I have searched, searched, and searched everywhere for the perfect pair of shoes to go with my amazing dress. I was getting incredibly frustrated because it seemed like the perfect pair of shoes that I had been envisioning in my dreams was not actually a shoe that existed in the real world.
I have bought 10? 20? different pairs of shoes, looking for that illusive perfect shoe, a pretty blue shoe. And I’ve never really found any that I’ve really loved—well, that is, until now, maybe. I think I might have found a shoe that is so close to being perfect, yet so far.
The shoe is very reminiscent of another favorite shoe of mine, Badgley Mischka’s Randee, a gorgeous shoe that never came in blue, unfortunately.
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Image via The Knotty Bride / Photo by Stephanie Williams
What am I talking about? Badgley Mischka’s Cissy.
But this is the selling view:
It’s actually funny. I had seen the shoe in pink in Macy’s a while back and had thought, Oh, if only it came in blue, that would be the perfect shoe. Wandering around the interwebs recently, I stumbled across it in blue. I impulsively bought it thinking, well, I could always return it when it doesn’t look the same way in person.
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The beginning and end of my career as a shoe model
Hive, I think I’m in love. It’s such a pretty, pretty shoe. Yet, I am hesitating, bees, and I need someone to talk some sense into my head. In fact, I put together a pros and cons list.
Pros:
Cons:
So someone talk some sense into me. Should I just bite the bullet on this one? Is it worth it? Should I keep looking? Anyone know how to make them more comfortable or the best way to break them in?
You can buy inserts, specifically made for dress shoes that go on the ball of the foot (often the most painful spot) as well as under the heel strap that will make them more bearable
Also, being that they are your wedding shoes and you have been searching so long and hard….
Splurge!!
KEEP LOOKING. (1) Your dress will hide them (right?) and (2) you’ll be on your feet ALL DAY. You don’t want to go barefoot. I wore Tory Burch flats and my feet still hurt after 9 hours. Just, trust me on this one. You don’t want to be the barefoot bride. Or stop talking to Auntie Sue because you want to sit down.
I bought my pair of Badgleys off eBay for $70 – squee!! Have you checked there? Mine were comfortable, but they may have been broken in my the previous owner. And the Randalls are peep-toe, not sandal, so I can imagine they’re more comfortable than even broken-in Cissies. You’re asking the wrong person, though – I’ll go through a great deal of pain for fabulous shoes 
Oh my gosh I LOVE these shoes!!! they are so fun and girly! I can totally see them with your venue and garden theme! With that said, you don’t want to be uncomfortable all night! Maybe you could use these for the ceremony and then do a shoe change for the reception?
I say send them back. 
You can’t cripple yourself or damage your feet and enjoy your wedding at the same time. I think they’re lovely, but if you don’t feel comfy in them, they’re not it.
Wear them around to break them in, if you had found something else more comfortable you could go with them but I know you haven’t found anything so maybe just use the inserts and break these in
I wore a pair of really pretty, but uncomfortable, shoes for the ceremony/pictures only and then changed to comfy platform flip flops for the reception. I figured, pain for 2-ish hours was okay. however, if you can’t even stand in them for 30mins-1hr (i.e. when you’re saying your vows), then i would definitely buy something else.
Wearing uncomfortable shoes is the WORST.IDEA.EVER.
My dress was 1.5″ “too long” so I ended up having to get a small heel, and I left it until 2 weeks before my wedding. They sucked. I took them off and went barefoot (you couldn’t see my feet anyway).
Does your dress show your feet? If not, take these shoes back! Trust me – if you have uncomfortable shoes, you’re going to be miserable!
Logical me was going to say return them and get something more sensible. Then I looked at the picture again. them for the ceremony and photos, and then get an inexpensive pair of flats for dancing at the reception?
Just throwing it out there…Fabric flowers are pretty simple to make. (you could probably buy some pre-made on etsy)
and they could also pretty easily be attached to a heel that is more confortable. If you check out the DIY section, a lot of bees made gorgeous custom shoes!
They are pretty, but you don’t want to be conscious of your feet all day!
Not trying to talk you out of them, but a while back I ran across this shop on etsy (http://www.etsy.com/shop/DesignYourPedestal) and she has a bunch different styles you can choose from and even add the t-strap flowers you love. Check her out, but be aware they are on the pricey side (I don’t know what your shoe budget is)
Sooooo pretty, but I agree with everyone else…for that price, you should be able to spend the entire night in them! I bought Aerosoles for my wedding shoes, and although they aren’t as stylish as other shoes are, they are SUPER COMFY. Finding a happy medium between style and comfort is so difficult, though! I feel your pain!
I struggled with a similar issue. My wedding was just before the gold shoe trend and there were only like 2 pairs of [reasonably affordable] gold shoes available. So I bought the Badgley Mischka ones. They were gorgeous and are still the most beautiful shoes I’ve ever owned (and, without a doubt, the tallest heel height). I even managed to get them at a steal of $150 (which is still almost triple I’ve ever paid for a pair of shoes, excluding running shoes).
I wanted to wear them SO SO SO bad and wore them for a few minutes around the house every once in a while to convince myself I could, but every time I wore them I had knee pain afterwards and foot pain the whole time. In the end I decided I couldn’t do it and ended up buying a pair of red shoes with a lower heel from David’s Bridal.
I still wish I could’ve worn the beautiful gold shoes, but even with more comfortable shoe my feet were absolutely killing me by the reception (in part due to the fact that we did have a full Catholic ceremony, which involves a lot more time standing than many other types of ceremonies). I even ended up changing into the white bejeweled flip flops my mom had purchased and I’d sworn I’d NOT be wearing.
So, I think my advice would be to wait and find a different pair (but hold on to those if you can so that you’ll have a guarantee of having something you love incase you don’t).
As much as I love those shoes, I think you really, really need to wear shoes that you are comfortable in. Even just wearing uncomfortable shoes for the ceremony would suck – you want to make sure you are focusing on your vows, your soon-to-be-hubs, and the day itself, not how much your feet hurt!!
I wonder if there are other similar shoes that aren’t as strappy…
I’d get rid of them. IMO, you can buy/make something nicer. For a cheap little flower detail, it’s not worth it. Wear something more comfortable.
I bought then returned some gorgeous Badgleys. I’m still sad about it, but I could NOT walk in those things!
I think the majority of people are saying return it, and… I don’t know, I’m fighting it so hard and it’s so illogical of me. I agree though, it will probably be best if they were comfortable. I’ll keep looking and if I find something better, I will definitely change, but I think I’ll keep it around for now.
@MissTexasFire: You sadly might be out voted =(
@Lone Star: Would people change their mind if I said this was for pictures/ceremony only? I do have a pair of flats already that I plan on changing into once the ceremony is done.
@Mrs. Wallaby: They are unfortunately brand new on the market. I haven’t seen it in many stores yet forget on ebay. =(
@christinamarie980: @Tristan: I agree that I could probably make something like this not too difficultly, so I might try that route. I don’t see many tstrap sandals on the market, I might have to wait until closer to spring first.
Why are the pretty ones always uncomfortable? I would keep them (so long as they came with a generous return policy) and use them unless you find something more comfortable. It really will make a difference on your wedding day to be in comfortable shoes, but that doesn’t mean logic will win when it comes to shoes 
Get a t-strap wedg (online or DB), dye them blue, and clip a fabric flower on them. Wedges will be SO much more comfortable and you’ll make them look perfect. Don’t wear shoes that you know hurt!!
I wore a very similar pair of Badgleys for my ceremony, without thinking about how long I would be standing during the ceremony. All I could think about for the last 15 mins of the ceremony was the horrible stabbing pain in my feet! It was seriously horrible. And my feet were so swollen afterwards they wouldn’t fit in any shoes so I had to tear around our fancy reception venue completely barefoot with a too long dress. Ouch! My vote is return them! It’s not worth it, no matter how cute. When I look at pics of the shoes, all I think is OUCH!
Miss Panda, Boston, MA Age and Occupation: 26, Graduate Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 23, Graduate Student Engagement Date: June 27, 2011 Wedding Date: June 2013 About Me: I love window shopping, cute animals, crafting, baking, and most forms of procrastination. I tend to be overly meticulous with choices to a point of complete and total indecision. Mr. PBear and I met and live in the amazing city of Boston. We are big nerds who love trying new foods, playing video games, and cuddling with our adorable hamster. After 5 years together, we are planning an intimate, DIY-heavy, vintage garden themed, nonreligious wedding in the city where we fell in love.
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