Eighteen Days and Counting

Welp, hive, here we are—18 days from the wedding.

Yesterday I got an email from my church letting me know that our priest has been called into service in Rome for the month of January. He’s calling around to see if there’s someone else available, but do we know any other priests? Huh.

McGlovin was on duty last night, and when he called to talk about wedding plans, he told me that he’s decided, instead of hiring a car to drive us around on our wedding day, we’re just going to ride with his sister and brother-in-law. I’ve always, always wanted a vintage car to drive us, just us, so we could have even a tiny bit of alone time, but now, 18 days before the wedding, we’ve decided to ride with his sister and brother in law. Huh.

We’ve been working with a wine distributor for ages, trying to arrange an order. For some reason he can’t give us a list of what he carries, so we finally just gave him a list of wines we liked—he came back with two options out of the 10 we suggested. It’s a family friend, so of course we can’t use anyone else (who might be more efficient with a better selection). Huh.

So, that’s what’s happening in the life of the Gloves. I realize that in the real world these things are a complete non-issue. I also realize that, in our little wedding world, these things are not a big deal. We’ll still end up married, even if it is by a complete stranger, and even if we don’t have any alone time at all on the day of our wedding, and even if there is a terrible wine selection. It’s just”¦this is totally an “if it rains, it pours” moment, where I thought everything was completely on track and I’m just now, a week before Christmas, realizing that we still have some tiny snags. It’s incredibly lame, and kind of ruining my Christmas spirit.

So, what’s going on in your life, hive? Is anyone else being dragged down by their wedding? Or is everything transpiring in the most awesome way? (I hope you choose the second option. :) )

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Mrs. Gloves

Location:
Columbus, Ohio
Wedding Date:
January 2013
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    Miss Pez 267 posts, Helper bee @ 12:09 pm

    When it rains… it pours! My fiance’ and I broke up on Wednesday. Feels like my world is crashing down. I guess this is what divorce feels like.
    So see…. it can always be worse! I am glad you are still looking at the positive side to your wedding. Even with your little snags about your wedding, at the end of the day in January, you will be walking down the isle to the one you love, drinking cheap terrible wine, and spending every night with your husband. Youl will look back on this day and it’s snag and laugh. Congrats on your wedding in just 18 days!

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    kbiceling 298 posts, Helper bee @ 12:11 pm

    Sending virtual hugs and positive thoughts your way!

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    gloves 190 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:17 pm

    @Miss Pez: I am so, so sorry to hear that!! I am sending virtual hugs your way, for sure :(

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    Merelymere 472 posts, Helper bee @ 12:26 pm

    My fiance’ is in charge of our reception and the “getaway” that night. He still hasn’t booked a place for us to stay the night of the wedding, but he wants to stay at a certain hotel because it has a cool bar and will be good for the after party. He doesn’t seem to understand that I will be up at 5:30 that morning and probably won’t be hip to an after party…with other people, anyway.

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    gloves 190 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:31 pm

    @Merelymere: story. of my life. Good luck :)

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    brooklyn55 743 posts, Busy bee @ 12:54 pm

    I am 3 months and feel like everything is going wrong! But in the grand scheme of life, I have to think we will look back on all this and laugh. I have been doing all the wedding planning myself (its not my fiances thing, which is fine with me because I am a little OCD about things) but I put him in charge of the honeymoon. We decided MONTHS ago where we were going and have all the money sitting in the back, but has he made the reservation NO and now the resort of our choice (at Disney) is booked (our wedding is easter weekend so busy week). I am trying to not strangle him because I know that there are plenty of other nice resorts. I am also stressed because I am way behind on everything. Like, I am getting married March 30th and I haven’t even decided on invitations which I plan to mail out in early/mid February. I also have yet to find a DJ OR go pick out bridesmaid dresses with my girls…. YIKES!

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    JaniceP72 50 posts, Worker bee @ 1:16 pm

    Sorry Miss Pez :’ (

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:23 pm

    Keep your head up, Gloves. Try to build in some alone time at another point in the day, and know that your reception will be a rockin’ party regardless of what kind of wine is served. You have some pretty lucky bee charms to get you through. :-)

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    Miss Care Bear 193 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:25 pm

    I know the feeling, Gloves! We are 6 months out and are trying so hard to meet with different vendors and life keeps interrupting. In the last 2 weeks, I got mugged, my car which has never given me any trouble would not start (twice!), the subway I was on broke down for 2 hours, and I now have a super gross cold sore trying to set up house on my lip :) so smile, it could be worse!

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    JaniceP72 50 posts, Worker bee @ 1:29 pm

    Sorry to hear some of the wind is out of your sails Miss Gloves, especially with only eighteen days to go. It’s hard not to be disappointed when we’ve spent so much time planning one of the most important days of our lives.

    Hang in there! I hope it’s absolutely the best day ever :)

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 1:30 pm

    I know it seems like everything is falling apart right now, but I hope these are your only issues and that everything will be smooth sailing from here on out!

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    anemonie 1578 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:57 pm

    Haha, we just didn’t have room in our heads to deal with the transportation issue. We figured my husband would drive us to the reception venue in his car. It was literally decided after our ceremony that one of the groomsmen would stay with us for photos and drive us back to the hotel, “because you shouldn’t have to drive yourself on your own wedding day!” He even carried my bouquet and helped keep the photos nice and lighthearted, plus we had fun listening to 1920s music (Jeepers Creepers) in the car and joking around. We got our “alone moment” after we got to the reception/hotel and went to our room to sign the license.

    A lot of the stuff that you leave semi-planned has a way unfolding on its own just fine. Deep breaths! Don’t forget to enjoy every moment up till you go to sleep on your wedding night…you only get to be engaged or “The Bride” once!

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    Scc6a 961 posts, Busy bee @ 3:29 pm

    Sorry to hear some things haven’t been going as planned, but I’m sure your day will turn out wonderfully! If the car is something you’ve always dreamed of, could you get a car for a small part of the day to minimize cost? My husband and I both drove with bridal party members to our ceremony, we took a vintage car from the ceremony to the reception and took photos with it, then our best man drove us to our hotel at the end of the night. That was actually one of the best parts of the night — the three of us were basically best friends in high school and are still really close so I actually loved that time with just us again, exactly like the beginning of my husband and my relationship :-) Maybe you could do something like that?

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:39 pm

    I’m sorry that things aren’t going according to plan. I know the feeling, that when it seems like stuff is going wrong, everything just keeps coming. I hope everything else goes smoothly from here!

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    forestlady 18 posts, Newbee @ 1:35 am

    I’m so sorry you are having a rough go. Just hope everything else goes well!! :)

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    JaniceP72 50 posts, Worker bee @ 8:32 am

    @Miss Gloves – call me crazy but as I was scrubbing the stove top you popped into my head , I was thinking about this post and wanted to tell you…if you want the car, get the car. If it’s the one detail you’ll look back and wish you’d done the do it!!

    So much of my wedding planning was drama filled with backstabbing women (who are no longer friends) my SIL forcing herself to be in our wedding (I did not ask her) people telling me I must have a shower, which I did and it was lovely. I must have a one-last hooray with the ladies aka a bachelorette party, which I did not and don’t regret.

    My point is I started focusing and wasting energy on things that didn’t matter. Two things I regret; not making a list of must have photos and spending a few extra dollars on a DJ – ours sucked. But all-in-all I married my best friend and it was awesome. There were some key elements which were very much us and that’s what matters.

    Ya got 17 days girlfriend, go find that fancy car!

    Good luck :)

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 11:02 am

    I totally agree with @JaniceP72, Miss Gloves. If you had a vision of a fancy car, GO FOR IT. This is a once-in-a-lifetime thing and if a fancy vintage car is what you want, not to be driven around by your brother and sister in law, then you deserve it.

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    graywolf 725 posts, Busy bee @ 11:58 am

    i feel you, miss G. we’re about 45 days out and getting to the “oh we actually have to execute on this stuff now?”stage…that is really, really, really stressing me out. best of luck to you – just remember you get to totally relax from these wedding issues soon! :)

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