding date on the horizon, my thoughts were more centered around post-wedding life. And every time I logged into Pinterest, I started to get hair envy. I’d been growing out my hair since we got engaged in January. I got it trimmed every few months, but other than that, I’d just left it to grow grow grow. My hair doesn’t hold a curl, and I wanted to have it out of the way on our wedding day, so I definitely needed it to be long enough for an updo the day of our wedding. Here’s my hair as of March; it’s grown maybe three inches since our engagement session:


My long, frizzy hair at our engagement session / Photo by Mustard Seed Photography


My hair from the front / Photo by Mustard Seed Photography

I didn’t want to make any major changes before the wedding. I’ve gone short with an inverted bob cut several times since high school, but as an adult my hair has always been long and my natural shade of mousey blonde. If I made any dramatic changes, I don’t think half my relatives would recognize me at the wedding after the six-ish years that have passed since the last family gathering.

Post-wedding, however, all bets are off. I’d like to do something different with my boring old hair to mark the next phase of my life. I’ve thought about trimming it a few inches for a subtly different look:


Elizabeth Olsen’s demure look / Photo via Posh24

But I am getting warmer to the idea of dying my hair instead. I’ve never dyed it, other than going to the salon for partial highlights. It would be really fun to change my whole look. And I’ve had a long-time girl crush on Zooey Deschanel:


Ugh so pretty / Photo via Fanpop

And so, bees, unless someone talks me down, I have an appointment scheduled at my salon the weekend after we return from our honeymoon. I’m going for a trim, bangs, and a full-on dye job. And I can’t wait.

Are you waiting until after your wedding to change your look? Am I 100% crazy for making a drastic change to my hair right after we got married?


Mrs. Wallaby

Wedding Date:
November 2012
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  1. buffalo Member
    buffalo 178 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:12 pm

    Definitely not! I’m DYING to cut my hair! I just continuously don’t make the time for it!

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    camel 703 posts, Busy bee @ 3:18 pm

    First, I LOVE Shark Tank. I show clips of that show to my students often (I teach economics and history) and they get so into it! It’s great to use as an example of investments, risk vs. return, and entrepreneurship. Plus the cost of labor, manufacturing, profit — tons of economics!

    And you are quite brave about changing your look! I am scared to cut my hair because I kept it short in my early 20’s and started to regret it and it took years to grow it back out again to a length that I like. But I know the feeling of wanting a changing — a fresh new look. A lot of my friends have gotten married, had a kid (or two), turned 30 and BAM – mom cut. The dreaded mom cut. Not I!

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    HayleyJane 361 posts, Helper bee @ 3:28 pm

    Other than the hair color change, the cut doesn’t seem that drastic to me. Then again, I cut off all of my hair and got a pixie cut after my wedding. I don’t regret it one bit!

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    Mrs. Bracelet 279 posts, Helper bee @ 3:44 pm

    Oh wow… this will be interesting to see how it turns out! I hope you’ll love your new hair.

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    emma20130601 341 posts, Helper bee @ 3:45 pm

    I LOVE changing my hair! However, like you, I’ve been letting it grow out for the wedding! It’s at a really horrible length at the moment – just above shoulder but below chin where it’s really hard to do anything nice with! I can’t wait for PWC! I would say go for something drastic if you feel like it! :) It’s always fun to have something different!

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    ecjohnson 157 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:24 pm

    i get bored with my hair so easily so i understand your need for change! i say go for it…it’s just hair and it grows back and you can always dye it back if needed!

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    LaughLines 346 posts, Helper bee @ 4:33 pm

    Go for it – the great thing about hair is you can always change the color (again) and, it will grow back (or you can cut more off)!

    Love Shark Tank, too! I could claim that I’m out every Friday night and have to record it, but, nope, sometimes I’m right there as it comes on – fun way to end the week!

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    BookishBelle 1629 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:37 pm

    I can’t cut my hair drastically because it takes FOREVER to grow and if I hate the cut, I don’t want to be stuck with it a year or more (seriously how long it will take to grow out). In high school I dyed it constantly for change though. I stopped 3-4 years ago to let it get healthier, but have a serious itch to randomly go platinum blonde for the first time post-wedding….

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 5:44 pm

    What a fun change, I can’t wait to see what it looks like! It took me a long time, but I finally cut my hair shorter than I ever have and it felt great!

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:41 pm

    Oooh I can’t wait to see! I’m contemplating cutting mine short, but I kind of like it longer now that it’s getting colder.

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    jadealexaellis 170 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:12 pm

    A change is always good! I am also waiting until after my wedding to go short and blonde. For our wedding my hair will be (hopefully) long-ish and brown. I just feel like it’s best to look like “myself” for our wedding photos and such. But I can’t wait to change it up after :)

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 7:36 am

    My hair is super long (mid back or longer) and I’ve never had a drastic cut or highlights or color. I think it’d be fun to do something totally different too!

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 11:02 am

    As someone who has had MULTIPLE shades and lengths of hair, I am in full support of the post-wedding change. Nothing is permanent, so even if you hate it, you can grow it back, dye it again, etc. I totally think you should do it!

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    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:36 pm

    Change is good!! Plus, right after the wedding is the *perfect* time for it – you’ve been planning and planning for months.. time to let loose! Can’t wait to eventually see what it looks like!

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    charleenbarila 24 posts, Newbee @ 12:22 pm

    I started growing my hair out right after we got engaged so by the time the wedding came around, I was SO ready to chop it off. It was out of control and just heavy (I have really thick wavy hair). So I went to my salon the morning we were leaving for the honeymoon and cut off about 3-1/2 inches and added some layers. It felt amazing! So liberating! And I knew I wouldn’t have to fuss with it on the honeymoon, which made it that much more enjoyable.

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