Heel Height

Mr. Lemur is definitely taller than I am. In this shot from our engagement pictures, you can see he easily has four or five inches on me—taller but not towering over me.


Photo by Niki Marie Photography

If I wear a normal sized heel, I’m just shorter than Mr. Lemur by an inch or two. I’m totally comfortable with this, and wear heels often. Would I wear a pair of shoes like this with a six-and-a-half-inch heel?


Image via Zappos

Well, probably not. It’s just not my style! And I mean, I’m not even sure I could walk in those, but that’s beside the point!

Now look at this picture of my whole family at Lake Superior this summer…


Personal photo / Mr. Lemur, me, Sister E, Sister E’s boyfriend, Sister A, Brother D

OK, so maybe it’s a slight incline. But it gets my point across—I’m definitely the shortest in the family! And Mr. Lemur is pretty close in height to both of my sisters.

In fact, throw a pair of three- or four-inch heels on either Sister E or Sister A and I’m pretty sure he’d be looking up at them. Mr. Lemur’s brothers (the groomsmen) aren’t necessarily tall either. Now, I’m not saying it would be a huge deal if they wore heels, but we’re definitely thinking of going with a flat sandal. I’m pretty sure they’d be more comfortable like that anyway!

If they wear a more casual sandal, what should I wear? I was leaning toward heels at first, but now I love the idea of being able to walk around all day no problem, not trip on my dress, be comfortable, match my sisters…

Did you wear heels and love it? Regret it? Wish you had worn the shoes of your dreams? DID wear the shoes of your dreams?


Mrs. Lemur

Greenville, South Carolina
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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    BookishBelle 1629 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:08 am

    I honestly didn’t feel my heels until the second before our sparkler exit. Not because they were comfortable. They weren’t. They KILLED during every fitting and wearing them in around the house. I just was so happy and nervous and hectic etc etc that I didn’t feel a thing until that moment when we finally were alone w/ a second to breathe and I realized “Omg my feet are KILLING me!”

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    ItsPronounced_ABear 715 posts, Busy bee @ 8:16 am

    I wore low-ish heels (maybe 2.5 inches) through the ceremony, pictures, and about 1.5 hours of the reception. My feet weren’t really killing me or anything, but since I had my pretty, sparkly flats waiting for me for dancing, I didn’t want them to go to waste!

    By the way, my alterations lady strongly advised against changing shoes because ‘my dress would be dragging on the floor.’ To be honest, I barely notices. Since I was mostly dancing, I was hiking up my dress anyway!

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    Mrs. B., Guest @ 8:35 am

    My groom and I are pretty short. I wore flat sandals to be comfortable. My maid of honor likes heels and thought that they looked best with her short dress. I let her pick whatever she wanted and thought was comfortable. My maid of honor was 5’11” in her heels and my husband’s best man was 6’3″. They were definitely taller than both of us in pictures, by a lot, but it looked fine. My suggestion would be to let your bridesmaids wear whatever they think looks best and what feels comfortable to them and you pick the shoes that you think look the best and are comfortable for you.

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    debeachgirl 543 posts, Busy bee @ 8:40 am

    I had heels that I loved for the ceremony and I intended to wear them for the intros and dances. Yeah that didn’t happen. I was fine when I practiced in them, yet the day of the wedding my foot slid out of the heel TWICE on my walk up the aisle. Talk about a pain I was wo rried I was going to fall and couldn’t get my foot back in place easily. Needless to say the heels came off pretty early in the reception as I didn’t want to attempt intros or dances when my feet kept slipping out. I don’t know what caused it to happen they honestly fit fine. It was okay b/c I had my silver Converse Chuck Taylors to put on. So comfy and a great decision. Normally I switch to flip flops but it was too cold in January. Also the Mr. isn’t that much taller and heels make us close in height.

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:57 am

    My only superpower is to be able to wear heels of any height, for almost unlimited amounts of time. It’s really weird. So I wear heels all the time, I loove being tall and elongating my legs. I wore 5″ heels for our ceremony, and I love the way they photographed. I changed into flats for the reception, because I knew it would be easier to dance in them and I wouldn’t step on anyone’s feet :) If you are not a heels girl, don’t wear heels – I’ve read so many recaps where girls say their feet were killing them the whole time! It’s really, really not worth it. And there’s an endless supply of cute flats out there these days, so you can find just about anything!

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    tcgstar 1178 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:25 am

    I have heels for the ceremony an first dance, then I’ll be changing into blinged out canvas running shoes for the party. I want to save my feet :)

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    missmovies 351 posts, Helper bee @ 9:39 am

    @Mrs. Wallaby: I have the same power!!!

    So FI is 13 inches taller than me. I’ll be wearing 5 inch loubs the whole night! =c )

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 10:25 am

    I’m wearing flats – have you looked into TOMS? I know I’ve mentioned them on oodles of other posts but I can’t help it. ;x I’m going with the Blue Glitters and am so excited to not have to worry about achey feet for the entire day.

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    bride2bee2013 7 posts, Newbee @ 11:28 am

    FI is only about 3 (he’ll tell you 3.5) inches taller than me so I routinely run into this issue. I have much better posture and tend to walk without shuffling when I wear heels so I am going with a very low heel, but heel just the same. The RSVP Sadie has a 1 3/4″ heel but does not feel like a “kitten heel” at all and comes in a lot of color options (http://www.zappos.com/rsvp-sadie)

    The bow on front reminds me of a mustache (almost like the designer forgot to finish it!) so I bought some crystal shoe clips on Esty courtesy of some inspiration I found on Wedding Bee: http://bios.weddingbee.com/pics/51456/IMG_0604.JPG


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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 11:52 am

    Wear something you love! I didn’t notice any pain until the next day, I was too happy to be bothered by some foot pain :)

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 11:52 am

    @BookishBelle: Oh man, I don’t think I could handle this! I’d probably complain about them all night and Mr. Lemur would be like seriously? You should have worn other shoes! haha

    @ItsPronounced_ABear: I didn’t even think about that! I need to get my dress altered, but I didn’t consider the fact that changing shoes midway through would change the length of the dress. Mine is a flowy silk chiffon dress though so I’m not too worried about it.

    @Mrs. B.: Oh I know if I give them the option they’ll wear flats! I’m not even sure my sisters own a pair of heels haha. That’s the main reason I’m not pushing heels on them, although their height is a factor.

    @DEBeachGirl: Heels make us close in height but I wear heels all the time for work and it doesn’t bother me… I’d be way more concerned about tripping on my dress or coming down the aisle!

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 11:55 am

    @Mrs. Wallaby: I wear heels all the time for work, but I’m in business so they’re usually pretty boring 3″-4″ pumps in neutral colors haha. I love love wearing heels but I wear skirts a lot so I just think it looks better. I never wear heels with a long dress though…

    @tcgstar: So many people do this! Love it :)

    @missmovies: Oh my gosh, 13 inches!! That’s too cute though, love that you can rock the heels :)

    @StephK527: My friend has a pair of the blue glitter Toms! They’re not really my style but they look AWESOME on her… I can totally see her wearing them on her wedding day.

    @Mrs. Pony: You guys are way tougher than me I’m pretty sure 😉 I’d be all like “Ahh I can’t walk I can’t walk…” complaining the whole time!

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    msarmadillo 497 posts, Helper bee @ 12:16 pm

    I knew I wanted to wear heels but in real life I can’t tolerate anything higher than maybe 2 1/2 inches. Mr. A is like 8 inches taller than me, so that definitely wasn’t an issue…comfort was! My shoes have a 2 3/4 inch heel, and I’m hoping I can keep them on most of the night!

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    bailey12 366 posts, Helper bee @ 1:21 pm

    I’m wearing flats because my fiance is actually shorter than me. I hate wearing heels because then I am towering over him. I am planning on wearing something like Lavender Wang Luna or glittery flats.

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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:45 am

    When I wear heels, I’m dangerously close to being taller than my fiance, and he hates it. But I love the feeling of wearing heels and feeling ohsofierce! So I think I might have to compromise and wear high enough heels that I feel fabulous, but not so high that I tower over him for the ceremony, and possibly change into pretty flats for the reception. Both for comfort, and just to get another pair of pretty shoes! 😉

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