Should We Get a Videographer?

I’ve discovered that my preferences and priorities have evolved as wedding planned has progressed. One example of this change has been my preference for whether or not to have a videographer.

In the initial stages of planning, I just didn’t really care too much about having a videographer. I wanted to have someone record the ceremony, but other than that, I didn’t care too much. Mr. Whale also had zero interest in hiring a videographer (but then again, he hates photos and has an incredible memory, so he doesn’t need anyone to remind him of what happened).

I’ll cut to the chase. I changed my mind. We decided to hire a videographer. So what made us realize a videographer was so important that we were willing to shell out another $1,000 or so?

Number one reason: I don’t really anticipate another opportunity to capture my family and friends interacting with me and with each other. I’m that person who has about 15 voice mails saved on their phone because I want to always be able to hear my family members’ voices. Ideally, I would also like to always be able to see the important people in my life. And while photos are still an excellent medium in which to capture all the important moments at a wedding, they’re not going to get everything.

For example, I love seeing Mr. Whale laugh. To me, there’s nothing better than seeing someone you love being completely happy and carefree. And when he really laughs, it’s a process, not just a single instant. A photo can’t capture that. But a video can.

I also want to capture us having fun with our family and friends. When my mom does her amazing awkward dance, I want to be able to watch it forever. When we have our first dance, I want to be able to see the way Mr. Whale looks at me forever. But it’s not only that I want to capture special moments. I just want to record my favorite people being themselves. And a wedding is a good opportunity to have all those people in the same place at the same time. I’m not looking for a feature film of our wedding. I just want to see my favorite people being happy and having fun.

I know that some people think that a videographer is a wasteful and extravagant expense. But”¦if it means that I can always see my mom talking to me, or always see my grandmother giving me a hug, then I think it’s completely worth it.

For the Blue Whales, there’s another reason that makes a videographer very appealing. As we started planning out what we wanted to have happen at the ceremony and reception, we realized that we want a lot of music. Mr. Whale is planning to play a song for me during the ceremony. We’re going to play a song together during the reception. And a few of our friends may also do a few things. I’m sure that someone will record these events on their phone or something, but when else are we going to have the opportunity for a professional to record us playing music? Probably never.

Ultimately, it’s like killing a bunch of birds with one stone. We get to record the wedding. We get to capture our family and friends on video. And we get a professional video of us making music. That totally seems worth it to me.

So did I convince anyone to get a videographer? I know that it’s not in everyone’s budget, but we were willing to make room.


Mrs. Blue Whale

College Park, MD
Wedding Date:
May 2013
One Month
The Buffalos Roam: Honeymoon in Maui
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    emma20130601 341 posts, Helper bee @ 5:28 am

    I changed my mind about a videographer also. I didn’t think we needed one, but as time went, I thought it would be something really special that we’d be able to have forever. I don’t know if I’ve been able to convince FI yet. At the moment, we plan on asking someone to record the wedding with our camera. As long as we have something though, I’m happy :)

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:38 am

    We also changed our mind about a videographer. We haven’t gotten back the video yet but I am really glad we did – the videographer even stayed until the end of the night so we have a lot of footage on film that occurred after our photographers had left. Woohoo! My advice is to do some research of wedding videos to show your videographer what you want – wedding videos are so diverse that your videographer probably will need some ideas of what YOU like. Good luck!

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    mink 2178 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:55 am

    We changed our mind in the other direction. Originally, I wanted one of those wedding trailers so badly. Over time, I realized I skipped over them more and more when they were posted on blogs.

    Photography is my thing. :)

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    Miss Care Bear 193 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:00 am

    We totally changed our mind too!

    Though I LOVE photography, I realized over time how precious a video would be. It will be so comforting looking back at videos of my loved ones after they’re gone.

    Plus, I can imagine watching the video every year on our anniversary, and one day showing it to our kids! And also being reminded of how we felt and how in love we were, especially when there are hard times!

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    castle 1191 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:41 am

    We were not going to have one and changed our mind at the last minute. I couldn’t be happier with our decision. I love our video. It captures the day in a completely different way.

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    PolkaDotLaceBride 116 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:07 am

    this post comes at the perfect time for me. Just yesterday, I started to feel that maybe my mind was changing… maybe I DID want a videographer. FI is saying “no way” to the expense, but he said that to a professional photographer, too (!), and later came around. I don’t know. It’s a huge expense ($1500-3000) from what I’ve found so far. It’s not a priority, but I would LOVE to have one. I think maybe it’s too much money to try to “convince” FI over. Maybe this is one of those give and take marriage things? I got the professional photog, maybe I leave this one lie?

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    anemonie 1578 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:20 am

    Our friendor photographer offered to have her boyfriend do the videography for us. I am SO glad she did because I love having our wedding video to watch and relive the day. You’re right that it’s just not the same as pictures.

    Also, having someone with the right equipment and professional editing skills is important. Though we didn’t get one of those in vogue trailers, the video is all edited very well. You can’t always hear us or our officiant in the video my dad shot on his point-and-shoot, but our videographer knew how to set up and also edited the sound so you can hear the whole thing–which is kind of the point!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 7:27 am

    Your reasons for hiring a videographer are perfect and I wish I had considered them more so that we would have had video of our day. I don’t think you’ll miss the $1000 in 10, 20, or 50 years, but you would miss the video.

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    BabyBlueEyes 235 posts, Helper bee @ 8:08 am

    This post make me very sad, because I agree with all of your reasons. From the beginning, in my mind, a videographer was just one of those non-negotiable things that I would have no matter what. But I just wasn’t able to convince my fiancé, or my parents (who are paying for everything). So we won’t have one. And when I read posts like this, it almost makes me want to cry.

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    Whitney818 118 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:19 am

    We are still on the fence. It is a bit out of the budget but I think if it become something we really want there are some other areas I can try to save on. Initially I really wanted one, but a friend told me the last wedding she had been to did videography and it was really intrusive on ceremony, which to me is such a special part. She said there were lots of microphones all around and all sorts of bright lights and it took away from the moment. Has anyone had this experience or should it not be a problem if you find a good videographer?

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:30 am

    From day one Mr. T said he wants a videographer, but we had to wait to make sure we could afford it.

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    shaynapunim 654 posts, Busy bee @ 9:28 am

    Like you, I didn’t originally want a videographer. After seeing my friend’s wedding video, however, I changed my mind. It was, hands down, the best wedding video I have ever seen. I immediately contacted her videographer and booked him for our wedding. FH and I are so excited!! As you said, there’s no better way to capture family and friends on your special day. :)

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    bouchiemuffin, Guest @ 9:33 am

    At the last minute we booked a videographer, best decision we made.

    We splurged on our photographer and had such a high hopes for our photos and lets just say…we both ended up in tears when the photos came back and he missed key moments and key people from our big day. Completely devastated.

    We are SO thankful we booked our videographer, not only is our video AWESOME but we are now able to take stills from raw footage he is providing to us (free of charge since he agrees our photographer must have been on another planet during our wedding) .

    If anyone is contemplating it and thinking its not worth the money – I urge you to just go for it, we are so glad we did.

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    fronkinzankinsbride 46 posts, Newbee @ 10:38 am

    I’ve been on the fence but at the very least you’ve convinced me to save voicemails. 😉

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    genie 723 posts, Busy bee @ 10:39 am

    I really wish I had a booked a videographer. Things that made me not want to were personal space concerns and the money. But while I love our pictures, I don’t remember what was said in our wedding and I really wish I did.

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 11:12 am

    I totally don’t think they’re wasteful! I agree with what @Mrs. Pony said, which also seems to be the sentiment of most Bees and Brides: you’ll only regret NOT doing it.

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    Lone Star, Guest @ 12:12 pm

    I first thought I could save on the videographer. But then, my parents and I decided to get it. And when I realize how I might have missed out, I am just shocked that people seem to think it’s a waste. One of the best wedding decisions I EVER made! I have my grandfather on video dancing with me, and other priceless memories that will be so wonderful 30 years from now. I cannot recommend it enough, brides, even if it’s just the ceremony and an hour of the reception. Never, ever a waste, and if someone thinks it is, it’s just because they didn’t get one.

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 12:42 pm

    @BabyBlueEyes: Oh no! Is there no way that you could save a little money and pay for it yourself? Some people will record the ceremony and an hour or so of the reception for five or six hundred dollars…

    @fronkinzankinsbride: LoL! Nice!

    @bouchiemuffin: Wow. Sounds like you got an awesome videographer! It’s actually pretty amazing how they can get great stills. I’d never even thought of it, but lately I’ve heard of several people getting stills from their video printed out.

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    LK2511 80 posts, Worker bee @ 1:21 pm

    Please get one that does a short high light video! That alone was worth all the money.

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    dancingriss 305 posts, Helper bee @ 3:03 pm

    Like so many of the other posters said…I think you just convinced me to get the videographer. Especially how you talked about your fiance’s laugh, it is important to see the quirks.

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