Too Many Toasters

I mean, say you want to register for a toaster. You go to the Bed Bath & Beyond site and look up toasters—and get this.


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Four pages of toasters—and with 15 on each page that’s over 45 toasters. For people who have really specific tastes, this is probably awesome. Lots of choices! Customize your toaster! Heck, if you want you can get this toaster at $339.99.


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Not only does this toaster have four extra-wide slots and an insulated stainless steel body, it has an auto shutoff and apparently a bell that rings when the toast is done.

To be honest, I was just looking for a toaster that, you know, toasts bread. Like you put the bread in and a few minutes later it pops out warm and browned?

Obviously, this was just an example. I could have proven my point with cookie sheets or blenders—and don’t even get me started on flatware. There are just so many options! I know how to cook and actually enjoy cooking, but up until now I’ve either cooked out of my mom’s kitchen or out of my fully equipped kitchen in my furnished apartment. I didn’t have a brand preference and really had no idea what I even needed. Basically, I was overwhelmed.

I started with bridal registry checklists from sites like The Knot, Real Simple, and Bed Bath & Beyond. Although I definitely don’t agree with all the items on these checklists—ahem, I’ve never heard of anyone registering for a snow blower before?—it gave me a good starting point. I was able to look through the items and come up with basics of things we needed. It was easy to see “Oh, I need to register for a vegetable peeler, ice cream scoop, etc.” while disregarding the things I wasn’t interested in—such as a bar cart or patio furniture.

So I have a basic registry, but just like Miss Mongoose talked about last week—how do you know how many items to put on? Is it really two per guest?

I know we need to add at least a few more items. Right now we have basic kitchen utensils, cookware, etc. But tell me: Is there anything else we need to have? What do you use most in your kitchen? Anything you didn’t register for that you wished you had? What about the other way around?


Mrs. Lemur

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  1. mswallaby Member
    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:29 am

    Girl, don’t listen to people who tell you you need to register for a certain number of items. That’s crazy, and you’ll end up with a lot of stuff that you didn’t really need/want. Think of the things you use right now to cook, add in the things you really wish you had now (and you’ll use often in the future – nothing is worse than a ton of expensive kitchen appliances collecting dust), and you’ll be totally fine. We have plain white towels and dishes (sooo so easy to replace when they’re worn out/broken!), a great set of Le Creuset pots and pans, 3 sharp Wusthof knives (chef’s knife, bread knife, paring knife), and basic things for cooking and baking, and I’m more than happy :) I sometimes wish we had registered for a powerful blender, though.

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    Dela2012 133 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:35 am

    I found BBB’s website really hard to select from (not that many review). I actually found items on amazon (which I found easier to search and decide on) and then added them to BBB if they had them or put them on our amazon registry if not. I’d register for a knife block, really nice salt and pepper grinders and a good tea kettle. Those are all things you use, and have out in the kitchen that are fun to have good quality of.

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    madteaparty 1099 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:39 am

    I love everything about this post since FI and I just registered last week! At first it was overwhelming, but we used the guide from Bed Bath and Beyond while browsing the store to have a good starting point, as well. I’ve learned from personal experience where the money should be spent when it comes to your kitchen. Sure, it probably seems like a good idea to add a fondue set, bread maker, and quesadilla maker to your registry, but how often are you going to use these things? When it came to more expensive items, we chose a good knife set and mixer (my mom has had so many hand mixers break on her, and I love to bake!). Toaster? You probably don’t need an expensive one. They all do the same thing, lol. Think of the things you use the MOST and that’s where you want to pick the better items. Good luck! After three whole days of looking over my registry constantly, I can finally say that I’m satisfied with what we have on it. Now to wait and see what we get!

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    superduperbrit 2466 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:41 am

    We still don’t own a toaster (we’ve been married 4 months and 1 day) because toaster shopping stresses me out. They are flimsy sometime. I think I shall just order one off of amazon eventually with a good review and be done with it.

    We JUST NOW got a blender. I feel your pain, lol.

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    S, Guest @ 7:59 am

    @Dela2012: *reviews

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    estella, Guest @ 8:01 am

    Items that I registered for that I absolutely love:
    New knife set complete with knife block
    Oxo bag clips in assorted sizes
    China- we are the type of people who use our china all of the time
    Kitchenaid mixer
    Modal sheets

    Items I wish I had registered for in hindsight:
    Salad spinner
    New cookie sheets/baking sheets
    Cake plate and serving set
    Cake carriers for both round cakes and sheet cakes/cupcakes

    Items I regret registering for:
    Silicone bakeware. It doesn’t cook things like my metal bakeware does and that frustrates me.
    Ceramic pie plates – they get too hot and the crust always burns and sticks

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    tracylesq 590 posts, Busy bee @ 8:02 am

    The toaster I registered for is still in the box, in the basement. I wish I had more counter space to use it.

    Must have registry items: more kitchen towels than you think. The colors get discontinued and the towels get stained. Get some extras.

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    Red Poppy 31 posts, Newbee @ 8:09 am

    I didn’t register for a toaster (my husband doesn’t really like toasted bread, how funny!), but the items I registered for that I use every single day are a coffee maker, good pots and pans, good knives, cooking utensils, versatile flatware and water glasses, pretty throw pillows, towels, nice picture frames, and my coffee table. Items I use often are basic china, a slow cooker, bakeware, serving pieces (like a chip & dip), a pretty lamp, and vacuum cleaner. Items I’m glad to have but don’t use often include stand mixer, luggage, and an iron. I have never used my juicer, hahaha, but I recently bought a blender with a BB&B coupon and wish I had registered for one of those instead. Hope that helps!

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    Mrs. Bracelet 279 posts, Helper bee @ 8:12 am

    We had 3.5 registries (BB&B, Amazon & Bloomingdales – and the Silversuperstore because they had the same china as Bloomingdales much cheaper, but a horrible website) and a lot fewer items than “suggested” – and we ended up getting only a fraction of that.
    Overall, I’m very happy about every single item that people gifted us from our registries. I went in an bought the rest of the “needed to set up household” items after the wedding, such as a vacuum cleaner, stand mixer, duvet cover etc.
    My most beloved kitchen items: our Shun 8″ chef knife (I never knew what difference an amazing knife makes!), garlic press, pastry blender, measuring cups, marble work surface, salad spinner, double boiler, big & small pots.
    I think a stand mixer (though hyped up to be the best thing ever) is not a necessity, but a good blender is! So missing that in our kitchen right now. It’s amazing how many recipes call for pureeing something.

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    Brittany, Guest @ 8:18 am

    My favorite things from our kitchen registery are the kitchen aide stand mixer and our tassimo coffee machine. It’s really all about what you like to do in the kitchen… sure you dont need a 300 dollar toaster but it is the one time that if there is something you have always wanted in your kitchen but just didnt see spending money on it to put down. Maybe no one will buy it but hey if they do then you dont have to wish for it.

  11. mslemur Member
    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 8:19 am

    @Mrs. Wallaby: I actually did register for a more expensive blender (although not ridiculous like a Vitamix blender… I still want one though) and someone made the comment “oh, you shouldn’t register for something that expensive!” Which made me feel bad, but I’m not forcing anyone to buy it. I’m totally fine if it doesn’t get bought, and I have plentyyy on there that’s in the under $100 and under $50 price range.

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 8:23 am

    @Dela2012: Oh I did this too! I found something on Bed, Bath, & Beyond that looked awesome but the reviews on Amazon were awful… but if no one reviews it on Bed, Bath, & Beyond how am I supposed to know? Super unhelpful but it worked out!

    @madteaparty: Someone said “Register for a salad spinner!” and I’m like umm what’s a salad spinner? Haha! I’m guessing if I’ve never used it before it’s not that important to register for right now. I totally feel you about looking over the registry over & over though.

    @SuperDuperBrit: So glad to hear there’s someone else out there who gets overwhelmed by the stress of all those toasters. FOR REAL it’s ridiculous!

  13. mslemur Member
    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 8:26 am

    @estella: Can I ask a really dumb question? What’s a salad spinner? I mentioned in the comment above someone else told me to register for one but I have no idea what it is! I did already get my knife set and I’m SO excited about it! My future mother-in-law purchased it for us.

    @tracylesq: Good advice on the towels. Mrs. Wallaby mentioned those too! I guess I think “Oh, I’m never going to have more than two towels out at a time…” but it’s definitely good to have extras. I know my mom would ask for towels every couple of years at Christmas… haha a boring gift but she loved them and having new ones!

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 8:32 am

    @Red Poppy: I kind of want a juicer but I’m afraid I’ll never use it! I guess there’s a part of me that’s like “What if I register for fancy things and people buy me those INSTEAD of what I really need?” You know, like utensils, plates, pots & pans. My future grandparents-in-law (is that a thing?) graciously bought us a beautiful set of pots & pans though!

    @Mrs. Bracelet: Ok, I feel much better about registering for a more expensive blender now. Like I told Mrs. Wallaby, it wasn’t Vitamix expensive, but it was more than just your basic blender. I also have things from several stores on my Amazon registry — it’s so convenient, but I feel like people use it less!

    @Brittany: This may sound weird — I’m not a coffee drinker but I LOVE steamed rice and registered for a nicer rice cooker. My parents have one from when they lived in Japan and I think it’s the greatest thing ever. So I guess that’s my bigger item that I’d like but don’t have to get… I guess I’m just a little quirky like that :)

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    estella, Guest @ 8:43 am

    @Miss Lemur: There are no dumb questions! A salad spinner dries your leafy vegetables after rinsing them. Before I had one I hated making salads because I’d have to use tons of paper towels to dry my lettuce leaves. It actually makes making a salad not so annoying now! We have this Oxo spinner:

    Also, my toddler loves putting toys in the spinner and pushing the knob, so she’s very happy we have one, too.

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    futuremrshockey, Guest @ 8:44 am

    If your going to be short on counter space and need a microwave and toaster…they make some that are both. I have never had one piece of toast burn!

  17. msarmadillo Member
    msarmadillo 497 posts, Helper bee @ 9:00 am

    Someone actually just bought the toaster off our registry! It wasn’t expensive, I think $29.99 from Target. I don’t see the point in a fancy, schmancy one when they all pretty much do the same thing, haha. There are a few items I really hope we score off our registries, but Mr. A and I will of course be grateful for anything people end up buying us. We’re just starting out so we don’t have any nice things that match, so it’ll be nice to get a few sturdier kitchen items (like new pots and pans…fingers crossed on that one!)

  18. mslemur Member
    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 9:17 am

    @futuremrshockey: Oh I wish I knew what my future kitchen was going to look like! Unfortunately with uncertainty around Mr. Lemur’s job & me finishing up school we don’t have that luxury. I guess it’s better to ere on the side of not having a ton of space though, right?

    @Miss Armadillo: Oh we’re definitely starting at the basic level too! I’ve actually been overwhelmed already with how much people have gotten us. Even families at my parent’s church who I haven’t seen for years have been very generous. Mr. Lemur’s grandparents bought us eleven pots & pans—eleven! I think that will cover us for awhile 😉

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    futuremrshockey, Guest @ 9:44 am

    Right:-) and if you have extra space more space for cooking and baking!

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    futuresoccerwife 4 posts, Wannabee @ 10:23 am

    When we registered at BBB, I wrote down a list of things that I need/wanted and did a couple of consumer reviews on the products as well as ask my sister and mom what brands they had or reccommended. From all of my research, cuisinart is the way to go for kitchen appliances (toasters, convection oven, blender, etc) as well as OXO for kitchen tools/gadgets. I hated BBB’s flatware, so boring and everyone has them so I went the other route and registered for them at Crate & Barrel while I got my china at Pottery Barn! Do alot of research and consumer reviews when selecting a product, it really helps!

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    brooklyn55 743 posts, Busy bee @ 10:30 am

    I have struggled with the registry. Mainly because my fiance and I are sort of in limbo after we get married. We will be living in a furnished apartment for no more than 4 months. Then we plan on moving (hes a teacher so we plan to move after the school year ends in June). Its hard to know what you are going to need for a new place when you don’t even know what that place is. The other problem is we have a TON of stuff. His mom is one of those who upgrades everything ALL THE TIME. Thanks for her we have really nice dishes, brand new casserole bakeware, multiple crock pots, pots and pans and all this stuff looks brand new because its at my fiances apartment and he never cooks. We also somehow ended up with a brand new dyson vacuum. When I started registering the only thing I could think of that we needed was new bakeware (cookie sheets, muffin sheets), desperate need of towels (we have a bunch of worn out mismatched towels), kitchen towels, flatware and drinking cups (again, ours are mismatched). We also need new bedding for both our king bed and the queen we will put in the spare room (but again this furniture will be in storage until June) and i’d like to know what our place is before we decide on something. I probably only have about 35 items on my 2 registries (Belks and Target). We are inviting 187 guests. Most of my items are getting purchased because I am having a shower in 2 weeks with around 30 guests. I am having our families spread that we prefer gift cards or cash since we don’t have a lot of room to store stuff (which is true) but we know we need to have the option available. I may just register for random stuff at Target and if it doesn’t work, Target has an easy return policy!

  22. msmongoose Member
    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 10:39 am

    I agree with Wallaby, don’t put anything on your registry that some person or some list tells you to buy just because! We made sure that every item on our registry has a specific usefulness. Interestingly enough, this is why we did not register for patterned fine china (instead we just registered for a nice set of matching dishware).

    Mr. M and I are just not the fine china type of couple. Now maybe sometime down the line we’ll see that we do need it but at that point who knows what our tastes/decor may be like in the future? I’d rather wait for something like that to see if I’ll actually use it.

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    ghiagirl893 347 posts, Helper bee @ 10:40 am

    They have way too many options! That is, for everything but sewing machines.

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    ItalianTraveler 57 posts, Worker bee @ 2:40 pm

    Forget things besides kitchen items!!! You still needs sheets for your bed, bath towels for getting out of the shower (extra if you ever plan on having guest), and other things around the house. Its amazing the little things you don’t realize you need and could register for. Picture frames for all your wedding photos you plan to display?? Put them on your registry! Decorational items like baskets and shelves?? Put them on your registry!! I registered for a TON of kitchen stuff, and really, I think it was all the other things I needed the most and loved when I got them.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 6:06 pm

    Mr. P used to have a toaster/microwave combo and it rocked, but he said he wouldn’t buy one again because if one part goes out, you need to replace two things. Just putting that out there.
    I say register for quality things, you’ll use them all the time and they will last years!

  26. mslemur Member
    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 7:02 pm

    @futuresoccerwife: I had the hardest time with flatware! I put one on my registry, saw it in person and decided it was too cheap (even though I hate putting expensive flatware on), upgraded, took it off, couldn’t decide… I too wasn’t happy with Bed, Bath, & Beyond’s flatware!

    @Brooklyn55: That’s so awesome that you have all of that stuff! My mother-in-law is graciously giving me a lot too. She also loves Pampered Chef so she put in a huge order. So excited to get it :) I also feel you on the not knowing where you’ll be living thing… ours is so up in the air. Mr. Lemur just got a full-time job last week so at least we know the city we’ll be living in. I still need a job and to finish school and to move 800 miles though 😉

  27. mslemur Member
    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 7:06 pm

    @Miss Mongoose: We didn’t register for fine china either, although I did register for nice dishes. Although they’re not “fancy,” they’re definitely great quality and simple enough to use with anything! I figure later in life I can have two sets of dishes :)

    @ghiagirl893: The options are so overwhelming! Although I can’t say I looked for a sewing machine so I have no idea about that :)

    @ItalianTraveler: I did register for nice sheets for our bed (two pairs) and plenty of towels! I didn’t think about registering for extra little things (although I still can) but we did get some sweet decorative items that weren’t even on our registry at my first bridal shower.

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 7:09 pm

    @Mrs. Pony: Good thought! I’m also pretty sure the apartment we’re looking at moving into already has a microwave. Although I know not all places do :) I wanted to go with good quality without being over the top expensive, you know?

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    ender1687, Guest @ 6:45 pm

    A salad spinner is for when you are putting together a salad from a head or heart of lettuce or greens. You need to wash and dry the leaves to get rid of dirt or pesticides. A salad spinner has three parts: a basket that spins, a knob or plunger, and the outer bin. You put the wet lettuce in the basket, spin the basket with the knob with the knob, and the water is forced out of the basket into the bin and your salad is dry!

    You could also buy prewashed, precut salad, or dry lettuce with paper towels, but the salad spinner is what you can use if you don’t want to do those.

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