How To Survive Wedding Stress

Today at work I had a major panic. I happened to notice my patients were booking appointments the week before our wedding. WHAT? How is that possible?

Our wedding is in the very far and incredibly distant future. Why would my schedule be filling up?

And then it slammed into me like herd of elephants….

1. The countdown has begun. [When I think of all I have left to do my brain explodes a little bit.]
2. Crap! I had better block my days off work!

Spring 2013 used to mean “next year.” Now we just have to make it through Valentine’s Day and in my book, spring is here. Instead of having a pity party panic session, I quickly utilized my most powerful wedding stress coping mechanism:

Image Via The Private Travel Company

…and then I switch to a little bit of this,

Image via Royal Caribbean

…and finally topped it off with a little:

Image via Centera Hotel

Ah. I feel so much better already. I realize I am preaching to the choir here, but planning the big day can become pretty overwhelming these days, so daydreaming about the honeymoon is what gets me through.

Mr. Squirrel and I had tossed around a lot of honeymoon ideas. I was pushing for South Africa. He was pushing for Europe. Unfortunately, as we booked different vendors, we kept “borrowing” from the honeymoon budget. We later realized that while our wedding is going to be absolutely GOR-GE-OUS, the Transatlantic flight alone would suck up most of the honeymoon budget.

Mr. Squirrel and I will make it to Europe together one day. In a way, it is a relief we are not going for the honeymoon because I would want to plan, prepare and see EVERYTHING. Basically, the opposite of how I want our honeymoon to go down. After the wedding, I don’t want to think. I want zero expectations. And most importantly, I want lots of colorful drinks!

As you guessed…a cruise was the perfect option for us. The prices are insane. We casually shopped around for a few months until we found the perfect one. We are going to the Eastern Caribbean for seven nights (and eight days, but who’s counting?) and it can’t get here soon enough! We can do as much or as little as we want on the cruise. We won’t have to navigate public transportation or lug our bags around. Neither of us have ever been on a cruise, so it’ll be a new experience for both of us.

Also, since we live in Florida, the port is just a short drive away (Yay for no airports, delayed flights, or plane tickets!).

More than anything, I CANNOT wait to have Mr. Squirrel all to myself for SEVEN nights and EIGHT days! No work, no school, no craft projects, no studying, no distractions. This is literally unheard of. We have never taken a solo trip in all the time we have been together. Any time off is reserved for family and the occasional friend visit. Shoot, I hope we don’t annoy each other 😉

Any other honeymoon cruisers out there? Do you have any tips? We are such novices and truly have no clue what to expect. What was your favorite excursion?


Mrs. Squirrel

Tampa, FL
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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    Lone Star, Guest @ 7:12 am

    We did a cruise! We flew from Dallas to LA and caught a ship that went to western Mexico. It was really nice. Did you get a balcony? If you can afford it, I’d recommend it, bigtime. Also, if there’s a steakhouse on your ship, BOOK IT. Well worth the extra $30. I also think it’s better to book excursions through the cruise– even if they’re more expensive, the boat WILL wait for you if something goes awry since it’s one of their vendors. We did a great Puerto Vallarta one that had us horseback riding and swimming in a waterfall, with lunch on a private beach and a nap in a hammock. It was bliss.

    You’re going to have the best time! Bring lots of books. :) And don’t feel too bad about buying expensive drinks with umbrellas– you’re on your honeymoon.

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    This Time Round 10219 posts, Sugar Beekeeper @ 7:12 am

    Cruising can indeed be the PERFECT Honeymoon… a fabulous combo of great food & wine, sightseeing, pampering and relaxing. Mr TTR and I LOVE Cruising, and have infact just returned from our own Honeymoon Cruise of the Southern Caribbean.

    My biggest TIP for cruisin’ newbies is to check out Cruise Critic (the sister website to TripAdvisor). CC is where you’ll find tons of info from seasoned other cruisers… the website has Ship Reviews, Ports of Call Info, and even Boards where you can ask Questions and get advice.

    And be sure and sign-up for the Roll Call for your ship and sailing, a great way to meet folks who will be on your cruise and save money (maybe share a taxi, or book a group excursion)

    I have answered many cruising Questions here on WBee on the Honeymoon Board for other first timers … you can browse thru past topics (including several from yesterday). Or you can always send me a PM, and I’d be happy to give you some of the basic info you’ll need.

    BUT most of all… enjoy your time as a couple while onboard… because your time on the ship will zip right on by SUPER QUICK.

    “MRS” TTR

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    FutureMrsphD 130 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:46 am

    Cruises are great! I have been on a couple to the Caribbean. My only recommendation is since you havent been on one, get the patch that goes behind your ear for sea sickness. I am not one for motion sickness, but the slight movements of the ship (that you cant even feel) give me a headache. The patch makes a huge difference, and it lasts for days so I think you only need two for a week cruise if i remember correctly.

    You can get them from your doctor, even if you aren’t sure you will need them I would bring a few in case you or your fiancé ends up needing one. Definitely cheaper than going to the on board doctor to get one.

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    jbarker09 382 posts, Helper bee @ 7:54 am

    we wanted to originally go abroad but we decided on a honeymoon cruise for the same reason. It will be a nice time to relax and if we want to do something there’s a lot to do and if not we can just relax with a drink. We’re going on a 10 day cruise to western Caribbean for $1800 for the two of us. We are going out of Baltimore so we don’t have to fly (no air fair = saving $$) so I’m really happy with our deal!

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    courtoni 177 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:54 am

    I feel like there are 2 camps when to cruises….those who LOVE them and those who do not. We have never been on one but have talked about it. We don’t actually have honeymoon plans so maybe this is something we will consider down the road. I am definitely going to check out Cruise Critic!

    And Miss Squirrel like you I felt like my wedding was far off even though I knew that after the holidays were over it would be here…and it is. Yikes! Slight panic has set in and we still don’t have a rehearsal dinner plan locked down but I know it will all come together in the end.

    Can’t wait to hear about your trip!

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:01 am

    Ohhh sounds fun! I’m sure you won’t get sick of each other… Mr. W and I went on a 17-day honeymoon and when we got back, we still couldn’t get enough of each other. Something about being newlyweds 😉

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 8:09 am

    This sounds like a great way to kick off your life as newlyweds! I’ve never been on a cruise, but not worrying about bags and food and drinks is the way to go!

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    mssquirrel 276 posts, Helper bee @ 8:19 am

    @Lone Star: awesome tips! Thanks! I cannot wait for the steakhouse :)

    @This Time Round: I’ll be sure to go to CC. I have never even heard of that and I am guessing it is a pretty major website…haha. We have no clue what we are doing.

    @FutureMrsphD: Yes. Done. We will patch-it-up

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    mssquirrel 276 posts, Helper bee @ 8:21 am

    @jbarker09: awesome deal!!
    @Mrs. Wallaby: true that! haha who am I kidding? it will be AMAZ.

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    farinw 38 posts, Newbee @ 8:29 am

    Agreed! Those photos are on constant rotation as my work and home computer backgrounds. What cruise line are you taking? We’re getting married May 26th, and taking a Eastern Carribean cruise week of June 1-8th lol

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    Miss Care Bear 193 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:40 am

    Totally feel you about panick setting in. I switched my screen saver to my honeymoon destination and remind myself daily that it’s only 4 more months till I’m laying on a beach with my new husband!

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    brooklyn55 743 posts, Busy bee @ 8:56 am

    Cruises are a lot of fun! We strongly considered doing one for our honeymoon but because my fiance is a teacher (and only a 2nd year teacher, meaning he has NO vacation time) we only had the week of Spring break. We could have gone on a 4 day cruise but we didn’t feel that was enough but the 7 night cruise had him missing at least 3 days of work. So we are flying to Disney World and planning on doing a cruise this summer when hes on summer break!

    My FI has never cruised before but I have and love it! You are right, you can choose EXACTLY how much you want to do. Want to find a private spot on the deck and relax or just hang out and watch tv in the room? You can do that! You get bored and want something to do? There is tons to do.. the ships has constant entertainment from shows to karaoke, most have casinos, game rooms, and as others mentioned you can always eat the wonderful food! I am pretty sure I gained 15 pounds on my last cruise. I remember ordering 2 entrees and 3 desserts one night… I guess I took advantage of the unlimited food!

    Also, I would recommend talking to the excursion people when you get on board. Whenever I have been on a cruise, when you get off on a port it can be intimidating about what to do. Some ports are easy to navigate (like Nassau, Bahamas) because the big downtown area is walking distance from the port but when we were in Freeport, Bahamas we got off and if we hadn’t had an excursion planned, wouldn’t have known where to go. We took a tour of the island that day and visited Atlantis! There are also more “fun” excursions like scuba diving or snorkeling, etc.

    And I wish reality would hit me about how soon my date is approaching.. My wedding is in a little over 9 weeks (March 30th) and in my mind it seems like a lifetime away and I am slacking.

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 10:34 am

    Oh, stress. I had a nightmare last night that it was six days before the wedding and I hadn’t done anything, including sending out invitations! Dreaming about the honeymoon sounds really good right about now :)

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    bluebelle23 854 posts, Busy bee @ 10:54 am

    If I remember you’re getting married in May, just like me! I’m so freaked out! Not about the marriage, but about the planning! I’ve realized I have GOT to have a day-of coordinator. And it’s so soon, I haven’t found one yet. :(

    We almost went on a cruise, but decided yesterday to go to Secrets Maroma Beach. Most exciting thing yet! :)

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    LadyMegBeth, Guest @ 11:54 am

    I WHOLEHEARTEDLY agree! It’s going to be a cruise ALL THE WAY for us! You really nailed all the reasons, too. I’m in Florida, so no flights or delays…just a half hour car ride until colorful drinks for a week! Yay!! ^_^

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 12:01 pm

    I’m a May bride, too, and I get the bouts of panic every once in a while as well! Tomorrow will be four months exactly! With a year and a half engagement, four months seemed forever and ever away. . .and now it’s in ‘around the corner’ land. AHHH.

    I also daydream about the honeymoon (an all-inclusive Couples resort in Jamaica) to get me through as well as certain parts of the wedding I’m looking forward to. . .still ‘eeeeee!!’ inducing, though!

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    misssemi 136 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:50 pm

    We went on a 7 day cruise for our honeymoon last summer. It was my first cruise. We didn’t really take advantage of a lot of the stuff the ship had to offer, because the cruise we booked was really port intensive and we wore ourselves out on the islands each day. I agree with the above poster who recommended a balcony. We got an aft balcony and it was so nice to be able to sit out there and watch each island fade away and watch the stars at night. Not sure if Royal Caribbean has anything like this, but Carnival had a Chef’s Table dinner for an extra charge, but it was one of the highlights of our trip. You’ll have a blast!

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    Mrs. Panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:43 pm

    oh my gosh, that looks so much fun! I could use a tropical drink right about now….

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:33 pm

    That sound blissful.

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 6:46 pm

    I am a longtime cruiser…probably close to 10? You couldn’t pick a better choice for a honeymoon. One…let them know its your honeymoon. They usually treat you a little bit because you are. I encourage going to the entertainment at night, trying anything you want at dinner, laying by the pool all day on sea days, and embracing your time on the islands. The cruise ships will offer excursions, which are sometimes a really great way to go because you won’t get lost and someone will guide you right from the ship.

    My only other advice is to check out So much great info! By island, by cruise line, by ship. It’s awesome.

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    Chrissy, Guest @ 10:46 pm

    Veteran cruiser here! I absolutely love them and i think you’re so lucky to live so close to a port where fabulous cruises are easily accessible. My one little best kept cruise secret is to find out if your line / cruise has a chef’s table night. A lot of the lines are doing these now, including RC and NCL. It’s usually an exclusive affair (ours had a cap of 12 people and a minimum of 8) so we made sure to book it the first day. There is usually a surcharge but its SO well worth it! If you’re not big on foodie food or drinking, maybe it’s not for you – but I honestly can’t say enough about it! For the price you’d pay to eat in one of the upgrade restaurants plus the cost of a nice bottle of wine you get high-end food (better than anything in any of the restaurants), multi-courses, AND unlimited pours of the wine pairings with the courses. Plus you get to meet some other people (usually couples) which is always fun! And since you’ll be on your honeymoon, I’m sure they’ll treat you to something extra special! They’ll sometimes offer tours of the galley the next day, which is really interesting if you’re into that kind of thing.

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    abbyLtib 16 posts, Newbee @ 8:02 pm

    We are doing a cruise as well; to Bermuda, out of Boston, so no airfare for us either! Yay, FH hates to fly (even though he has flown a total of 2 times ever!) I went on a western Caribbean cruise, NCL, 10 years ago, with my family- we had the best time! Can’t wait to go again!

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