Sole Searching: A Hobbling Dilemma

I have searched, searched, and searched everywhere for the perfect pair of shoes to go with my amazing dress. I was getting incredibly frustrated because it seemed like the perfect pair of shoes that I had been envisioning in my dreams was not actually a shoe that existed in the real world.

I have bought 10? 20? different pairs of shoes, looking for that illusive perfect shoe, a pretty blue shoe. And I’ve never really found any that I’ve really loved—well, that is, until now, maybe. I think I might have found a shoe that is so close to being perfect, yet so far.

The shoe is very reminiscent of another favorite shoe of mine, Badgley Mischka’s Randee, a gorgeous shoe that never came in blue, unfortunately.


Image via The Knotty Bride / Photo by Stephanie Williams

What am I talking about? Badgley Mischka’s Cissy.


But this is the selling view:


It’s actually funny. I had seen the shoe in pink in Macy’s a while back and had thought, Oh, if only it came in blue, that would be the perfect shoe. Wandering around the interwebs recently, I stumbled across it in blue. I impulsively bought it thinking, well, I could always return it when it doesn’t look the same way in person.


The beginning and end of my career as a shoe model


Hive, I think I’m in love. It’s such a pretty, pretty shoe. Yet, I am hesitating, bees, and I need someone to talk some sense into my head. In fact, I put together a pros and cons list.


  • The shoes are absolutely gorgeous. I love the color, I love the flower detailing, I love everything about how they look.
  • I have not found a single other shoe that I have loved as much as this one, and I’m afraid I’m running out of time. I just haven’t really seen any other shoes that speak to me like these do.


  • They are insanely uncomfortable.
  • They are insanely expensive (but not completely-out-of-my-budget expensive…just double-what-I’ve-ever-spent-on-a-pair-of-shoes expensive).

So someone talk some sense into me. Should I just bite the bullet on this one? Is it worth it? Should I keep looking? Anyone know how to make them more comfortable or the best way to break them in?


Mrs. Panda

Boston, MA
Wedding Date:
June 2013
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    jm, Guest @ 8:26 pm

    Beautiful shoes! I wouldn’t wear something thats going to make you uncomfortable all day though. What about these?

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    MaggieL 494 posts, Helper bee @ 8:26 pm

    Be comfortably!! My original wedding shoes were even flats- gorgeous Badgley Mischka Dasher flats…I’m still completely in love with them…but I had a second pair of flats because I knew they wouldnt be the most comfortable shoes…so I wore a pair of Toms…and they were the best.

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    GoldenZee 26 posts, Newbee @ 8:34 pm

    Don’t do it. I totally agree that the shoes are gorgeous but if you’re planning on wearing these shoes for several hours and they hurt like all creation, its not worth it. Achy feet may make you cranky, stop you from dancing or visiting with guests. Crappy stuff. I totally think you can find something that’s beautiful and blue AND comfortable. ;-)

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    kbiceling 298 posts, Helper bee @ 9:10 pm

    Think of your poor feet! My friend wore uncomfortable shoes and her feet hurt so much she could barely walk for the two days after the wedding. (That being said, your shoes are GORGEOUS!)

    What about something like these?

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    mecattacow 278 posts, Helper bee @ 2:55 am

    I would buy a pair of comfy, strappy sandels in the colour you like (and then you will find that they are less expensive). And then get some beautiful material to match or at least contrast the shoe colour and make some flowers. There are LOTS of tutorials online and lots of free flower patterns too. The flowers look like they wouldn’t need much hemming so would be nice and easy to make and I would just glue-gun them onto the shoe. If youre not confident with making/ DIY-ing maybe ask a mum, bridesmaid or someone close to you who is more confident/crafty to either make the flowers or just do the whole kit-and-kaboodle. Alternatively, you could as your (or a) seamstress to make you 6 little flowers – show her a pic of the shoes and then you could get her -if she’s not too expensive or do it your self to sew or glue gun to the shoe. It may be that the over-all cost is thee same BUT you will have a shoe which is 1) unique (and you could ask for different embellishments from the person who is making – like if you wanted swarovskis on them or lace or pearls etc.) and 2) more importantly they will be comfortable. I have really bad problems with my feet, negating my being able to buy pretty shoes in a normal shop so I had to go down the DIY route. For my sisters wedding I was nearly sick with the pain in my feet (this sounds extreme but its much like toothache foot pain) and if I were you I wouldn’t want to enter wife-dom with blisters, slashes and bleedy feet. If you’re going straight on honeymoon ramming those babies into shoes to travel won’t be fun and it may ruin your wedding night (sheets rubbing on sore feet) and even the honeymoon after. The shoes, despite this, are absolutely beautiful but I agree with PP in that it will make you miserable. I was so miserable with foot pain at my sisters wedding I got quite (ok VERY) drunk. Good luck!

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:03 am

    I had a dream last night about returning the shoes. I think that might be my subconscious telling me, omg those shoes are the worst! *sigh* back to shoe shopping!

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    lauren, Guest @ 6:50 am

    I say send them back. If they are uncomfortable you will probably only wear them for the getting ready photos and ceremony before taking them off…so maybe 3hrs – tops. Is the cost worth it for 3 hrs (because it doesnt sound like you’ll wear them again)? (I always try to justify purchases by the “cost per wear”.)

    Plus…like other bees mentioned — you want to focus on your hubby to be and your happiness…not your achin feeties! :-)

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    superduperbrit 2466 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:09 am

    They’re pretty but you can find pretty shoes that are comfy too. I wanted something by the same shoemaker but they were pricey and the pair I liked was uncomfy too. I ended up going with beautiful royal blue flats and was happy as a clam. I’m dying to wear them again. So, I say look for something else.

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    mrsromo 498 posts, Helper bee @ 10:46 am

    I say keep them. They’re just what you’ve been looking for!
    But, I regularly suffer for cute shoes.

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    S, Guest @ 2:17 pm

    Don’t do it! I had really comfy shoes and though they were great for the first 5 hours or so, my feet were killing by the end of the night b/c you don’t sit down basically the entire wedding:

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    MacDav 26 posts, Newbee @ 9:19 pm

    Cinderella’s crystal shoes:)lol

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    sarahcool 224 posts, Helper bee @ 10:42 am

    “They are insanely uncomfortable.”

    DO NOT BUY THEM. I wore comfy shoes at my wedding and my feet STILL hurt!!!

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    Msreed2013, Guest @ 12:58 pm

    I am going through same dilemma with badgley mishka. My shoe is Gia. I ended up buying a second shoe to change into but i am gonna suck it up and wear them. They are my wedding vision so i havent seen anything that i liked just as much. I found a few links about breaking in shoes and they have helped. Also try going to a cobbler to see if shoe can be stretched.

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    village_skeptic 1861 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:30 pm

    Don’t do it. You can find some comfortable T-strap sandals in the color you love, and attach fabric flowers. There are a million fabric flower tutorials on the Internet. Save your money and your feet!

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    Mrs. Rubber Stamps 821 posts, Busy bee @ 2:17 pm

    I have to go with the majority here…as pretty as they are, I’d return the shoes. I wore uncomfortable shoes and ended up going barefoot for the reception.

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    Serina T., Guest @ 3:41 pm

    OMG I just bought a pair of Badgley Miskas and am having the same dilemma. I think I’m just going to bite the bullet and get some inserts to make them a little more comfortable. At first I was a little put off by the price as these are by far the most expensive shoes I will ever own but they are for your wedding which will hopefully be once in a lifetime. It helps though if you can justify wearing them again after the wedding. That’s why I decided to go for silver heels instead of blue even though I thought the pop of color would be prettier.

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 12:47 pm

    Girl, I was really about to be the biggest pro-splurge voice ever. I am ALL about splurging for the wedding, because it is only one day and you don’t ever want to regret it. That having been said, if they’re uncomfortable, please please please please don’t do it to yourself. Uncomfortable shoes can really ruin your entire day, demeanor, everything. I vote keep searching (*wince* I’m sorry, Miss Panda, I know that’s not what you want to hear) and if you find some that are a little pricey but COMFORTABLE, then splurge away!

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    kbiceling 298 posts, Helper bee @ 7:38 pm

    @Miss Panda: What if you got these in white and then dyed them?

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