It’s Gettin’ Real: The Invites Have Arrived

As we get closer to our wedding date, there have been a few moments recently that have made the wedding seem more real, as opposed to this abstract event I’ve been planning for 12 months now. One of those moments was when I received a huge box in the mail recently—the invitations had finally arrived!

This is the outside of the pocketfold invitation with our monogram (and of course a peacock feather!) / Personal Photo


This is the right interior of the invite, showing the RSVP postcard. The insert behind it called “Cocktails, Dinner, Dancing” has more information for guests regarding the reception, booking the hotel room and RSVP’ing for our Rehearsal Dinner / Personal Photo

As I mentioned previously, I ordered these from a shop on Etsy and opted to have the designer include guest addressing and return addressing on both the outer envelope and RSVP postcard—we are inviting 137 people, so we needed 70 invitations. I also ordered 10 blank invites just in case we have some last minute changes to the guest list and need to invite a few more people. In terms of making sure we have no surprise guests, I paid extra to have her print out each guests names on the RSVP postcard. Because of this, we skipped the inner envelope (which also helped save a bit of money).

When I received the invites, I thought they were absolutely stunning. But I think there may have been some slight miscommunication between myself and the designer—I thought she was going to print in the number of guests invited on the RSVP postcard as well, but she didn’t—I guess I forgot to specify that. So to me, this was truly the first DIY project I’ve had to do so far (and I know that it’s pathetic of me to consider this DIY, but as I’ve said before, I am terrible at most arts & crafts).

So, I journeyed to Michaels (which is actually quite a fabulous place!) and bought an extra fine permanent marker to write in the number of invited guests per RSVP card and x-small glue dots to seal the pocketfold, then headed to the post office for those pretty white rose stamps. Here is a pictorial account of my “DIY”:


Step 1: Remove the glue dot seal on pocketfold


Step 2: Very carefully write in the number of invited guests on RSVP postcard


Step 3: Add stamp to RSVP postcard


Step 4: Re-seal pocketfold with a fresh glue dot


Step 5: Carefully ease the invite into the envelope (I love the huge peacock feathers but it was difficult stuffing them into the envelope)


Step 6: I cut a piece off of a dish sponge to make an envelope moistener and put a bit of water in the ramekin to seal the envelopes


Step 7: Since each envelope is over one ounce and supposedly “odd-shaped,” I had to use two stamps each

Mr. Mongoose even helped out at the end—I sealed the envelopes with my makeshift envelope moistener and he put on the stamps. Oh, and quick tip—apparently the postage is increasing in price starting this Sunday 1/27, so I literally just dropped the invitations off at my local post office today to have them hand cancelled. I know it may seem like I’m sending these out a tad early, but since it’s a destination wedding, I’d like these in our guests’ hands sooner rather than later so people can book their travel arrangements. Like I said, it’s gettin’ real!! Now let’s see how many people actually complete and return the RSVP postcard…

Did you also have an “it’s gettin’ real” moment when you received/mailed out your invitations?


Mrs. Mongoose

New Haven, CT
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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  1. bracelet Member
    Mrs. Bracelet 279 posts, Helper bee @ 11:54 am

    We made sure to get our Save the Dates to the post office early last January before they increased prices in 2012 (and I am SOOOO glad. We got to use herb stamps while after the increase all postcard stamps were Hawaii shirts!).
    And I like the peacock feather accent. Very you.

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    brooklyn55 743 posts, Busy bee @ 12:09 pm

    Ahh mine will hopefully arrive next week so I wonder if I will have that ah-ha moment!

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    brooklyn55 743 posts, Busy bee @ 12:10 pm

    Your invites are beautiful, btw!

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 12:12 pm

    I don’t think that this is too early! It actually really frustrates me when etiquette sites and the like say to do it later. I, for one, have a significant handful of friends who work as health professionals in hospitals and schedule over a month in advance (my Maid of Honor just completed her schedule through the first week in March) – if we were to wait until the suggested date, there’s a chance these people would have to significantly juggle their shifts to make it work. That’s just one example of why it frustrates me, but overall I say it’s important to get it done when you feel it should be done – you’re the one who will be tracking the RSVP’s and such after all!

    Sorry, rant over. :) I love the peacock feather and the colors, specifically the teal. Such a unique invitation!

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    hlayers 286 posts, Helper bee @ 12:55 pm

    I just finished addressing and sealing my invites yesterday! I am definitely feeling that it is getting real now. Sending out the invites tomorrow or Saturday, and can’t wait to start getting RSVPs!

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:02 pm

    Sooo pretty and elegant!! I love the colors and all of the details. I don’t think we’ve ever gotten a pocketfold invitation for a wedding before, I’ve always thought they must be so much fun to receive as a guest. Good work!! And I don’t think it’s too early to send out invites for a DW – I think it’s smart!

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    lovelyduckie 756 posts, Busy bee @ 1:16 pm

    I ordered the rose stamps from the post office too

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    drod 107 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:25 pm

    I love your invites. Do you mind sharing the name of the Etsy vendor that you used?

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    dlewin92 6 posts, Newbee @ 1:32 pm

    You invites are beautiful… I also went with Etsy for mine… I’ve been having that “it’s gettin’ real” moment ever since I bought my invitations… Sooooo exciting.

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    mssquirrel 276 posts, Helper bee @ 2:15 pm

    These are GORG. I love the feather! We are getting ready to send out invites out too! I also feel pressure because it is sort of a DW. I feel like the sooner, the better!

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    vasfinest 214 posts, Helper bee @ 2:43 pm

    Yes! It became real at exactly the same moment. No turning back now, it’s full steam ahead.

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    msarmadillo 497 posts, Helper bee @ 2:55 pm

    Soooo pretty! The feather is the perfect touch!

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    Mrs. Panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:34 pm

    your invites are gorgeous! I love the peacock feather!

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 3:54 pm

    I’m trying to decide when to send out my invites! I’m also a May bride… I think I’m going to send them out middle of next month since ours is a long-distance wedding for some but not exactly a destination wedding.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:43 pm

    They are gorgeous!

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    wb3245 4225 posts, Honey bee @ 4:51 pm

    Did you use the square pocketfolds? I’m just curious as we were told ours are $2 to mail since they were ‘odd sized’ and considered a parcel not a letter because of their size (6.5×6.5)

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    wb3245 4225 posts, Honey bee @ 5:11 pm

    BTW, your invites are FANTASTICLY beautiful!

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:17 pm

    The look great!

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:17 pm

    spelling fail

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 5:23 pm

    Thank you ladies for the nice comments!

    @drod: Absolutely–I worked with Megan from One of a Kind Design. Here is the shop URL below;

    @HiroshymaTetrastar: I think these were a bit smaller than typical pocketfold invites–I had thankfully brought the invite to the post office a few days ago to have one weighed–she told me it may be considered “odd-shaped” since there was a tiny bit of a lump inside but said $0.80 should cover it. I actually ended up putting $0.90 for each just to make sure. I guess I’ll know in a few days if these make it out!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 7:21 pm

    These are beautiful, I love the peacock feather on them!

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    xjamit 42 posts, Newbee @ 9:59 pm

    I love your invites. so cool!

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