Sole Searching: A Hobbling Dilemma

I have searched, searched, and searched everywhere for the perfect pair of shoes to go with my amazing dress. I was getting incredibly frustrated because it seemed like the perfect pair of shoes that I had been envisioning in my dreams was not actually a shoe that existed in the real world.

I have bought 10? 20? different pairs of shoes, looking for that illusive perfect shoe, a pretty blue shoe. And I’ve never really found any that I’ve really loved—well, that is, until now, maybe. I think I might have found a shoe that is so close to being perfect, yet so far.

The shoe is very reminiscent of another favorite shoe of mine, Badgley Mischka’s Randee, a gorgeous shoe that never came in blue, unfortunately.

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Image via The Knotty Bride / Photo by Stephanie Williams

What am I talking about? Badgley Mischka’s Cissy.

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But this is the selling view:

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It’s actually funny. I had seen the shoe in pink in Macy’s a while back and had thought, Oh, if only it came in blue, that would be the perfect shoe. Wandering around the interwebs recently, I stumbled across it in blue. I impulsively bought it thinking, well, I could always return it when it doesn’t look the same way in person.

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The beginning and end of my career as a shoe model

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Hive, I think I’m in love. It’s such a pretty, pretty shoe. Yet, I am hesitating, bees, and I need someone to talk some sense into my head. In fact, I put together a pros and cons list.

Pros:

  • The shoes are absolutely gorgeous. I love the color, I love the flower detailing, I love everything about how they look.
  • I have not found a single other shoe that I have loved as much as this one, and I’m afraid I’m running out of time. I just haven’t really seen any other shoes that speak to me like these do.

Cons:

  • They are insanely uncomfortable.
  • They are insanely expensive (but not completely-out-of-my-budget expensive…just double-what-I’ve-ever-spent-on-a-pair-of-shoes expensive).

So someone talk some sense into me. Should I just bite the bullet on this one? Is it worth it? Should I keep looking? Anyone know how to make them more comfortable or the best way to break them in?

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Mrs. Panda

Location:
Boston, MA
Wedding Date:
June 2013
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    misstexasfire 257 posts, Helper bee @ 2:06 pm

    You can buy inserts, specifically made for dress shoes that go on the ball of the foot (often the most painful spot) as well as under the heel strap that will make them more bearable

    Also, being that they are your wedding shoes and you have been searching so long and hard….

    Splurge!!

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    Lone Star, Guest @ 2:07 pm

    KEEP LOOKING. (1) Your dress will hide them (right?) and (2) you’ll be on your feet ALL DAY. You don’t want to go barefoot. I wore Tory Burch flats and my feet still hurt after 9 hours. Just, trust me on this one. You don’t want to be the barefoot bride. Or stop talking to Auntie Sue because you want to sit down.

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    mswallaby 2061 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:08 pm

    I bought my pair of Badgleys off eBay for $70 – squee!! Have you checked there? Mine were comfortable, but they may have been broken in my the previous owner. And the Randalls are peep-toe, not sandal, so I can imagine they’re more comfortable than even broken-in Cissies. You’re asking the wrong person, though – I’ll go through a great deal of pain for fabulous shoes ;)

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    beanstalk 770 posts, Busy bee @ 2:11 pm

    Oh my gosh I LOVE these shoes!!! they are so fun and girly! I can totally see them with your venue and garden theme! With that said, you don’t want to be uncomfortable all night! Maybe you could use these for the ceremony and then do a shoe change for the reception?

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    asia 2555 posts, Sugar bee @ 2:11 pm

    I say send them back. :( You can’t cripple yourself or damage your feet and enjoy your wedding at the same time. I think they’re lovely, but if you don’t feel comfy in them, they’re not it.

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    MrsPadlock2B 488 posts, Helper bee @ 2:13 pm

    Wear them around to break them in, if you had found something else more comfortable you could go with them but I know you haven’t found anything so maybe just use the inserts and break these in

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    Karen, Guest @ 2:19 pm

    I wore a pair of really pretty, but uncomfortable, shoes for the ceremony/pictures only and then changed to comfy platform flip flops for the reception. I figured, pain for 2-ish hours was okay. however, if you can’t even stand in them for 30mins-1hr (i.e. when you’re saying your vows), then i would definitely buy something else.

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    eagle 1552 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:22 pm

    Wearing uncomfortable shoes is the WORST.IDEA.EVER.

    My dress was 1.5″ “too long” so I ended up having to get a small heel, and I left it until 2 weeks before my wedding. They sucked. I took them off and went barefoot (you couldn’t see my feet anyway).

    Does your dress show your feet? If not, take these shoes back! Trust me – if you have uncomfortable shoes, you’re going to be miserable!

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    kit_kath 1331 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:27 pm

    Logical me was going to say return them and get something more sensible. Then I looked at the picture again. them for the ceremony and photos, and then get an inexpensive pair of flats for dancing at the reception?

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    christinamarie980 761 posts, Busy bee @ 2:28 pm

    Just throwing it out there…Fabric flowers are pretty simple to make. (you could probably buy some pre-made on etsy)
    and they could also pretty easily be attached to a heel that is more confortable. If you check out the DIY section, a lot of bees made gorgeous custom shoes!

    They are pretty, but you don’t want to be conscious of your feet all day!

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    Anesya 53 posts, Worker bee @ 2:39 pm

    Not trying to talk you out of them, but a while back I ran across this shop on etsy (http://www.etsy.com/shop/DesignYourPedestal) and she has a bunch different styles you can choose from and even add the t-strap flowers you love. Check her out, but be aware they are on the pricey side (I don’t know what your shoe budget is)

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    msarmadillo 497 posts, Helper bee @ 2:41 pm

    Sooooo pretty, but I agree with everyone else…for that price, you should be able to spend the entire night in them! I bought Aerosoles for my wedding shoes, and although they aren’t as stylish as other shoes are, they are SUPER COMFY. Finding a happy medium between style and comfort is so difficult, though! I feel your pain!

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    lisaelanna 528 posts, Busy bee @ 2:45 pm

    I struggled with a similar issue. My wedding was just before the gold shoe trend and there were only like 2 pairs of [reasonably affordable] gold shoes available. So I bought the Badgley Mischka ones. They were gorgeous and are still the most beautiful shoes I’ve ever owned (and, without a doubt, the tallest heel height). I even managed to get them at a steal of $150 (which is still almost triple I’ve ever paid for a pair of shoes, excluding running shoes).

    I wanted to wear them SO SO SO bad and wore them for a few minutes around the house every once in a while to convince myself I could, but every time I wore them I had knee pain afterwards and foot pain the whole time. In the end I decided I couldn’t do it and ended up buying a pair of red shoes with a lower heel from David’s Bridal.

    I still wish I could’ve worn the beautiful gold shoes, but even with more comfortable shoe my feet were absolutely killing me by the reception (in part due to the fact that we did have a full Catholic ceremony, which involves a lot more time standing than many other types of ceremonies). I even ended up changing into the white bejeweled flip flops my mom had purchased and I’d sworn I’d NOT be wearing.

    So, I think my advice would be to wait and find a different pair (but hold on to those if you can so that you’ll have a guarantee of having something you love incase you don’t).

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    candy apple 1877 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:02 pm

    As much as I love those shoes, I think you really, really need to wear shoes that you are comfortable in. Even just wearing uncomfortable shoes for the ceremony would suck – you want to make sure you are focusing on your vows, your soon-to-be-hubs, and the day itself, not how much your feet hurt!!

    I wonder if there are other similar shoes that aren’t as strappy…

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    Tristan, Guest @ 4:49 pm

    I’d get rid of them. IMO, you can buy/make something nicer. For a cheap little flower detail, it’s not worth it. Wear something more comfortable.

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    bluebelle23 854 posts, Busy bee @ 4:54 pm

    I bought then returned some gorgeous Badgleys. I’m still sad about it, but I could NOT walk in those things!

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:19 pm

    I think the majority of people are saying return it, and… I don’t know, I’m fighting it so hard and it’s so illogical of me. I agree though, it will probably be best if they were comfortable. I’ll keep looking and if I find something better, I will definitely change, but I think I’ll keep it around for now.
    @MissTexasFire: You sadly might be out voted =(
    @Lone Star: Would people change their mind if I said this was for pictures/ceremony only? I do have a pair of flats already that I plan on changing into once the ceremony is done.
    @Mrs. Wallaby: They are unfortunately brand new on the market. I haven’t seen it in many stores yet forget on ebay. =(
    @christinamarie980: @Tristan: I agree that I could probably make something like this not too difficultly, so I might try that route. I don’t see many tstrap sandals on the market, I might have to wait until closer to spring first.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 7:22 pm

    Why are the pretty ones always uncomfortable? I would keep them (so long as they came with a generous return policy) and use them unless you find something more comfortable. It really will make a difference on your wedding day to be in comfortable shoes, but that doesn’t mean logic will win when it comes to shoes :)

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    Booradley, Guest @ 7:37 pm

    Get a t-strap wedg (online or DB), dye them blue, and clip a fabric flower on them. Wedges will be SO much more comfortable and you’ll make them look perfect. Don’t wear shoes that you know hurt!!

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    mskeee 732 posts, Busy bee @ 7:54 pm

    I wore a very similar pair of Badgleys for my ceremony, without thinking about how long I would be standing during the ceremony. All I could think about for the last 15 mins of the ceremony was the horrible stabbing pain in my feet! It was seriously horrible. And my feet were so swollen afterwards they wouldn’t fit in any shoes so I had to tear around our fancy reception venue completely barefoot with a too long dress. Ouch! My vote is return them! It’s not worth it, no matter how cute. When I look at pics of the shoes, all I think is OUCH!

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    jm, Guest @ 8:26 pm

    Beautiful shoes! I wouldn’t wear something thats going to make you uncomfortable all day though. What about these? http://www.etsy.com/listing/111405373/satin-and-lace-wedding-shoes-floral

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    MaggieL 494 posts, Helper bee @ 8:26 pm

    Be comfortably!! My original wedding shoes were even flats- gorgeous Badgley Mischka Dasher flats…I’m still completely in love with them…but I had a second pair of flats because I knew they wouldnt be the most comfortable shoes…so I wore a pair of Toms…and they were the best.

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    GoldenZee 26 posts, Newbee @ 8:34 pm

    Don’t do it. I totally agree that the shoes are gorgeous but if you’re planning on wearing these shoes for several hours and they hurt like all creation, its not worth it. Achy feet may make you cranky, stop you from dancing or visiting with guests. Crappy stuff. I totally think you can find something that’s beautiful and blue AND comfortable. ;-)

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    kbiceling 298 posts, Helper bee @ 9:10 pm

    Think of your poor feet! My friend wore uncomfortable shoes and her feet hurt so much she could barely walk for the two days after the wedding. (That being said, your shoes are GORGEOUS!)

    What about something like these?
    http://www.6pm.com/miz-mooz-sailor-cobalt?zfcTest=mat%3A1

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    mecattacow 278 posts, Helper bee @ 2:55 am

    I would buy a pair of comfy, strappy sandels in the colour you like (and then you will find that they are less expensive). And then get some beautiful material to match or at least contrast the shoe colour and make some flowers. There are LOTS of tutorials online and lots of free flower patterns too. The flowers look like they wouldn’t need much hemming so would be nice and easy to make and I would just glue-gun them onto the shoe. If youre not confident with making/ DIY-ing maybe ask a mum, bridesmaid or someone close to you who is more confident/crafty to either make the flowers or just do the whole kit-and-kaboodle. Alternatively, you could as your (or a) seamstress to make you 6 little flowers – show her a pic of the shoes and then you could get her -if she’s not too expensive or do it your self to sew or glue gun to the shoe. It may be that the over-all cost is thee same BUT you will have a shoe which is 1) unique (and you could ask for different embellishments from the person who is making – like if you wanted swarovskis on them or lace or pearls etc.) and 2) more importantly they will be comfortable. I have really bad problems with my feet, negating my being able to buy pretty shoes in a normal shop so I had to go down the DIY route. For my sisters wedding I was nearly sick with the pain in my feet (this sounds extreme but its much like toothache foot pain) and if I were you I wouldn’t want to enter wife-dom with blisters, slashes and bleedy feet. If you’re going straight on honeymoon ramming those babies into shoes to travel won’t be fun and it may ruin your wedding night (sheets rubbing on sore feet) and even the honeymoon after. The shoes, despite this, are absolutely beautiful but I agree with PP in that it will make you miserable. I was so miserable with foot pain at my sisters wedding I got quite (ok VERY) drunk. Good luck!

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:03 am

    I had a dream last night about returning the shoes. I think that might be my subconscious telling me, omg those shoes are the worst! *sigh* back to shoe shopping!

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    lauren, Guest @ 6:50 am

    I say send them back. If they are uncomfortable you will probably only wear them for the getting ready photos and ceremony before taking them off…so maybe 3hrs – tops. Is the cost worth it for 3 hrs (because it doesnt sound like you’ll wear them again)? (I always try to justify purchases by the “cost per wear”.)

    Plus…like other bees mentioned — you want to focus on your hubby to be and your happiness…not your achin feeties! :-)

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    superduperbrit 2466 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:09 am

    They’re pretty but you can find pretty shoes that are comfy too. I wanted something by the same shoemaker but they were pricey and the pair I liked was uncomfy too. I ended up going with beautiful royal blue flats and was happy as a clam. I’m dying to wear them again. So, I say look for something else.

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    mrsromo 498 posts, Helper bee @ 10:46 am

    I say keep them. They’re just what you’ve been looking for!
    But, I regularly suffer for cute shoes.

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    S, Guest @ 2:17 pm

    Don’t do it! I had really comfy shoes and though they were great for the first 5 hours or so, my feet were killing by the end of the night b/c you don’t sit down basically the entire wedding: http://www.zappos.com/nina-culver-azul-satin

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    MacDav 26 posts, Newbee @ 9:19 pm

    Cinderella’s crystal shoes:)lol

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    sarahcool 224 posts, Helper bee @ 10:42 am

    “They are insanely uncomfortable.”

    DO NOT BUY THEM. I wore comfy shoes at my wedding and my feet STILL hurt!!!

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    Msreed2013, Guest @ 12:58 pm

    I am going through same dilemma with badgley mishka. My shoe is Gia. I ended up buying a second shoe to change into but i am gonna suck it up and wear them. They are my wedding vision so i havent seen anything that i liked just as much. I found a few links about breaking in shoes and they have helped. Also try going to a cobbler to see if shoe can be stretched.

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    village_skeptic 1861 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:30 pm

    Don’t do it. You can find some comfortable T-strap sandals in the color you love, and attach fabric flowers. There are a million fabric flower tutorials on the Internet. Save your money and your feet!

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    Mrs. Rubber Stamps 821 posts, Busy bee @ 2:17 pm

    I have to go with the majority here…as pretty as they are, I’d return the shoes. I wore uncomfortable shoes and ended up going barefoot for the reception.

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    Serina T., Guest @ 3:41 pm

    OMG I just bought a pair of Badgley Miskas and am having the same dilemma. I think I’m just going to bite the bullet and get some inserts to make them a little more comfortable. At first I was a little put off by the price as these are by far the most expensive shoes I will ever own but they are for your wedding which will hopefully be once in a lifetime. It helps though if you can justify wearing them again after the wedding. That’s why I decided to go for silver heels instead of blue even though I thought the pop of color would be prettier.

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 12:47 pm

    Girl, I was really about to be the biggest pro-splurge voice ever. I am ALL about splurging for the wedding, because it is only one day and you don’t ever want to regret it. That having been said, if they’re uncomfortable, please please please please don’t do it to yourself. Uncomfortable shoes can really ruin your entire day, demeanor, everything. I vote keep searching (*wince* I’m sorry, Miss Panda, I know that’s not what you want to hear) and if you find some that are a little pricey but COMFORTABLE, then splurge away!

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    kbiceling 298 posts, Helper bee @ 7:38 pm

    @Miss Panda: What if you got these in white and then dyed them?

    http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/unlisted-shoes-go-natural-platform-evening-sandals?ID=659832

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