(Here goes a really awkward and embarrassing post. Especially as I have lots of family who read this blog. Please continue to read my entries after today, I beg. Thank you.)
I want to talk about the wedding night. The ooo la la, after the party ends, sexy post-reception time of the night…
I know this subject can be a bit taboo, especially on public websites, but when we plan our wedding day we tend to think about all the parts of it, even the late night parts.
And my disclaimer is this: Everyone’s situation is different and completely unique to them, but at the top of this blog post it says by Miss Sword, so remember these are my thoughts on the subject and my thoughts only. Let’s dive in, shall we?
While I consider myself to be sexually liberal, when it comes to my wedding night I consider myself to be quite old-fashioned. I believe that it’s important to consummate your marriage, and that’s exactly what we Swords plan on doing. (Yes, we’ve talked about it.)
At the same time I understand that for some couples, wedding night sex just isn’t a priority whether it be because of exhaustion from a long day of hosting, familiarity/years together, or getting a little bit too drunk and passing out before anything can happen. I’m sure it’s different for every couple!
For me, it’s not only about sex, it’s about intimacy. It’s the only first night of marriage we’ll have, and as a true romantic, I can’t help but think it will be an extra special night.
Plus, I don’t know about you, but I’m so excited to dance and party with all of my awesome guests as well as my awesome soon-to-be-husband, so I imagine the amount of quality time Mr. Sword and I will get together during the reception will be pretty limited. I look forward to being alone and relishing in the last few moments of our wedding day together.
photo by Jennifer Jackson
But what about my wacky post title?? Here goes the most embarrassing thing I will put on the internet probably ever. One can only hope.
When we were in MN over my holiday break I was out to dinner with BM L Dawg and this conversation really happened. I swear.
(Wedding chatter that somehow led to this topic)
L Dawg: Are you going to drink on your wedding night?
Miss Sword: Well yea, probably.
L Dawg: Are you sure?
Miss Sword: Why? I’ll just have like one or two drinks.
L Dawg: Do you really want to spend your wedding night in the bathroom?
BAHAHAHA. The funniest part is that she’s not implying I’ll be in the bathroom throwing up due to excessive drinking, but because I’ll have to go, go, go…number two. That’s right. Alcohol makes me have to poop. Like right away. Like a couple of hours or so after I start drinking. Like I can’t sleep because I have to get up every hour to go to the bathroom to either pee or poo. Needless to say, that doesn’t scream sexy times to me or Mr. Sword for that matter!
And yes, I realize everyone needs to get rid of the toxins in their body post drinking, but I’m talking about one or two girly cocktails, not a night of beer and shots! Clearly something is wrong with me. Blame it on years of vomit related anxiety from drinking, a quick digestive system, a nervous tummy, or a slight allergy, but that’s the icky truth.
Mainly, I just want to feel good about myself and I want to wear my wedding night lingerie without feeling bloated or sick. For me, having some uninterrupted private time with Mr. Sword is much more important than getting tipsy. Trust me when I say I’m equally IF NOT MORE fun without booze. Remember my post on drinking? It’s just how I was raised. And while I want everyone else to have fun and get totally hammered if they so choose, I want Mr. Sword and I to remember our Big Day and enjoy it without any fuzziness. (Luckily for Mr. Sword, his tolerance is pretty high.)
Of course I will definitely pose with our signature drinks and have some champagne during the toasts but I’m pretty much set on staying hydrated with water and having the time of my life sans alcohol.
And I look forward to being one of the most loud, obnoxious, and hilarious people at our wedding. Look for me, I’ll be the one hanging on Mr. Sword, drinking diet coke, and flashing my cleavage at all my girlfriends. Mom Sword will be so proud.
How important is wedding night nookie to you? Does anyone else plan on not drinking at their own wedding but still having a rockin’ good time? Tell me I’m not alone!
Me!! FI and I are not drinkers and we decided early on to have a morning wedding, which I think clearly sends the message that there will be no alcohol. We will have sex for the time first time on our wedding night and its reaaaally important to me that we are both very clearly awake and aware of what’s going on, because it is a very special and important night that we have talked about for four years! No alky for us!
I have similar issues as you…. Honestly, I took immodium the morning of the wedding. I didn’t want to worry about anything all day at all!!!!
I should note, it wasn’t only so I could have a drink or two, it was more from worrying about what the excitement/anxiety would do to my stomach!!
That is too funny! We’re planning on keeping it pretty tame as well, someone has to drive the getaway car! And I sure as heck dont want to be a drunken floozy at my wedding!
And yeah, like you and I’m sure many others, I want to be with it enough to know whats going down between the sheets afterwards!
I love champagne and I thought I’d have a few drinks, but we were so damn busy dancing that I didn’t drink anything. All night long. Except for the complimentary glass of champagne back at the hotel afterwards 
Trust me, you’ll have a great time no matter how much you drink or don’t drink.
It’s not just you, I have the same issue with alcohol affecting my stomach. I also have IBS though! I took 2 extra-strength Imodium upon waking on our wedding day, then took another 2 with dinner. After that I alternated between water and champagne, slamming a glass of water before I allowed myself another glass of the plonk. My stomach actually held up surprisingly well, and I barely had a hangover the next day after 5 glasses of booze (usually I’d be curled up in bed for the next 24 hours or hanging out in the bathroom). So….my advice is to take some imodium if it’s a worry (they have an anti-gas, anti-bloat kind), and just make sure for every glass of booze you have that you at least match it with a glass of water. My biggest worry with my IBS was pooping walking down the aisle (a la Bridesmaids), but I was totally fine. Good luck!
I had a sip of each of our 2 types of guest wines and that was it. I wanted to be up for nookie that night, but I was also driving us home after the reception. DH had the same amount to drink that I did because he felt bad that I couldn’t drink; he may have had other things in mind too. We had a lot of fun at our wedding!
I love you and this post is amazing. I did not drink at our wedding. I didn’t plan on it I just didn’t feel like drinking. I had some champagne for the toast and that was it. And because of that I didn’t have to pee in my wedding dress! Mr. C didn’t drink much either because he drove us to the hotel. Ps I have the same problem as you but with coffee. I have like two sips and I have to go!
I pretty much didn’t drink at my wedding, at it certainly wasn’t on purpose. I had one flute of champagne, and one signature drink… and I only got the signature drink because my husband brought it to me as soon as we sat down at dinner. I was just so busy dancing and having a good time!
we’re not very big drinkers, anyway, so no alcohol for us! like the first to comment, we’re having a morning wedding and lunch reception — no alcohol is being served. and we’ve been celibate for years so reaaaaallly looking forward to the wedding night (or afternoon! ha!)
I dont plan on drinking at my wedding, and it’s very important to both of us to end the night with some sexy time 
Mrs.Broccoli and I are hard partiers. Very hard. But when I’m drunk, it isn’t.
Our wedding featured two open bars, with top shelf liquor and high-end microbrews. Plus wine table service with dinner and champagne.
I had exactly zero drinks. She had one.
It was the right decision.
I plan on drinking a little, but not enough to haze any of my memories! Mr. Sinfonia may need to have a round or two with his brothers but fortunately he can hold his liquor much better than me.
And sexy time is a pretty darned important aspect (although whether it’ll be that night is debatable, we might be exhausted and make up for it with morning sexytime) even though it won’t be our first time, it’ll be our first time as husband and wife and that’s a big deal!
I drank maybe two glasses of wine all day, so I was totally sober on our wedding night. Honestly, I preferred it that way, I wanted to take everything in the whole day
Just a word of caution — as with all things wedding-related, be open to things happening that you didn’t plan.
DH and I were both tired, yes, when we went to bed but also really emotional. We had wanted to have that wedding night intimacy in the form of sex, but we ended up snuggling, talking and crying (happily).
Whatever you do will be right, but it won’t feel right if you’re too attached to something that HAS to happen.
I am not a drinker at all in normal life, so I was actually planning on having a glass or two of champagne since it was a special occasion. But I was so caught up in the moment that the only drinks I had was literally one sip out of each glass of beer Mr. Blue Eyes had…and since he only had 2 beers, that was not a lot for either of us!
It actually never occurred to me to think about what drinking at the wedding might do to my stomach afterward. I think I have mild IBS because I have issues going out to eat, so the odds are not in my favor for the wedding day. But like others, I’m a big fan of Immodium to help prevent any day-ruining trips to the potty, so I’ll probably rely on that to get me through!
Also, like Ellie said, make sure that you plan what you want, but don’t let it ruin your experience if it doesn’t go exactly as planned. No matter what happens, it will be a beautiful first night of marriage!
ah i love you miss S! and from what we know about mr. sword, he will be able to have a few drinks and be just fine!
I didn’t go into our wedding with the intention of not drinking, but I think I had maybe two drinks the whole night! I was just so busy talking with people and dancing that I just didn’t have time, haha. So I don’t think it’ll be too hard to not drink at your wedding
I drank a bit, as did Mr. D, but it was impossible to get drunk (I keep telling my FSIL this, haha). Too many people to talk to!
Mrs. Sword, Chicago Age and Occupation: 28, Nanny/Actress Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Software Engineer Engagement Date: February 19, 2012 Wedding Date: March 2013 Venue: Embassy Suites Bloomington West in Bloomington, MN About Me: I am a true girly-girl originally from the great state of Minnesota and my fiancé hails from the beautiful country of Scotland. We met and fell in love in our favorite city, Chicago, and are having a blast blending our cultures for "A Highland Fairy Tale" wedding! We are truly a case of opposites attract in that he’s a world traveling introvert and I’m a social butterfly who is never too far from home. We both love hanging out with family and friends, fine dining, and laughing at ourselves. He drinks a lot of beer and I talk too much. We wouldn’t have it any other way!
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