Should We Get a Videographer?

I’ve discovered that my preferences and priorities have evolved as wedding planned has progressed. One example of this change has been my preference for whether or not to have a videographer.

In the initial stages of planning, I just didn’t really care too much about having a videographer. I wanted to have someone record the ceremony, but other than that, I didn’t care too much. Mr. Whale also had zero interest in hiring a videographer (but then again, he hates photos and has an incredible memory, so he doesn’t need anyone to remind him of what happened).

I’ll cut to the chase. I changed my mind. We decided to hire a videographer. So what made us realize a videographer was so important that we were willing to shell out another $1,000 or so?

Number one reason: I don’t really anticipate another opportunity to capture my family and friends interacting with me and with each other. I’m that person who has about 15 voice mails saved on their phone because I want to always be able to hear my family members’ voices. Ideally, I would also like to always be able to see the important people in my life. And while photos are still an excellent medium in which to capture all the important moments at a wedding, they’re not going to get everything.

For example, I love seeing Mr. Whale laugh. To me, there’s nothing better than seeing someone you love being completely happy and carefree. And when he really laughs, it’s a process, not just a single instant. A photo can’t capture that. But a video can.

I also want to capture us having fun with our family and friends. When my mom does her amazing awkward dance, I want to be able to watch it forever. When we have our first dance, I want to be able to see the way Mr. Whale looks at me forever. But it’s not only that I want to capture special moments. I just want to record my favorite people being themselves. And a wedding is a good opportunity to have all those people in the same place at the same time. I’m not looking for a feature film of our wedding. I just want to see my favorite people being happy and having fun.

I know that some people think that a videographer is a wasteful and extravagant expense. But”¦if it means that I can always see my mom talking to me, or always see my grandmother giving me a hug, then I think it’s completely worth it.

For the Blue Whales, there’s another reason that makes a videographer very appealing. As we started planning out what we wanted to have happen at the ceremony and reception, we realized that we want a lot of music. Mr. Whale is planning to play a song for me during the ceremony. We’re going to play a song together during the reception. And a few of our friends may also do a few things. I’m sure that someone will record these events on their phone or something, but when else are we going to have the opportunity for a professional to record us playing music? Probably never.

Ultimately, it’s like killing a bunch of birds with one stone. We get to record the wedding. We get to capture our family and friends on video. And we get a professional video of us making music. That totally seems worth it to me.

So did I convince anyone to get a videographer? I know that it’s not in everyone’s budget, but we were willing to make room.


Mrs. Blue Whale

College Park, MD
Wedding Date:
May 2013
One Month
The Buffalos Roam: Honeymoon in Maui


  1. mstoadstool Member
    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:30 am

    From day one Mr. T said he wants a videographer, but we had to wait to make sure we could afford it.

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    shaynapunim 654 posts, Busy bee @ 9:28 am

    Like you, I didn’t originally want a videographer. After seeing my friend’s wedding video, however, I changed my mind. It was, hands down, the best wedding video I have ever seen. I immediately contacted her videographer and booked him for our wedding. FH and I are so excited!! As you said, there’s no better way to capture family and friends on your special day. :)

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    bouchiemuffin, Guest @ 9:33 am

    At the last minute we booked a videographer, best decision we made.

    We splurged on our photographer and had such a high hopes for our photos and lets just say…we both ended up in tears when the photos came back and he missed key moments and key people from our big day. Completely devastated.

    We are SO thankful we booked our videographer, not only is our video AWESOME but we are now able to take stills from raw footage he is providing to us (free of charge since he agrees our photographer must have been on another planet during our wedding) .

    If anyone is contemplating it and thinking its not worth the money – I urge you to just go for it, we are so glad we did.

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    fronkinzankinsbride 46 posts, Newbee @ 10:38 am

    I’ve been on the fence but at the very least you’ve convinced me to save voicemails. 😉

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    genie 723 posts, Busy bee @ 10:39 am

    I really wish I had a booked a videographer. Things that made me not want to were personal space concerns and the money. But while I love our pictures, I don’t remember what was said in our wedding and I really wish I did.

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 11:12 am

    I totally don’t think they’re wasteful! I agree with what @Mrs. Pony said, which also seems to be the sentiment of most Bees and Brides: you’ll only regret NOT doing it.

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    Lone Star, Guest @ 12:12 pm

    I first thought I could save on the videographer. But then, my parents and I decided to get it. And when I realize how I might have missed out, I am just shocked that people seem to think it’s a waste. One of the best wedding decisions I EVER made! I have my grandfather on video dancing with me, and other priceless memories that will be so wonderful 30 years from now. I cannot recommend it enough, brides, even if it’s just the ceremony and an hour of the reception. Never, ever a waste, and if someone thinks it is, it’s just because they didn’t get one.

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 12:42 pm

    @BabyBlueEyes: Oh no! Is there no way that you could save a little money and pay for it yourself? Some people will record the ceremony and an hour or so of the reception for five or six hundred dollars…

    @fronkinzankinsbride: LoL! Nice!

    @bouchiemuffin: Wow. Sounds like you got an awesome videographer! It’s actually pretty amazing how they can get great stills. I’d never even thought of it, but lately I’ve heard of several people getting stills from their video printed out.

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    LK2511 80 posts, Worker bee @ 1:21 pm

    Please get one that does a short high light video! That alone was worth all the money.

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    dancingriss 305 posts, Helper bee @ 3:03 pm

    Like so many of the other posters said…I think you just convinced me to get the videographer. Especially how you talked about your fiance’s laugh, it is important to see the quirks.

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