For some people, you may have had an idea of who would be in your bridal party for some time now. For others, a root canal is probably more pleasant than the thought of deciding who to include as your leading ladies (or men).
“I’m glad he’s single because I’m going to climb that like a tree” — Melissa McCarthy in Bridesmaids / Image via IMDB.com
Then there are some who get so fed up with the whole process of choosing a bridal party that they ultimately decide not to have one. And you know what? That’s totally fine. There are no rules saying you have to have anyone (and there’s no rule saying you can’t have 10 bridesmaids if that’s what you want). Ultimately, you and your fiance need to do what works best for you.
For our wedding party, I decided to have my sister as maid of honor and my six closest friends as bridesmaids. FH has his brother as best man and six of his closest buddies as groomsmen. While I would have loved to include a few more girls (Remember that huge family I told you about? I have A LOT of cousins.), but for us the bridal party would have just been too big. There are also added costs on the bride and groom’s end when you add people to your bridal party (attendant gifts, bouquets, etc.).
There are many factors and reasons as to why people do/do not choose certain people to be in their bridal party, but remember at the end of the day you are not obliged to have anyone in your wedding party just because. The point of a bridal party is to support you through the wedding process and to be your rock the day of the wedding (and provide the booze to calm your nerves!). The best advice I’ve heard regarding who to choose is to think this: When you look at pictures of your bridal party in the future, will you smile at each face staring back at you? Regardless of any petty squabbles that may come up in the months leading up to the wedding, make sure you feel confident enough in your connections with these friends/family members that no matter what, this person will always have your back.
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What criteria did you use to choose your bridal party?
- New Haven, CT
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- Wedding Date:
- May 2013
- Hotel Nelligan in Montreal, CA