Twenty-First Century Meeting

So…who wants to know how Jack and I met?

When I was 19 I got my ears pierced four times in each ear. It wasn’t a clever thing to do—they became really swollen. But it was the start of my mini-obsession with tattoos and piercings. The tongue piercing came next—then the double navel, the nose ring, and my very first tattoo.

In the space of two years I got over 20 piercings (mostly in my ears!) and seven tattoos. A craze like this is typically accompanied by an equally crazy obsession with an online forum. I was hooked. It was busy, but not super busy—all the regular posters were well acquainted with each other and it was a really nice little community. We learnt things, got ideas, and encouraged people to be safe and not stick safety-pins into their skin.

After a while, one of the members suggested a little meet-up with anyone who was local. Most people in the UK headed down to London for the weekend. We met, had dinner and a few drinks, and had a really good time. After the success of that one, they wanted to do another—but a bigger event that needed some proper organisation. I was asked to help, and help I did! I organised another weekend in London for around 60 people, and it was whilst I was organising this that I got talking to a guy who was going to attend.

I probably still have the MSN Messenger log of our very first conversation. And since that day there hasn’t been a day we haven’t spoken to each other, one way or another.

It’s a weird thing, having feelings for someone you haven’t actually met. I guess it’s different from online dating in the sense that we didn’t expect anything out of it. We didn’t talk with the intention of one day going out on a date. It just sort of…happened.

One weekend he came to visit me. We went out, ate dinner, drank wine, watched some jazz…and somehow started the rest of our lives.

But then, I guess you know something’s right when you take photos like this on your first date…


Personal photo

How did you and your SO meet?


Mrs. Jackrabbit

Brighton, UK
Wedding Date:
September 2013
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  1. mswallaby Member
    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:41 am

    Aw so sweet!! I love hearing stories about how people met – and it’s amazing how many couples meet on the Internet these days, my BFF and her significant other met online and are superlatively happy.

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    courtoni 177 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:58 am

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    shaynapunim 654 posts, Busy bee @ 10:03 am

    Such a cute photo and story!!

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 10:08 am

    What a great story :) And damn girl 20 piercings?! Your threshold for pain must be sky high!

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    suburbian 1631 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:38 am

    At a bonfire for my Bestie’s b-day after I got home for the military. He is her brother (eep). I didn’t even say anything that night but there was difinately a spark. So afterwards I had to talk with bestie and ask her permission to even get his number to see how things might go. 4 years later I am the happiest girl ever! Thank God she said yes :)

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    suburbian 1631 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:39 am

    lol – sorry – it’s not an online story …

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 11:13 am

    I love that photo of you both. :) And I also love your story!

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    Teeny287 59 posts, Worker bee @ 11:52 am

    Very cute. I like the photo. My fiance and I met at the local lumber yard–where I was working my summer job during college. He was also working his summer job as a construction worker and came in to the store to grab some supplies. He specifically needed anchor bolts and I showed him where they were. We kind of flirted and then he left. Fifteen minutes later he came back for one more (it was just an excuse for him to come back to the store to ask me for my number and a date). Five years later…we are planning a June wedding. We had many mutual friends already and both played softball/baseball in college but had never met until he came into the store where I worked.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:00 pm

    You know you are meant to be after that photo 😉

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    msjackrabbit 1080 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:16 pm

    @Mrs. Wallaby: and it’s getting a biiiiiit more acceptable. i wouldn’t tell anyone how we met for AGES haha!

    @Miss Mongoose: as long as you take a deep breath and breathe out at the right time, it doesn’t hurt half as much :)

    @suburbian: awww that’s so cute! and your BFF and you will be family! amazing story :)

    @Teeny287: oooh do you ever look back and think ‘what if i’d been sick that day?’ – think you’d still have met one way or another? :)

    @shaynapunim: @StephK527: @Mrs. Toadstool: we took about 50 photos that day. absolutely hilarious looking back at them!

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    hlayers 286 posts, Helper bee @ 12:37 pm

    I LOVE this! This is exactly how my fiance and I met! We were both members of an online forum with no intentions of pursuing anything romantic out of it but just gradually started talking to each other more and more first through chat, then on the phone, Skype, and then eventually decided to meet after about 2 years of growing closer and closer. That was in 2009 and we are getting married in April! I love these kind of love stories!!

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 1:00 pm

    This story put a big smile on my face. (Although thinking about getting twenty piercings made me pretty nervous.) :)

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 1:53 pm

    Look how cute you two are, what a great reminder of your first date!

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 3:32 pm

    Don’t judge me, but I was too scared to even get one piercing in my ears until I was in my teens 😉

    I think the different ways people meet is awesome! I definitely think it’s becoming more and more common for people to meet online. I’ve actually know three or four people to get married in just the last year who met online.

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    DBS5127 220 posts, Helper bee @ 7:19 pm

    Ditto to what Miss Blue Whale said – I got my ears pierced in 5th grade and have not even considered one since because I’m such a sissy!

    My fiancé and I met in … wait for it … middle school! We didn’t actually know each other well until junior year of highschool on swim team, although apparently he thought of me as “that cute girl” in middle school. :)

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