On Being a Crazy Bride”¦

I know a lot of people hate the term “bridezilla.” I’m not sure I actually like it, so let’s change it to “crazy bride,” shall we?.

On my last month of wedding planning, I read a fantastic book recommendation from Miss Armadillo: Laura Wolf’s Diary of a Mad Bride. It’s a fantastic, light and fun book.

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What I enjoyed most about the book is that I am sure that if I had read it in any other time of my life, I would have found it ridiculous, hilarious and a bit silly—how on earth did this woman make such a big deal out of flowers? However, since I read it in the last stretch of my wedding planning journey, I felt related to this girl. I felt her pain, understood her struggles and felt compassion for her situation—Why do you care? Let her have the darn flowers she wants!

And then it hit me…how much of a crazy bride I had been. I realized how Mr. Toadstool and my family (especially my mom) let me have my way more than once in order to preserve peace in the universe; how they put up with my crazy ideas and my mood swings (I get very cranky when I am stressed out), in the hope that after the wedding it will all get better.

But why do we become crazy brides? I firmly believe we’re unconsciously pushed into it.

Our whole life, TV shows, movies, books, our aunts or even moms tell us our wedding day will be the happiest day of our life, the best day of our life. So, when you are planning your wedding you want it to be great, if not perfect.

We are lead to believe that day has to be amazing. Somewhere in our minds we believe it has to happen without a flaw. And while it really doesn’t matter the day of (at least it didn’t matter to me), the days leading to that perfect day sure were the most stressful days of my life.

So now, on the other side of that “crazy bride” line, I am telling you it doesn’t matter. Things go wrong, things go without a flaw and you don’t notice. You care about the centerpieces for a second and you get stressed over bridesmaids for a minute, but by the time the party starts, you are already married, and nothing compares to that feeling of success and happiness.

I know not all brides get crazy. Even I, with my crazy moods, managed to forget about the stress for a night or two. Just remember to breathe and enjoy, to soak into those last days as a single lady, and if things don’t go as planned, just remember that as long as you’re married at the end of the day, it was a great wedding.

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Did you experience/are you experiencing a crazy bride case? Don’t be shy.

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Mrs. Toadstool

Location:
Obregon, Mexico
Wedding Date:
December 2012

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    NC Girl 104 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:10 am

    I think there is certainly wayyyy too much stress and pressure surrounding weddings. But I don’t know about being “unconsciously pushed” into anything.

    We have to remember that we CHOOSE our behavior. Every day. Men, women, parents, kids, brides… we’re human beings. And we don’t get an excuse to treat other people badly just because of one day.

    I love the picture at the end… we should all remember THAT’S what’s important!! :)

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 11:31 am

    With my wedding only 4 months away, I’m definitely starting to feel a (teeny) bit of the crazies coming on. I get stressed out VERY easily, so I just have to keep reminding myself that even if everything doesn’t go perfectly, it’s not the end of the world. And like you said, as long as I get to marry the man I love, everything else should just fall away.

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    ginnwitt 213 posts, Helper bee @ 11:43 am

    I’m a month less a day away, and I’m now considering this crunch time, since I have to work everyother weekend, I don’t have the same time off as everyone else that would be helping me with things…but I don’t think I’ve gone to the crazy part yet, but it’s probably around the corner…lol Our officiant just sent us the final draft of our ceremony, and when I read through it, it really does put things in perspective

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    MissSpark 180 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:28 pm

    I came really close to a melt down yesterday when I got the quote for our Vera Wang invitations and it was almost 3 times what I’d expected! Tears started pouring, we could never afford this…And then I realized that the quote was accidentally made for 2.5 times the number of invites we’d requested. Silly little things make us nuts, its crazy!

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    courtoni 177 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:06 pm

    So far so good but I’m afraid as it gets closer that I might start to lose it. HA I know what is important in the end but I know that the week leading up to the wedding will be hectic to say the least.

    When I start to stress I always pick up my copy of A Practical Wedding or look at their site and it helps!

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    mswallaby 2066 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:30 pm

    I 100% agree with you. Life totally goes on after the wedding. The best thing is to take the bumps in stride as you’re wedding planning, so you don’t impact relationships that will last past the wedding day.

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    msarmadillo 497 posts, Helper bee @ 2:56 pm

    Love that book!!! So far I haven’t become a crazy bride (I don’t think) but we haven’t gotten down to the wire yet. A month from now, things might change! Haha!

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:37 pm

    it’s the stress of having the *perfect* day. There’s so much hype and expectation. It’s enough to drive anyone crazy. I tried to have an insanely long engagement to avoid this, but in reality, I might have just prolonged the crazy. ah well, live and learn.

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 4:03 pm

    Love that quote!! That’s what I keep telling myself… the most important thing is that we end up married :)

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 7:18 pm

    Such a good and true quote, but it’s hard to remember that when you’re in the thick of it and every little detail means so much. I know I had my fair share of crazy moments, but luckily it all went away on the day of the wedding!

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    xjamit 42 posts, Newbee @ 9:55 pm

    Love that book!!so cool!

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    Summerlengyel87 24 posts, Newbee @ 5:55 am

    I am currently going crazy over bridesmaid dresses… we ordered them 6 months ago in Allure Platinum and my junior BM in Blossom… when we got them the colours were hideous and nothing like the swatches !! Now what ? I haven’t been able to sleep for almost a week now… :(

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