The Stuff We’re Skipping: Removing the Garter

OK, you guys. I’m all about traditions—I love them. I love making new ones and having old ones that I can rely on. I love seeing all the different traditions people choose to incorporate into their weddings. But from day one, there was one tradition I knew I would be modifying—the garter toss.

See, I love this part:


Image via / Photo by B.Wright Photography

And I hate this part:


Image via / Photo by Apple Moon Photography

Hate is a strong word. I know. And I know some people LOVE this tradition. Heck, I love this photo—I think it’s hysterical. But the idea of Mr. O with his head up my dress in front of all our family and friends? In front of my father? Let’s be real—HELL. NO. I’m sorry, but just no.

But I love the toss. And I’m tossing flowers. So while we’re not skipping this tradition, we are modifying it. Instead of him removing my garter (and probably making me cry of embarrassment), there will be one wrapped around my toss bouquet, just waiting to be thrown into the crowd. I’ll also be wearing one under my dress. Because, like I said, I love the tradition, just not the removal.

So we’re taking a hard pass* on that one, but still incorporating part of the tradition in our big day. I think that’s a good compromise. :)

What traditions did you choose to skip on your big day? If you did the garter removal, did you have any qualms about it like I do?

*Anybody catch that movie reference!?


Mrs. Otter

Indianapolis, IN
Wedding Date:
April 2013
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  1. Member
    queensp11 244 posts, Helper bee @ 12:13 am

    This is also a tradition I will be skipping. Neither of my brothers needs to see that lol. Not to mention my dad!

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    Katie S., Guest @ 8:22 am

    I’m with you on the garter toss. Not a fan of my future husband under my dress in front of everyone we know. I’ve seen a few posts on Pinterest where the groom takes an extra garter, places it around a football, and throws the football. Some of them had footballs with sayings on it and/or the couples name and wedding date. It’s an interesting alternative.

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    Mrs. Fox 1633 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:35 am

    We skipped both the garter and bouquet toss. 1. I’m too cheap for a toss bouquet and wanted to keep my flowers (selfish? absolutely), and 2. I’ve always hated being forced to catch a bouquet because I was technically “single” (really, just not married yet). And pretty much everyone at our wedding was in a serious relationship if not already married. Plus it took away dancing time. So.. we skipped both!

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    bohosioux 1137 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:14 pm

    I am so glad we are eloping to our honeymoon location and avoiding most of these “traditions”. They mean nothing to me and I absolutely do NOT like the idea of getting wedding guests pumped up about my DH removing my lingerie to then toss to one of our single friends or family members. Now, that is just strange and inappropriate, but then I could be a big old stick in the mud and missing out on a good laugh. Either way, not for me, and the time I saw it done really almost shocked me. The bride was sitting on stage with her dress all the way up and diaper wrapped and the groom pulled it off with his teeth. Wow…not something I will forget any time soon, unfortunately. :|

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    Mrs. Mongoose 726 posts, Busy bee @ 3:04 pm

    We are totally skipping the garter toss as well!

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    kimy 1164 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:09 pm

    Im gonna pass on this tradition LOL….He can retrieve it later on our honeymoon Rarr!

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    azlady, Guest @ 8:15 pm

    My daughter is getting married in April and we decided to skip the tossing the bouquet as well as the garter toss. In my daughter’s and my opinion you get to choose what you want your wedding and reception to be like. You do not have to do anything you do not want.

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    SJM72713 42 posts, Newbee @ 10:26 am

    We are not doing any tossing. I guess I am not very traditional. I just don’t see it as something important and I want as much time as possible for dancing and socializing.

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    Kaitlyn, Guest @ 2:27 pm

    One of my friends had her SO toss a football instead. Worked great!!

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