I know a lot of people hate the term “bridezilla.” I’m not sure I actually like it, so let’s change it to “crazy bride,” shall we?.
What I enjoyed most about the book is that I am sure that if I had read it in any other time of my life, I would have found it ridiculous, hilarious and a bit silly—how on earth did this woman make such a big deal out of flowers? However, since I read it in the last stretch of my wedding planning journey, I felt related to this girl. I felt her pain, understood her struggles and felt compassion for her situation—Why do you care? Let her have the darn flowers she wants!
And then it hit me…how much of a crazy bride I had been. I realized how Mr. Toadstool and my family (especially my mom) let me have my way more than once in order to preserve peace in the universe; how they put up with my crazy ideas and my mood swings (I get very cranky when I am stressed out), in the hope that after the wedding it will all get better.
But why do we become crazy brides? I firmly believe we’re unconsciously pushed into it.
Our whole life, TV shows, movies, books, our aunts or even moms tell us our wedding day will be the happiest day of our life, the best day of our life. So, when you are planning your wedding you want it to be great, if not perfect.
We are lead to believe that day has to be amazing. Somewhere in our minds we believe it has to happen without a flaw. And while it really doesn’t matter the day of (at least it didn’t matter to me), the days leading to that perfect day sure were the most stressful days of my life.
So now, on the other side of that “crazy bride” line, I am telling you it doesn’t matter. Things go wrong, things go without a flaw and you don’t notice. You care about the centerpieces for a second and you get stressed over bridesmaids for a minute, but by the time the party starts, you are already married, and nothing compares to that feeling of success and happiness.
I know not all brides get crazy. Even I, with my crazy moods, managed to forget about the stress for a night or two. Just remember to breathe and enjoy, to soak into those last days as a single lady, and if things don’t go as planned, just remember that as long as you’re married at the end of the day, it was a great wedding.
Did you experience/are you experiencing a crazy bride case? Don’t be shy.
- Obregon, Mexico
- Research Assistant
- Wedding Date:
- December 2012
- Hacienda los Agaves