Meeting of the Parents

FH and I have been together for over seven years and have spent a ton of time with each other’s families. In a rare occurrence in this universe, we actually adore each other’s families. I’ve been tagging along for his family’s annual trip to Cancun the past four years (which is actually coming up again soon—yay!!), and he’s been at my family’s annual Christmas party for the past six years. Not to mention the countless trips we take out to Wisconsin to visit his parents and all the time we spend with my parents who only live an hour from us. So when we finally got engaged we knew that the families just HAD to meet. And we wanted them to get to know each other before the wedding.

meet_th

 Image via Free-Extras.com

So this past May, FH’s parents and brother flew in to spend the weekend with my family in NYC. We arranged a whole weekend itinerary, including:

  • The “First Meet” Group Dinner
  • Bridal Dress Shopping for the Ladies
  • Guys’ Day Out/Mets Game (while ladies were shopping)
  • BBQ at My Parents’ House

We were admittedly nervous at first having the families meet. After all, their backgrounds couldn’t be any more different. FH’s parents are second and third generation American—his mom’s background is Norwegian and his dad’s background is Italian. My parents were both born in Haiti and came to the US in their early 20s. FH’s family lives in the suburbs of Wisconsin. My parents and sister live in New York’s most populated borough, Queens. We were worried that they all wouldn’t have anything to talk about considering how different they were. Boy were we wrong!

 victors

This is the restaurant where we had dinner in the city. / Image via NYCGO.com

All eight of us met for dinner at this Cuban restaurant in the city and had a fantastic time. Everyone was laughing, eating, drinking, sharing stories, and just really getting to know each other. Breathing a bit easier, FH and I declared day one a success. The next day, we ladies traveled around the city in style for the bridal-dress appointments, courtesy of FH’s awesome mom who arranged for a car service so we wouldn’t have to worry about taxis/trains. You already know that part of the story, which ends with the ladies giving their full approval on my dream dress and my mom purchasing it for me. I ended up surprising the ladies with spa treatments after our last dress appointment to thank them for spending the day with me. Meanwhile, the guys were having a great time bonding at Citi Field for a Mets game. FH scored some incredible seats, which included a fantastic view and food/beverage service at their seats.

But it was the next day at my parents’ house for a little backyard BBQ that really solidified everyone’s relationship. My parents had given his parents little gifts and opened up a bottle of famous Haitian rum. FMIL watched and learned as my mom cooked up Haitian dishes. The dads were in the backyard with FH and his brother drinking rum and Cokes, grilling meat, and just having a good time. We all had a big dinner outside, and afterward FH and I had to drop off his family back in the city (their flight was the next day) and we needed to head back to our apartment in Connecticut. We were standing by the door and, no joke, the goodbyes and hugs took a good 15 minutes. So much so that we were like “OK, guys. Sorry to interrupt this love fest, but we need to hit the road!”

Since then, the parents text each other and send each other gifts in the mail. It’s too sweet for words, and we are so excited that our families truly enjoyed each other’s company. And the wedding will be that much more awesome because of it. :)

BLOGGER

Mrs. Mongoose

Location:
New Haven, CT
Wedding Date:
May 2013
Add a comment

comments

  1. Member
    farinw 38 posts, Newbee @ 10:10 am

    Very sweet! My (very rural family) came to visit my and my FH in NYC too, in Brooklyn! And had a ton of firsts (subway ride, central park, and slight culture shock etc) but also met his parents for the first time! And my future inlaws are so excited to visit Pennsylvania countryside for our wedding (which will be their first time seeing where I grew up). It definitely adds to the ‘inlaw’ stress when you have them meet the other side of their future family when they come from hugely different backgrounds. My mother has just finally learned how to pronounce his (and my future) last name lol

  2. Member
    Mrs. Squirrel 276 posts, Helper bee @ 10:12 am

    What a great visit! Our family are going to meet for the first time this New Years (eek!) and I hope it goes just as well!!

  3. Member
    brooklyn55 743 posts, Busy bee @ 10:24 am

    I think its so weird how people are so different in there families bonding. My fiance and I are high school sweethearts so our parents live in the same town. While they have obviously met, it has been on rare occasion and they never socialize or anything like that. In fact, the main reason they have even met is like if I have been out shopping with my mom and we run into FI mom and they say “hey, how are you doing” kind of stuff. This may be partially because FI and I are not super close with his family while we are always with mine. Plus our parents could not be more different. But they are friendly and the wedding will be fine, I just assume that our families will kind of stick together and I don’t ever really see “big” family get together where both sides come together. & We are honestly both fine with that.

  4. Member
    Mrs. Beanstalk 770 posts, Busy bee @ 3:26 pm

    Our families met for the first time the weekend of the wedding!! Our rehearsal dinner was a sort of “Welcome” dinner where everyone was invited, which was great because our two families got to finally meet! Our families got along so well, that by the time the wedding came everyone acted like one BIG happy family and everyone was dancing together on the dance floor! It was amazing!

  5. Member
    littlemisshostess 687 posts, Busy bee @ 5:23 pm

    our parents have met (also in NYC! we did a lunch at rosa mexicana and then a trip to union sq and the highline….) however this week his parents will be coming to my parents to celebrate christmas eve! this is going to be a much bigger/longer meeting and with my whole family! (all 22 + of us)

    I am going a little crazy but I know it will work out… I think I am going to need a big glass of wine to start the night

  6. Member
    Mrs. Mongoose 726 posts, Busy bee @ 1:51 pm

    @littlemisshostess: How fun!! I’m sure everyone will have a good time. And yes, starting off the night with a big glass of vino sounds about right to me ;)

  7. Member
    WinteryRose 20 posts, Newbee @ 3:02 pm

    I’ve been looking forward to your posts since you became a blogger. I am a bride with a Haitian background and my groom’s parents are Italians. And we live and we’ll be married in Montreal! :) Your venue was on our shortlist! So many coincidences.
    Our parents had ran into each other on a few occasions but the official introduction happened in May after the engagement. And that was super stressful. But everything went well and we will all be celebrating Christmas together at my FIL’s house on Tuesday.
    Good luck on the planning!

  8. Member
    FutureMrsSpencer 526 posts, Busy bee @ 5:29 am

    That is so awesome that everyone met and got along so well! I love how they are embracing another culture.

    My FMIL finally my father when we had a cookout this past summer. She said “hello” and kept it moving. She barely speaks to me so I didn’t expect too much from her. In a perfect world it would have went better.

  9. Member
    Mrs. Mongoose 726 posts, Busy bee @ 8:32 am

    @WinteryRose: Wow we really do have a lot in common! Congrats on the engagement and upcoming wedding! Which venue did you guys ultimately choose?

  10. Member
    drmrscol 202 posts, Helper bee @ 10:07 am

    I love this story! What a wonderful beginning for a truly joined family! (Although I have to admit I’m a bit jealous…no such love fest with our families, but I’m sure if his parents were still alive, things would be different!)

  11. Member
    Mrs. Gray Wolf 725 posts, Busy bee @ 11:18 am

    that’s AWESOME. it could easily go the other way, but its great that they had a common ground – you two – to work from.

add a comment

Find Amazing Vendors