Let’s Talk about Rings

I’ve already talked about my perfect proposal and the jealousy that inevitably creeps in when you compare yourself to others. Because what’s right for you is almost certainly not right for someone else. Even when someone tells you “Oh, that’s the exact ring I want!” (that happened this weekend), it doesn’t mean their story is anything like yours—or should be! So this post is about my ring, but I want to make a few extraneous remarks too.

Miss Jackrabbit has a really awesome post on her moissanite ring and just rings in general, so I won’t repeat her here! But it goes without saying that if you have a huge diamond or a small diamond or a colored gem or a scientifically-created stone (umm, cool!), the most important thing is just that you rock the heck out of that thing.

I already mentioned Mr. Lemur and I picked out the ring together, but during our the summer when we were also long distance (ugh) I wanted to get an idea for what kind of ring I liked in person, not just from pictures online.

Side note: This is how I found Weddingbee! I was searching for rings online and came across threads in the ring forum, which led me to the blog, eventually.

So way back in June, I went and tried on rings with a friend. For girls who want to go ring shopping but don’t want to drag their significant others along: Just do it. Take a girlfriend and say “I want to look at rings to get an idea of what I might like!” They’ll let you try on as many rings as you want. I told the lady at Kay’s I was looking for a princess cut solitaire with a cathedral setting, and she showed me this ring.


Personal photo/The ring I preferred is on my right hand. In the second picture I’m wearing a similar, but slightly bulkier, ring on my left hand.

The jeweler wasn’t pushy necessarily, but she definitely encouraged me to try on some other rings. I did, and each time I kept gravitating back to the simple solitaire. For me, once I figured out what I wanted, trying it on didn’t make that much of a difference. It simply solidified how I had felt while looking at rings online, on other people, etc. So I sent the pictures and a link to Mr. Lemur—not subtle at all, huh?

Mr. Lemur ordered the diamond and band separately from a jeweler friend, and I may have gotten some pictures along the way. Shh. I don’t think people are supposed to know he sent me the original ring pictures!

Somehow, though, when I first saw the ring I wasn’t thinking “Yep, this is the one I picked out.” I was thinking “We’re getting married!” And having a gorgeous ring was pretty cool too.


Personal photo/I think this picture turned out pretty well for a quick shot on my iPhone in front of the waterfall where we got engaged!

So tell me your ring stories! Anyone have a really unique ring or ring story out there? Do I have any ring twins? Did you pick out your ring or did your significant other surprise you?


Mrs. Lemur

Greenville, South Carolina
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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    Heidi, Guest @ 8:18 am

    I have the most perfect ring! It isn’t a usual engagement ring but a shooting star shape holding 9 diamonds. I have always loved stars and knew that it would be impossible to incorporate one into my engagement ring so when we saw this together, I knew it was the one!
    It is truly unique and everyone comments about how perfect it is for me. I love it :)

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    primcess 209 posts, Helper bee @ 8:49 am

    I still get caught just sitting and staring at my ring. My FI designed it himself based on some pictures I showed him — it’s one of a kind and better than I could have ever picked out on my own. I had a hard time deciding between a princess and a round-cut diamond, and the round stone that he picked is set in such a way that it almost has corners — making it look a little like a princess cut! One more thing, the ring is flat on the bottom, which I LOVE. Keeps the diamond on the top of my finger, right where it belongs.

    Thanks for sharing your ring story!

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:57 am

    I am so on the same page as you. I love my ring (Mr. W picked it out – I had a little say but it was ultimately a surprise) but when he proposed, I was way, way more excited about marrying him than I was about the ring. I love sparkly jewelry, but the ring didn’t even compare 😉

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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:19 am

    Gorgeous! I love that you got the waterfall in the background. :)

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    brooklyn55 743 posts, Busy bee @ 9:42 am

    My fiance and I went ring shopping together. It was fairly casual though and about a year before he popped the question. We went to both Jared’s and Zale’s and I fell in love with 2 very different rings. I told him the final decision was up to him because I could not decide! I was scared when he picked I would wish he choose the other but once I got my ring (from Zale’s) I forgot about what the other even looked like. I will admit though, its been almost 3 years since I picked this ring out and I have fallen in love with a different style so I have a feeling an upgrade will happen in the future although for now, I want my original ring for our wedding day.

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    Ms_Maple 115 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:48 am

    I gave my fiance loose guidelines. I told him I liked halo rings and wasn’t opposed to stones other than diamonds. He found the most gorgeous ring (for me) a halo setting with a diamond and sapphires around it. I didn’t know it existed so I was pretty surprised!

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    pinkpre 132 posts, Blushing bee @ 10:17 am

    we designed my ring together, but we didn’t tell anyone! It was a sweet little secretive mission that we we would work on together. Trips to the jeweler, pondering sketches, playing with wax models. SO much fun! Initially we were going to go with Moissanite because designing a ring left very little room in our budget for a diamond. We were gifted an heirloom stone from his mother and it makes me feel so incredibly special to be welcomed into his family in that way.

    So yes, I did know what my ring would look like. But nothing in the world would have prepared me for how beautiful it would look on my finger after he proposed <3

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    debeachgirl 543 posts, Busy bee @ 10:42 am

    I found wedding bee the same way you did. The Mr. picked my ring out with his mom. IT was a family stone from his side of the family. Not anything I would have thought I wanted but I love it. Then my wedding band has diamonds from my Mom-Mom so I love that my rings are from each of our families. Both rings were set at his family’s jeweler where his Nana was their first customer. I think that is pretty cool.

    My diamonds came from a family jeweler friend as well. My Pop-Pop gifted them to my Mom-Mom in a necklace, and the jeweler was a guy whose life he saved in the Army. I didn’t wear the necklace much (hearts aren’t really my thing) but now I can wear it everyday. SIL has my Mom-Mom’s reset e-ring from the same jeweler and my Mom’s ring also came from guy. So they are sort of all tied together.

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 11:02 am

    I love your ring. It is so simple and beautiful – it also looks great on your hand. I know that sounds odd, but seriously, it just FITS.

    I sent my FI links to three rings that I loved, totally expecting him to pick from one of the three. Instead, he took a ton of initiative (for him it was a ton, Lol) and used the ‘inspiration’ to find his own. I was so shocked when he proposed. . .I think the first real, non-squealed sentence was “did I send you that?” It’s perfect.

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    sinfoniaxid 62 posts, Worker bee @ 11:29 am

    I got my ring from Kay, and my fiancé and I actually had our own little online search set up and would message each other pictures. I knew when he bought it (he texted me, the boy just can’t keep a secret) and I knew when we were getting engaged since I had to travel to see him (it sorta makes it obvious!) AND i stayed in his apartment for a week knowing the ring was there, in his safe box, and not being able to see it!

    It was still a surprise to have it on my finger though, and I love that we did most of the process together – isn’t that what marriage is, doing things together? I have no regrets about knowing about my ring beforehand.

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 3:34 pm

    @Heidi: This sounds SO beautiful! Congrats!!

    @primcess: I stare at my ring all the time 😉 I went back & forth between princess & round too… but I just loved the classic lines of the princess cut!

    @Mrs. Wallaby: It’s kinda like it was already so amazing and the ring was like the icing on the cake 😉 does it get any better??

    @Blonde17Jess: THANK YOU! I love that picture!

    @Brooklyn55: I go back & forth about if I would ever want to upgrade… on one hand I love that this is the ring he proposed with, while on the other hand it might be nice to get an upgrade someday! I guess we’ll see when it happens :)

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 3:39 pm

    @Ms_Maple: Oh I love that it’s a combination of stones! You don’t usually see that. Sounds beautiful :)

    @pinkpre: I love having secrets with Mr. Lemur! It was like we planned the proposal together and got to surprise everyone else… it was my absolute favorite thing.

    @DEBeachGirl: I love that you’re wearing jewelry from family members! I’m a little jealous that I won’t have that, but maybe someday I can pass on my diamond to my daughter :)

    @StephK527: I think it fits too! Of course, I’m biased :) props to your fiance for doing something really unique! Love it!

    @SinfoniAXiD: Hehe, I love that Mr. Lemur can’t keep a secret from me 😉 and I totally agree. Marriage is about doing things together, and to me picking out my ring together was incredibly special.

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    DBS5127 220 posts, Helper bee @ 6:01 pm

    I didn’t have any input into my ring – I had NO clue he was proposing. Honestly, I was starting to be one of those worrying-so-much-he’d-never-propose-that-I-brought-it-up-every-time-I-could girls. When he proposed, he didn’t have the ring yet (very spur of the moment proposal). He proposed with a ring that was his great-grandmother’s, which he wasn’t using as my e-ring because it was a crystal. My birthday is in April, so he really wanted me to have a diamond for my stone!
    My ring has a diamond and two ice sapphires. He gave me an “I love you” ring years ago that was blue topaz, so my e-ring matches it pretty close!

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    BeeEuphoric 113 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:29 pm

    I had my setting and diamond picked out before we got engaged, and purchased it after he asked me to marry him. I also paid for half of it, because I felt too guilty asking him to spend thousands of dollars on me, so paying for half eased my guilt about it. :) lol

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    alyssa719 32 posts, Newbee @ 5:49 am

    We went ring shopping together for a few months before getting engaged… and he knew I was a fan of the 3 stone rings. In the end, he fell in love with a solitaire from Tiffany (etoile) and was so afraid that I would hate it because it wasn’t at all what I’d talked about (smaller because they’re more expensive, and one diamond instead of multiple) so he took me with him after he had done investigating on his own. Once I saw its’ sparkle I fell in love with it though and am so happy that he did what he thought I would like, and what would match my lifestyle (it has a low setting so I won’t get it caught on things) instead of what I thought I wanted.

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 6:55 am

    @DaniLyn: Ahh I love that it was a true surprise! Funny how we worry and worry about how it will never happen and then when it does it’s perfect :)

    @BeeEuphoric: Ahh. Guilt over the ring. I totally felt this too. A few weeks after our engagement I almost asked him to return it and just buy me something cheaper because I felt so bad about all the money he spent on it! Of course, he says it’s really just an investment for the future because I’ll make him lots of money someday 😉

    @alyssa719: Oh that’s beautiful! He sounds so sweet :) My ring is a mid-high setting but I worried about it catching on things. It hasn’t really but I sit at a desk all day!

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    jujee 211 posts, Helper bee @ 11:12 pm

    I really really love my ring, I’m not married yet…I just don’t kno0w if I like the band…should I go with a twisted band instead??

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