Twenty-First Century Meeting

So…who wants to know how Jack and I met?

When I was 19 I got my ears pierced four times in each ear. It wasn’t a clever thing to do—they became really swollen. But it was the start of my mini-obsession with tattoos and piercings. The tongue piercing came next—then the double navel, the nose ring, and my very first tattoo.

In the space of two years I got over 20 piercings (mostly in my ears!) and seven tattoos. A craze like this is typically accompanied by an equally crazy obsession with an online forum. I was hooked. It was busy, but not super busy—all the regular posters were well acquainted with each other and it was a really nice little community. We learnt things, got ideas, and encouraged people to be safe and not stick safety-pins into their skin.

After a while, one of the members suggested a little meet-up with anyone who was local. Most people in the UK headed down to London for the weekend. We met, had dinner and a few drinks, and had a really good time. After the success of that one, they wanted to do another—but a bigger event that needed some proper organisation. I was asked to help, and help I did! I organised another weekend in London for around 60 people, and it was whilst I was organising this that I got talking to a guy who was going to attend.

I probably still have the MSN Messenger log of our very first conversation. And since that day there hasn’t been a day we haven’t spoken to each other, one way or another.

It’s a weird thing, having feelings for someone you haven’t actually met. I guess it’s different from online dating in the sense that we didn’t expect anything out of it. We didn’t talk with the intention of one day going out on a date. It just sort of…happened.

One weekend he came to visit me. We went out, ate dinner, drank wine, watched some jazz…and somehow started the rest of our lives.

But then, I guess you know something’s right when you take photos like this on your first date…


Personal photo

How did you and your SO meet?


Mrs. Jackrabbit

Brighton, UK
Wedding Date:
September 2013
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  1. Member
    hlayers 286 posts, Helper bee @ 12:37 pm

    I LOVE this! This is exactly how my fiance and I met! We were both members of an online forum with no intentions of pursuing anything romantic out of it but just gradually started talking to each other more and more first through chat, then on the phone, Skype, and then eventually decided to meet after about 2 years of growing closer and closer. That was in 2009 and we are getting married in April! I love these kind of love stories!!

  2. bluewhale Member
    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 1:00 pm

    This story put a big smile on my face. (Although thinking about getting twenty piercings made me pretty nervous.) :)

  3. mspony Member
    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 1:53 pm

    Look how cute you two are, what a great reminder of your first date!

  4. mslemur Member
    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 3:32 pm

    Don’t judge me, but I was too scared to even get one piercing in my ears until I was in my teens 😉

    I think the different ways people meet is awesome! I definitely think it’s becoming more and more common for people to meet online. I’ve actually know three or four people to get married in just the last year who met online.

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    DBS5127 220 posts, Helper bee @ 7:19 pm

    Ditto to what Miss Blue Whale said – I got my ears pierced in 5th grade and have not even considered one since because I’m such a sissy!

    My fiancé and I met in … wait for it … middle school! We didn’t actually know each other well until junior year of highschool on swim team, although apparently he thought of me as “that cute girl” in middle school. :)

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