Newlywed Growing Pains

Helloooo everyone! I’m popping my head back in here for a moment to talk about newlywed bliss (or lack thereof) after some encouragement from the bees of the board. :)

Mr. Dragon and I have been married for just over four months, and I’m still getting congratulations from people around town. We didn’t put out any kind of formal marriage announcement, but pretty much everyone in our little town reads the newspaper and noticed that, as a reporter, my last name changed on my byline back in September. Every time I run into someone who hasn’t seen me since then I get another, “Hey, you got married! Congrats!”

The question that follows is usually along the lines of, “So, newlywed life is awesome, huh?” or, “Is the honeymoon over?”

The last time someone asked me how married life was, I answered honestly. The person posing the question is a really forthright dude and in the relatively early stages of married life himself (though not as much of a newbie as me) so I figured he’d get it when I said, “Kind of aggravating”¦but, kind of awesome, too.”

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I got this in a fortune cookie, posted it to Facebook with, “I’m already married!” and lots of people laughed at me.

He chuckled and said, “I was gonna tell you that, but I thought I’d wait.”

Mr. Dragon and I had our first big fight about three days into our honeymoon. I found myself sitting on the deck of our hotel room, facing the water, taking in the beautiful scenery”¦and fuming, while Mr. Dragon sat inside on the bed, upset because we were fighting on our honeymoon. I vaguely remember the whys—I think I was being hungry and impatient and he felt like I was being a bully (and I probably was) and I felt like he was being whiny (and he probably was). Anyway, that was the end of our ability to say “We haven’t fought as a married couple!”

Thing is, we’re pretty volatile. We always have been, even though Mr. Dragon hates to fight and I am allegedly non-confrontational. Our good days obviously outnumber the bad and we always kiss and make up”¦but seriously, seriously, the last few months have felt HARD.

While I hear all about couples who never fight and see the happily-ever-after romantic candlelit dinners and rainbows and puppies on TV, it doesn’t match up with my personal experience of newlywed life thus far. I didn’t think being married would change anything—we lived together for a long time before marriage, we have already seen the worst of one another—but it did.

Being husband and wife doesn’t make those, “Will you put your damn socks in the laundry basket already,” “Why are you spending so much money on groceries,” and “Can’t you just give me some private time?!” fights go away, in my experience. In fact, it makes them all the more important, in my view, because instead of just hearing, “I forgot to put my socks away when I got home,” I hear, “I forgot to put my socks away when I got home and you married me so now you will be surrounded by filthy unwashed socks FOREVER TILL DEATH DO US PART.”

Truth: In a moment of desperation after another argument, I started reading The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

Truth: I felt really awful when I realized that a lot of the “this is a really bad thing to do” behaviors apply to me, or Mr. Dragon, or both of us.

Truth: I think we have always kind of behaved like this”¦so it’s not that scary, because I know we have toughed it out this long, and with the right attitude adjustments we can keep on truckin’ (and we are doing better already).

Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed with marriage and conflict I look around online for a bit of help. One piece of advice I read said, basically, marriage is hard and if you expect it to be easy you are in for a big ol’ nasty surprise. Having a ring on my finger doesn’t make me impervious to all of the frustrations and annoyances and breakdowns we experienced as boyfriend and girlfriend, or as engaged people.

However, said ring on my finger is a good reminder that we have made a loving commitment to work through all of our rough stuff, together, always, till death do us part (and I actually rallied against having the whole death do us part thing included in our ceremony because I intend to harass Mr. D in the afterlife, too).

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Because amidst those gloomy, difficult days, we have a lot of light in our lives now that we’re married. We tackle challenges head-on as a team (we’re just working harder on that “love is a battlefield” issue).

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Mr. Dragon always tells me, “One day we won’t even need to speak these words anymore, because we will have been together for so long that we’ll just understand.” It makes me wonder how many of those lovely gray-haired couples I see walking hand-in-hand had a rough start, that they can look back on now and chalk up to being a feisty newlywed.

This is, of course, not intended to scare people who are soon to be married and expecting a 100% awesome time as a newlywed, or to cast any kind of shadow on people who are blissful all the time.

But much like Mrs. Wizard noted, people don’t often share the more challenging parts of a wedding day. I don’t think a lot of people share the darker sides of newlywed life. I think there are those out there who still have their bad days among the adventures and shared breakfasts and car rides and dreams. I am definitely not afraid to admit that I am one of those people.

So, newlyweds—how is it going? Is it what you expected? And those who are still planning, I want to know—do you think your relationship will change post-wedding, and if so, how?

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Mrs. Dragon

Location:
Sioux Lookout/Brockville, ON
Wedding Date:
September 2012
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    legowife 109 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:27 am

    We are also married since September. I applaud you for pointing out that life is not always rosy, even as a Newly-wed when everyone thinks it should be perfect. We also fought on honeymoon so I know what that is like, but since we got back things have changed for us. When coming home to find dirty socks on the floor, my mind jumps to ‘it will be like this till death do us part, so why sweat the small stuff’. To me it seems like all the stupid things we used to have small arguments about don’t really matter anymore. We are married, we are a team and all the things that would make life easier (like the socks actually being in the laundry basket) probably won’t change and something about getting married kind of just got me to accept that knowing that we made a bigger committment to each other. I’m not sure I’m making sense and I think this is coming across like you shouldn’t make an effort once married. Actually the opposite is true, something about being married has made us each less individualistic and we try to help each other out more, but we also let more of the smaller stuff slide. Which is odd, we have also being living together for years so I had no idea it would change like this for us.

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    Miss Care Bear 193 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:56 am

    Thank you for posting this Miss D! We are still 4 months out from our wedding and have been living together for a year and a half, so I didn’t really think our relationship might change post-wedding.

    BTW, the thing about the socks made me laugh out loud :)

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    Mrs. Dragon 813 posts, Busy bee @ 6:05 am

    @legowife: Lately I have been trying to be less of a tyrant about things like socks. ;) I really like your flipside of my thought process and I’m going to start trying to use it! I know that we will always have our quirks that won’t go away, and they were there before our wedding (it’s not like I always remembered to put the dishes away BEFORE we got married and it’s only now that I forget) so it’s high time to accept some of it as unchangeable and label it ‘small stuff’. :)

    @Miss Care Bear: Totally not meant to scare people, haha! I know a lot of newlyweds who really didn’t change much at all. I hope you guys find yourselves in total sock-free bliss. ;)

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    mswallaby 2062 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:12 am

    Dragon, thanks for opening up and writing about this. It’s really hard to admit to other people you’re having big blow-out arguments, when you’re supposed to be shrouded in newlywed bliss. Mr. W and I have been mostly on Cloud 9 (and maybe it’s partly because we got married right before the holidays, so it was non-stop parties and gifts and celebrations), but we’ve had a couple huge blow-out fights. One was before a dinner party, and we felt weird going and told everyone I was sick. I do a lot of those bad behaviors when we argue, and I’m trying really hard to work on my bad habits, because they tend to escalate small disagreements into huge passionate arguments. Just keep being intentional about your marriage and constantly try to improve and work on things, and I think you will be fine. The first step, our pastor told us constantly during our premarital counseling, is staying conscious and intentional about your relationship and your role as a partner, and it sounds like you’re already there.

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    lnjohnson 52 posts, Worker bee @ 6:14 am

    Thank you for posting about the challenges! We are still a few months from our wedding and have not lived together yet due to our current job locations, so I am anxious about what challenege lay ahead of us but very excited at the same time. Is it weird that I almost look forward to a fight or two about socks?

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    babbot 586 posts, Busy bee @ 6:14 am

    thank you for posting this, it’s truth, real life and it’s nice that not everyone glamorizes everything all the time :)

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    lorelai 937 posts, Busy bee @ 6:14 am

    My aunt said that her first year of marriage was the worst year of her life – There was a lot to adjust to and things weren’t perfect just because they had a marriage certificate.

    I think the biggest adjustments come from negotiating a life living together. DH and I were living together for 3 years before we got married so coming home after our minimoon felt just like any other day. I guess we’d already gone through the adjustments of living together, so the first year of marriage so far (7 months in) has actually been really special.

    But I’m sure it’d be way harder if we were living together for the first time.

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    AstoriaK 1561 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:21 am

    Bravo and well said! Thanks so much for taking the time to write this. I know I have felt this way many times and wondered why I’m not blissed out all the time like newlyweds “should” be. I don’t feel as crazy knowing that there are others who go through the same thing.

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    MrsMask, Guest @ 6:23 am

    Just exactly what I needed to read today! It makes it a lot easier to know that others are going through the same growing pains of being a newlywed!

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    mrm915, Guest @ 6:31 am

    Thank you so much for writing this! I got married in September and also lived with my husband for years before getting married. However, we have both found that married life has been really tough so far. It’s nothing very serious but all the little fights really add up and we find ourselves fighting more often than we ever used to. My mom told me that the first year is the hardest because you have to set up the way you want to live for the rest of your life (well, she said it better than that but I can’t remember right now the exact words she used). Basically, that first year you are setting up both of your expectations that you didn’t have or notice as much when you were dating. Do you want your husband to take the garbage cans down the driveway? Then tell him that you expect him to do that. Otherwise it won’t get done. My biggest struggle has been realizing that my new husband isn’t a mind reader- I constantly get caught comparing what he does to what my dad did growing up. My dad did all the “manly” things around the house but I wasn’t around the first year of my parents marriage so I didn’t realize that this only happened because my mom made it clear early on what she expected him to do.

    Anyway, thanks again for showing the real side of marriage and making me feel so much better that I’m not the only one who is having newlywed growing pains :)

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    legowife 109 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:36 am

    @mrm915: My parent’s call it the ‘slamming doors’ years :) They also said it was down to expectations. My dad went fishing on a railway line (like he always did before he was married and living with my mom) and when it got home hours later my mom was upset (and slamming doors) as she thought he might have been hit with a train or something when he came home so late. He didn’t even think that she would worry!

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    beeberonibri 128 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:43 am

    Wow, thanks for writing about this. It’s always nice to know you’re not such a weird-o :) We have four more months until we get married and I too didn’t expect anything to change since we’re already living together. We are both very stubborn and argumentative so we always have and probably always will have lots of arguing fights. I know they’re going to happen, we just try really hard not to let them escalate into something bigger.

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    mnp 1694 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:54 am

    It’s such a breath of fresh air to hear this!

    We got married late September but DH and I are still in a LDR (though, we are only 1.5 hrs apart) and we have a different set of problems that people just don’t seem to understand. And, it just gets tiring to tell people that we’re apart for x, y, and z reasons. We have the rest of our lives to play house!

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    Mrs. Dragon 813 posts, Busy bee @ 7:02 am

    @Mrs. Wallaby: I never really thought about how the time of year would factor into our newlywed lives, but we got married right before it gets unbearably dark and cold here, and every year, winter is a struggle — I think if we had married in spring or summer we would have had a few more months to enjoy ourselves before descending into the winter blahs!

    @LNJohnson: Haha, those household fights are a rite of passage when you move in with one another, I think! :)

    @lorelai: Yep, we lived together for about the same amount of time before getting married, so coming home was pretty normal (though I had bronchitis, haha). I am not sure if it’d be better or worse if we were going through the whole living together adjustment, too!

    @mrm915: Yep, I’m learning that you really do have to ask for what you want (and you have to swallow your pride if you get asked to do something differently, too).

    @legowife: Hah, that is the reason Mr. D now has a cell phone with Find my Friends installed! :P

    @mnp: I had a friend here who was living apart from her husband for work purposes and people just didn’t really get it — it’s not that they WANTED to be separate, but they had to, and everyone bugging her sure didn’t help.

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    porcupine 633 posts, Busy bee @ 7:08 am

    YES. Love this. SO true. Me and Mr. P had been living together for 4 years before the wedding/together 5. We didn’t turn into honeymoon stage lovey dovey birds just because it’s our first year of marriage. We’re not even those types of people & I don’t think I ever could be. And, you know… it’s okay. We are who are we are, and we’ll continue to make it work like we have been. Thanks for keeping it all in perspective. =)

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    Red Poppy 20 posts, Newbee @ 7:10 am

    Thank you for this post! I love my husband and being married, but newlywed life hasn’t always been rainbows and butterflies… we’ve had some really difficult times too over the past few months that we’re still working through. I agree that the first year can be the hardest, but the growing pains you’re experiencing now will hopefully make your marriage stronger!

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    softm 51 posts, Worker bee @ 7:12 am

    thank you for posting this,Thanks so much for taking the time to write this.

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    39bride, Guest @ 7:24 am

    We didn’t live together before we got married in August, so we had HUGE adjustments to make. We’re also a bit older than newlyweds, so maybe we’ve had more time to learn to control some of our impulsive lashing out. Because of that, we didn’t get in a lot of out-right fights, but there was some times of underlying strain. We talked about it and realized we wanted to treat each other in loving, patient and tolerant ways and that it took a lot of energy to do that. We also learned to say with great sincerity, “I love you dearly, but you’re driving me insane!” I think if we hadn’t held our tongues more, we would’ve had a lot more fights than 2 or 3. We definitely felt that honeymoon bliss between the fights, though. And honestly, it made the fights easier to deal with because the bliss reassured us and motivated us to work things out.

    That part about the socks is hilarious because it puts it all into crystal-clear focus. For some reason I’ve been very aware that “what you see is what you get” going into this marriage… maybe because of a story I heard/read once about a recent widow who said she used to nag her husband constantly about those socks… and now that he had died she’d give anything for him to leave his socks in the middle of the floor again just once. So, I try to remember that when hubby does little things that bug me.

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    VioletSky 944 posts, Busy bee @ 7:44 am

    Thank you for posting this, & I have totally had that thought about cleaning up his laundry FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE lol!

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    hyena 2537 posts, Sugar bee @ 7:49 am

    Our first year of marriage was also hard — not because of our relationship, but because it felt like a whole mess of crap kept getting thrown on us at every turn. (Mainly job-related, but when you’re unemployed for months on end, your self-esteem/sex life/emotional stability go down the toilet.) So while we rarely had blow-out fights (we’re not really fighting people), it still felt like a mess of a year. Great post.

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    erincredible 398 posts, Helper bee @ 7:52 am

    Thank you so much for posting this!
    I have already felt like this a few times, and we are not even married yet! This has definitely given me some perspective. :)

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    cookie, Guest @ 8:28 am

    Thanks, Mrs. Dragon, for putting what I feel into words. There’s a difference between fighting clean and fighting dirty and my husband and I are always working on that. I don’t think arguing is bad, especially not when we’re talking about major life decisions. I also think the small things are intensified when you’re married because I see it as the disrespect he will show me/our home/ our children/ for the REST OF MY LIFE! I expect to have to work on our marriage every day, not because it sucks, but so it doesn’t. Theres a wonderful book that looks at marriage by Elizabeth Gilbert called Committed. It’s always amazed me the couples who get married without ever having discussions about who will stay home with the kids, how to deal with finances, etc. Its so nice to have the wedding world touch on what happens after the happily ever after. Also, major shout-out to your blog! Love it!

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    notbridey 720 posts, Busy bee @ 8:31 am

    seriously why can’t socks go in the basket right away? “oh i’m going to get them…” 3 days later still there.

    eff it. i gave in and i’ll pick up the damn dirty socks since it bothers me more. HE SIMPLY DOESN’T SEE THE DIRTY SOCKS.

    stupid dirty socks i hate you.

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    MrsHQuinn 43 posts, Newbee @ 8:59 am

    Hopefully my soon to be husband and I have already gotten through that part. You see, we have done everything backwards, we have been together off and on for 15 years, lived together for 7 of those, have three children together. To us, we are already married, just have never had the wedding and signed the papers. I think that once you have gotten through the money arguments, getting used to living with each other arguments, and most of all, the sleepless nights, stress, exhaustedness, and lack of intimacy that is having children together, the majority of your arguments seem tame. Granted, I could be wrong, but I have learned that he can’t read my mind, that simply asking for something works much better than nagging, and that making sure to let him know that the more he helps around the house, the less tired I will be and the more attention I can give to him. I also suggest reading a book called the Five Love Languages, or something along those lines.

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    Mrs. Dragon 813 posts, Busy bee @ 9:11 am

    @39bride: Yes! Mr. D is always “I don’t think we should fight ever” and I’m more of the opinion that arguing is okay — but there can’t always be someone who ‘wins’. Sometimes nobody wins and you have to just remain civil and polite.

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:15 am

    Thank you so much for writing this, Dragon. Adjusting to marriage has been hard for us, too. We didn’t live together before we got married, so that’s been a major adjustment. Plus, we have the added stressor of my unemployment. I hope things will get better as we adjust to our new routine. Thanks for making me feel less alone. :-)

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    LaughLines 346 posts, Helper bee @ 9:21 am

    Another THANK YOU (from another September bride)! We’ve been together for years but these first few months of marriage have not been newlywed bliss. Not horrible, either, but the “ack, it’ll be this way till death do us part” comes into my head more than it should! So good to read your posting and the other comments…

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 9:26 am

    This is a great post, and I really appreciate your honesty! Mr. Lemur and I fight… a lot already. Somehow little things turn into arguments really fast (especially long distance). We sometimes joke that our first fight was the day we started dating—it sort of was, but not a huge fight, just a few snappy comments back and forth ;)

    You mention fighting on your honeymoon—I’m actually terrified of this. I know us and know how stubborn we both are. I have a hard time differentiating between “it’s the way we are” and “I need to change something about myself.” We’ve never lived together, so that’s scary too! It’s good to know other couples have struggles and fears and things to work through too.

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    Mrs. Dragon 813 posts, Busy bee @ 9:29 am

    @Miss Lemur: Oh, we have more little things fights than big things — and then they often turn into fights about HOW we’re fighting. :P

    As for honeymoon fighting, I should point out that we had a road-trip honeymoon so factor in travel every day, figuring out where we were going, lots of dead time in a car… I think if we had gone to Mexico and chilled on a beach we wouldn’t have fought. :) But if you do end up arguing on your honeymoon my suggestion is to try really, really hard to avoid going down the ‘OH MY GOD WE’RE FIGHTING ON OUR HONEYMOON WHAT IS WRONG WITH US’ path because that will make it worse… it’s just any other day in your lives, really, so if you can diffuse the fight there’s no way it has to have any kind of effect on your honeymoon.

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    bridesmomma 444 posts, Helper bee @ 9:31 am

    This is a great, honest post!! Thank you! As an old married lady (34 years!) I can tell you the first year was the hardest!

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 9:41 am

    @msdragon: We’re renting a simple house just a few hours away and doing a beach vacation… so maybe that will help! But I know there’s still a good chance we’ll argue about something dumb—it always is looking back on it. Usually the way we diffuse a fight is to walk away for 10-15 minutes. Almost always we’re both calmed down and ready to work through it when we get back together.

    We have sort of a bet—if we argue less than four days into our honeymoon, he has to cook me dinner on the last day. If we argue more than four days in, I have to cook him dinner. And if we don’t fight we’ll go out to dinner haha ;)

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 10:00 am

    We were a lot like @Mrs. Hyena during our first year, lots of adjusting, but not a lot of fighting. I just have to always remind myself not to expect Mr. P to do things how I do them because he doesn’t think the same way I do. It’s not always easy since i’m one of those people that like things fine a certain way, but I’m learning to explain my reasoning and deal with the fact that sometimes it’s best to just keep my mouth shut if it won’t cause any harm.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 10:10 am

    This is a fantastic post.
    We’ve been married for almost two months and things have been great and rocky at the same time. We didn’t live together ’till after the wedding so we were not used to cohabitation, but at the end of the day it’s fantastic to just cuddle in bed and forget he neglected to do the dishes.

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 10:58 am

    Love this post, Mrs. D – super honest and brave. I think you made a good point earlier when you said that you got married before winter so you had really dark, cold, gloomy months ahead. That definitely affects your attitude and outlook!

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    marita 33 posts, Newbee @ 11:25 am

    Such a great post.
    I think it’ll help so many other couples who ask themselve is it something wrong with them if they don’t feel that newlywed bliss.

    Thank you for honesty!

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 11:34 am

    What a great post–thank you for being honest. Mr. M and I have lived together for 3 years and I also have the mindset that nothing (much) will change after we get married. But as other people have said, it seems like the first year of marriage is the hardest so it’ll be interesting to see how things go.

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    MrsPadlock2B 488 posts, Helper bee @ 2:03 pm

    I love your honesty people never want to admit that newlywed life isn’t all rainbows and unicorns. I worry about this as Mr P and myself have never lived together before the wedding so as well as adjusting to being a husband and wife, we will have to adjust to living together and having a mortgage. Plus we are both stubborn hotheaded people so there will be fights. I think that it is ok to have fights but try to remember to not fight dirty or to say something you will really regret later. Thanks dragon for the forewarning I might add marriage advice books to our registry

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    Nurse_Bee 940 posts, Busy bee @ 2:38 pm

    Thank you for writing such an insightful post. I wonder what it is that changes that makes things so hard during the first year. I suppose I have a hard time seeing how it will be more difficult for us as we have been together for over 7 years already and have lived with each other for pretty much the entire time. I know people say that a lot has come down to expectations set in the first year, but how are these expectations different from if you are living together full time with combined incomes/finances, shared housework and etc? Maybe I am just being naive?

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    39bride, Guest @ 3:12 pm

    @Mrs. Treasure: Maybe this will help: my parents adored each other but said those first six months were awful with constant fights, until “we realized we could never take back all those horrible things we said that we didn’t really mean.” So, even the happiest couples can fight pretty bad at first. I think my hubby and I are a bit odd ducks in not having a lot of fights because like you we didn’t live together, but we’re a lot older and so maybe have had more time to watch what does and doesn’t work in others.

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    Future Canadian, Guest @ 6:38 pm

    @MrsDragon I actually really loved 7 Principles! We went through it with our pastor as part of pre-marital counseling. I try to do his suggestion of making a joke to break up tension during a fight, kind of a “hey, I’m really irritated with you but I know we’re still on the same team.” Also, from someone else in a Canadian winter: sun-lamp + vitamin D!

    @MrsTreasure I was unemployed too when we got married in April – in fact, I just got a job after 9 months! It was really hard from going to having my own income to having to rely on someone else (I moved after we got married), and it has definitely been financially tight, but I actually think it proved to be a good struggle in the end. We had to talk about sharing, budgets, etc. It made me realize, “Hey, we really are in this together. This person actually wants to share his money with me – what a catch!”

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    panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:34 pm

    such a great post! I’d love to think married life is all roses and unicorns, but given that pbear and I will still be ourselves, my guess is that that’s not going to happen. I think that fighting and problems are necessary to become stronger in a relationship. After all, it’s not how you work together in the good times, but more of how you work together in the bad times that really demonstrate the strength of your relationship.

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:16 pm

    1. I agree with everyone, great post woman!
    2. I’m really scared I’ll start some big fight on our honeymoon over something stupid because there’s so much pressure for it to be perfect and wonderful and happy.
    3. I definitely think the winter months are partly to blame!

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    scone 181 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:01 pm

    Amazing post! Is it weird that I thank her after we fight? Seriously, I thank her for caring enough to fight because sometimes I am so furious that I just want to fume and she won’t let me, she makes me lay it all out there… and then we move past it like the small little pebble that it was (or lack of a meal as it usually is the HANGRY scone when fights occur :) Seriously awesome post! Thanks Dragon!

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    paw 871 posts, Busy bee @ 2:18 pm

    Great post! I definitely think every newlywed can relate in some way!

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    Mrswifey, Guest @ 7:06 pm

    I know I’m reading this a little late but I know exactly what you mean. Being married is not all “let’s share a twin bed and lock out the world”. It’s life. Real freakin crappy life and the wonderful love that helps us get through it and some times causes the problems but for the most part is the one who is there for all the frustrating stuff. I love my husband for being there, but at the same time sharing our lives can be hard.
    Thank you Mrs Dragon for always speaking truthfully.

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