Groom Style

My email inbox was flooded the past few weeks with emails from The Knot, Martha Stewart Weddings, AND reminding me that 1) I’ve got about five months to go until the big day and 2) It’s time to pick out the men’s formal wear. Now being the obsessive planner that I am, I had already started discussing formal wear with FH over a month ago. When I first brought it up, though, I was very surprised by FH’s response. I had naturally assumed that I’d have a hand in picking what he and the groomsmen would wear. In another wedding-related move that had caught me off guard, not only does FH want to buy his suit and get it custom made, but he also didn’t want me tagging along to the tailor to pick out his suit materials and get fitted. He’s like, “If I can’t see what you’re wearing until the wedding day, then you shouldn’t be able to see what I’m wearing either!” And you know what? I really respect that he’s so keen on doing this himself. I had once again (incorrectly) assumed that this was a detail where he wouldn’t take the initiative.


Five-month reminder email from TheKnot / Image via

FH has a pretty decent sense of style, and even more so when it comes to formal wear, so I wasn’t too freaked out by this. I did, however, share with him some images I pinned on the Pinterest board I created dedicated to all things groom. (I obviously created this well before I was told to butt out.) He checked out some of the styles I found as a reference point, but ultimately he is making his own decisions. Because our wedding is formal and the bridesmaids will be in gowns, the only criteria I asked him to stick to was that his tux and the guys’ tuxes be formal and that the guys integrate teal somehow within their outfits to match the bridesmaids’ dresses (whether that be teal ties and/or teal pocket squares). Here are some of the suits I sent him for inspiration.


Sleek suit / Image via


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Various Bond tuxes. Yum. / Image via


FH actually really likes Mario Lopez’s wedding tux. / Image via

FH’s brother was in town last month, so he took him and another groomsman to the local tailor shop to talk about the tuxes and figure out styles. He has to go back to get measured since his suit will be custom, but he already picked out the suits that the groomsmen will be renting. Also, he’s not a fan of bow ties so I think he’s going the skinny-tie route.

What about your groom? Do you have to dress him up or is he adamant about picking out his own style?


Mrs. Mongoose

New Haven, CT
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May 2013
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    jbarker09 382 posts, Helper bee @ 7:48 am

    I sent my groom very similar pictures and he went himself to pick it out (which was a little scary) but he ended up getting the one I picked out anyway. I haven’t seen it on him and he still has to get it fitted but I agree, I want it to be a surprise for the wedding day! He also doesn’t know what his wedding band looks like, I bought it without him and he wants to wait until the day of the wedding to see it (he did close his eyes though and try it on just to make sure it fit right)

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    faeriegirl05 173 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:03 am

    Sadly, my FH has no style sense. We are both very tee and jeans people. So I did have to help quite a bit. Our wedding is pretty informal, guys are just wearing shirts and ties with black pants. The one thing FH did pick out was the ties. He picked a crazy tie but it is fitting with the FH and his friends style. He is also requesting converse shoes instead of “stuffy” ones which is totally fitting as well

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    veggie_rachel 575 posts, Busy bee @ 8:09 am

    I love the James Bond inspiration! I can’t wait to see what he picks out. I know everyone will look great!

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:22 am

    Lol I hated those emails from The Knot! I was like, “I know it’s getting very late to [x,y,z], leave me alone!”

    I love your inspiration. Especially Daniel Craig in a tux. Yumm.

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    Emily, Guest @ 9:01 am

    How does a custom suit work with the groomsmen? Do they rent similar looking suits/tuxes from like, Mens Warehouse? And how did you go about deciding what a similar but complementary style would be?

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 9:28 am

    @Emily: The groomsmen will actually be renting their suits, not getting them custom made like Mr. Mongoose. The tailor shop that he went to also offered an array of suit/tux rentals for the groomsmen so he just picked out a style for them. BUT the alternate plan if the shop didn’t have a good selection of suits was to go to a Men’s Warehouse. Are you currently figuring styles for your groomsmen?

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    debeachgirl 543 posts, Busy bee @ 11:24 am

    The soon to be Mr. told me the exact same thing yours did. However, when it came time to pick something out he ended up taking me with him. I have no idea what made him change his mind. It might just have been that none of his guys were around to help so the task fell to me.

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    mariewest 304 posts, Helper bee @ 11:24 am

    I always thought that my Groom would wear a black suit, but after I started talking to him about what he would wear I found out he wants to wear a tan suit instead. That’s find, I love it, and I love that he wants a say in the wedding.

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 12:08 pm

    The Knot (& Co.) emails make my heart skip a beat, seriously. I frequently talk to them as I angry-click delete.

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 5:33 pm

    The element of surprise is amazing!

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    camel 703 posts, Busy bee @ 7:08 pm

    Ugh this is something I have been putting off. I have no idea what to do about suits. I don’t even know where to start!

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