Our Dirty Little Secret

The first time Mr. Squirrel met my dad, my dad casually asked him how we met. We awkwardly looked at each other and mumbled…”at a bar-type place.” My dad thought we were embarrassed to have met at a bar, so to make us feel better, he replied. “There’s no shame meeting in a bar. I mean…it’s better than having met online.” I could have melted in my seat. You see, bees…

We met online.

Whew.

I mean “technically” we physically met at a bar for the first time, but if we are going to keep it real…we met online. To be fair, this doesn’t bother Mr. Squirrel at all. All his friends and family know. I am the one who likes to keep this fun fact on the DL.

Like I mentioned early on, I had moved to a new city for graduate school and everyone else in my tiny program was also from out of state. Honestly, I was just hoping to meet some people to hang out with so I could get to know the city better.

Mr. Squirrel on the other hand had grown up in Little Rock. He had lots of great friends and knew all the local hangouts. His problem was that most of his friends were already married. Mr. Squirrel was often the third, fifth, or seventh wheel. When he went out with his friends, it was hard to meet people and Mr. Squirrel was ready to find someone.

TA-DA…and so the Squirrel romance began. :)

Not that I’m keeping track or anything, but I am the one who first initiated a conversation online. (He swears he saw my profile and planned to message me that weekend…sure babe.) Anyway, about a week of witty banter ensued where we discussed proper guacamole-making technique and the wonder that is Pixar. Honestly, one of the best things about this awkward beginning is that we have documentation of our first conversations together, and it is really neat to go back and reread them.

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Halloween a few months after meeting—I was the UP House, he was Popeye.

Mr. Squirrel asked me out on the date and it went something exactly like this: “I was thinking we should get together this weekend. Grab a bite to eat, a liquid to drink, a ball to bowl, a movie to watch. You can come up with some too!” I guess he was a little eager to hang out?

We planned for him to call me after work that Friday so we could pick a place to meet. I started to get dressed around four-ish (guess I was eager too!). Then five o’clock rolled around. Then six. And seven. Hmm. Looks like I picked a real winner…

Finally around 7:30, my phone rang. Apparently Mr. Squirrel forgot to mention that he often stayed at work much later than the traditional 5:00 PM. But I didn’t care—I was really jazzed to meet him in person after having such great conversations, so we planned to meet up at a great Mexican place downtown. After hanging up, I proceeded to pull a Laura Linney:

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Image via Sunshine of the Day / From Love Actually

I beat Mr. Squirrel to the restaurant and waited outside the front door. I distinctly remember seeing him walk up with a huge grin on his face. I awkwardly started to shake his hand, but he enveloped me a big hug. Our first words to each other:

Him: Wow, you are even more beautiful in person. [This is fo realz.]

Me: You smell really good.

And the rest is history. :)

Now the world knows. OK, maybe not the world, but somehow I have the feeling this is bound to get back to my father thanks to my sisters who follow my posts on Weddingbee.

Did anyone else try online dating? How did it work for you? Do you keep it quiet as well?

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Mrs. Squirrel

Location:
Tampa, FL
Wedding Date:
May 2013

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    mrshunnibear88 4 posts, Wannabee @ 11:40 am

    I met my sweetie online and had similar experiences as you. It has worked out wonderfully because I met my soulmate but not everyone was as understanding. So we just use the “met through friends” story lol.

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    MrsKeAloha 1044 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:52 am

    We did not meet on line but we “reconnected” after a long absence and we fell in love before our first date. I flew half way around the world for a first kiss and then waited 6 months for another. Emails are what kept us connected.

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    keytabell 17 posts, Newbee @ 1:13 pm

    I met my future husband online also!! After being matched in Dec 2009 it took us two weeks to start communicating and after long emails back and forth and even longer phone conversations we finally met up in April. And in a short amount of time we will be getting married on May 4th!!

    I really liked that we had so much time in between matching and meeting because it gave us a chance to really get to know each other and communicate so by the time we met in person, we were still nervous, but it was a comfortable nervousness if that makes sense.

    Anyways, back to the topic. I told only my sister and best friend that he and I met online in the beginning stages of our relationship. And I only told my best friend, because the guy she was serious with she met online so I did not feel like she would judge me.

    My guy on the other hand told his family and friends that we met online from the start. Only after several months together I told everyone that we met online.

    I am not sure why I was so worried about telling others that we met online. He is such a wonderful guy that I don’t care how we met I am just blessed that we did. Besides he lived 63 miles from me, so without the wonders of the internet we really would not have met.

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    jackibean 1045 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:06 pm

    My fiance and I met on eHarmony. We dated for 3 months, I wasn’t over my ex, so we broke up. A year later, Facebook recommended I be his friend even though we were never friends. I sent him a message to say hi and sorry and when we met again… BAM right back where we left off. The universe had a plan.

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    Future Mrs B, Guest @ 6:31 pm

    My FH and I met online too! We tell my side of the family that we met on a chat site but we actually met on a dating site. My foot wouldn’t think too well of the whole “dating site” thing. I’d never hear the end of it! I’d been split from my son’s dad for a little over 7 mos and was starting to get kinda lonely and missing being with someone. A friend suggested a dating site she met her guy on. I’ve been on a couple of the free sites and some chat sites but never met anyone that lasted long or amounted to anything. So I wasn’t expecting much. My FH messaged me first and he caught my attention by commenting on a pic I’d posted with my good camera. Instead of talking about our would be future together and telling me I’m beautiful and needed him (like most of the other messages I’d received), he talked about normal things and photography. We met up on our first date about a week later and instantly clicked! We’ve been inseparable ever since! Turns out we had a couple mutual friends which was a plus too and he’s from a nearby area. There’s no way we would have met in person tho because our mutual friends have several diff kinds of groups of friends. I’m glad we met and look forward to our future :)

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    Miss Party Cat 109 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:46 pm

    I just love your story! So cute and what a great looking couple!
    We met online as well and ended up going to dinner together because of mutual friends without knowing it. I thought he was really creepy because he gave me a huge hug that lasted too long and said something along the lines of, “I’m sure I’ll be seeing you around more often now.”. When I got home he texted me saying how it was such a coincidence we had the same friends and had dinner together. We are still together 5 years later and plan to get married in Hawaii after we’re done with school.

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    Haley, Guest @ 4:39 am

    We met online too on a dating site, we chatted for months before I found out he lived just down the road from me. When we get asked we tell people we met online, but through Bebo instead of a dating site, and that it was through mutual friends (which which we do have, found out later I used to be friends with 2 of his younger brothers at school, and one of his older brothers worked for my dad!)

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    claire7137 17 posts, Newbee @ 2:58 am

    Well, while I haven’t ever tried online dating myself, a good friend of mine recently got engaged to a boy she met on E-Harmony. Her mother actually signed her up for it because that’s how she met her husband! Now they’re both trying to sign the Grandma up!

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    kimy 1164 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:48 pm

    Such a lovely story and see you are not alone. This is the era of online and people meet that way. I think your story it is incredibly beautiful..x

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    soontobemrsriley 86 posts, Worker bee @ 9:06 pm

    We also met online :)

    I had never messaged (or even responded!) to anyone on that site, but for some reason I saw FI and just sent “hi!”

    I couldn’t even decide if I thought he was cute! And about a day and a half went by and he responded with a full four paragraphs, dissecting my about me completely. haha

    I don’t broadcast it, but I’ve told people if they ask. Mostly because he will if I don’t. It took a full month of him asking before I agreed to meet him, and it was pretty much connected at the hip after that :)

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    SJM72713 42 posts, Newbee @ 10:12 am

    My FI and I met online. I was embarrassed about it at first. I always told people, but would follow with a host of excuses as to why we were doing online dating. I have no idea why I was so embarrassed, no one has ever judged us for it. Now I couldn’t care less about telling people. What we have is special no matter how we met.

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