I always knew I would walk down the aisle with my dad on my wedding day.
I know there are a lot of mixed feelings concerning the concept of being “given away.” I didn’t look at it that way; I thought about it as him walking there beside me, just as he has done my entire life. But being honest, to some extent, it felt like he was giving me away.
I’ve never been a daddy’s girl; my dad and I are too much alike to have that close relationship, but he’s been a great support in my life and to some extent it feels like I’ve always been under his wing, for better or worse. So this felt like the last straw of him coming to terms with the fact that I am leaving home, I am all grown up now, I am in a serious relationship with a great man, and I’ll be living with him now (eek!).
There was only one small flaw in my “walk down the aisle with my dad” plan. He had no idea it was happening.
This is the only pic I could find with my dad, and I had to crop out my sister”¦true story.
Since we didn’t have a wedding that’s considered typical around here, no one was sure of what was going to happen, so one day when the whole family was sitting down for dinner and my mom mentioned my dad walking me down the aisle, he just looked at us, blank faced, and asked, “I am doing that? Why?”
We let it slide, since he’s a joker, but I realized I had to set things straight with him. So one day when driving to the baseball game (our one shared joy), I took advantage of our moments alone and talked to him in the one language that works for us both, joking-sarcasm (the same one I used every time I asked permission to go out).
Me: So, are you walking me down the aisle?
Dad: Do I have to?
Dad: But why? *moan*
Me: Because you are my dad, duh.
Me: You have to give me away. What if Mr. Toadstool doesn’t take me?
Dad: Pfff, all right.
So that’s the short story of how I got my dad to walk me down the aisle. I never thought I’d have to ask, but I know, in our very own way, it was meaningful.
So, hive, remember to ask your dad to walk you down the aisle (if that’s what you want, of course). He might not know he has to.
Did/will any of your parents walk you down the aisle? Did/will you ask?
- Obregon, Mexico
- Research Assistant
- Wedding Date:
- December 2012
- Hacienda los Agaves