Not an obvious theme, anyway. Like vintage or pink-and-green or chevron. We have no set colours, no year, no anything really. I guess our “theme” is just…us.
We did think about a theme, but nothing really stood out. He is a musician and songwriter with a love of things from his childhood like Pokemon and the Nintendo. I work in an office and like crafty, pretty things. I’m not really big on music, and he’s not really big on crafts, so both of those things can’t really make a “theme” without excluding one of us.
What about things we both like? Like tattoos and piercings since we met on a body-modification website? Well, we’re not really that big on all that now, so that seems a bit pointless. And we both like science stuff…but not enough that it’s something that represents our relationship. We like vintage-style things but aren’t “vintage” people, so that would also look a bit weird…every way we looked at it, we were lost. How could we come up with a theme if we didn’t represent anything as a couple?
Then he said something that made me think. “Well, look at our living room. Nothing in there matches—it doesn’t have a theme. But it…works. Everything just goes together well. That’s who we are—we should just go with whatever and trust that it’ll look right because everything else we do works just fine.”
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Our living room for reference—a bit of a mash-up, but it works! (I think.)
So that’s what we’ve done. No theme, no grand scheme, just…whatever we fancy. And so far it’s working well! I wonder if I’ll have a mini freak-out closer to the time when I think “Oh my god, why couldn’t I have had a theme! At least I would have known everything would have matched!”
But for now I’m quite content. I just have a feeling that everything will work out, that I won’t feel pressured to have a specific thing because “it fits the theme,” and I’ll be able to change my mind about things without worrying that it won’t match. That’s the plan, anyway.
Did/do you have a specific wedding theme?
Love this 
I think there is a general movement towards less of a “theme” style wedding and I’m glad. It becomes unauthentic and forced. Glad to see your going this route!
Also I am now obsessed with the KlepperGray series since Mrs. Unicycle posted the Invitation Envy post!! So here is one on “theme”
Don’t sweat the all famed “theme”. We didn’t have one and I we didn’t need one.
I picked things that worked well together; things that I liked and thought were classic/pretty/useful. I did use the turquoise color of our wedding invite and my dress as a light guideline. Everything wound up looking great.
I told people who asked that our theme was “wedding.” SMP called it rustic at some point. There was no theme, darn it!
I remember our cake lady asking us for a theme…I was like we dont really have one. She looked at me like I was crazy. I showed her some of the ideas we liked for cakes and some of the decor ideas. She was like so its a rustic diy with some bling… so I guess thats our theme lol
I’m a theme loving freak as is obvious from my posts! I loved choosing things to go with my theme, but that said, everyone should have the wedding that they love! Your theme is a lack of theme. It works! And your wedding is already beautiful, I love all the details you’ve shared so far.
@faeriegirl05: Haha, yea vendors are the ones who ask about themes the most often!
Ha! It’s funny, people keep asking what the “theme” is… And I have decided that the theme is that we love each other and are getting married. Lol. I mean, it’s a wedding reception… Not a circus, a Broadway show, or a carnival. Hooray for a wedding that is *just* a wedding
We ended up with an accidental theme. We started with a vague color scheme–shades of browns/tans–and started picking stuff from there. Somehow we ended up with a lot of tree/wood-looking things. Our invitations have trees punched out of them, the bridesmaids’ gifts are necklaces with open work leaves on them, FI got himself and the dads wooden tie bars in different exotic woods, a couple of other similar things…… All of these were individual, unrelated, decisions–we were just picking things we like and apparently we’re both into wood and trees–but it ends up looking cohesive, and like I spent way more time thinking about this than really did. So, that’s pretty cool I guess. You may surprise yourselves!
I think not having a theme gives you freedom, you can go here and there and not feel guilty about cheating the theme.
I found myself “finding my theme” along the way, when I prefered certain things or tried to incorporate certain elements over and over again, and altough it was not “right there” to be considered a theme, it did made everything match 
We didn’t have a theme either. We told people our color scheme was “Everything Look Nice.”
Our theme is “relaxed theme” because I refused to get stressed out about trying to pick a theme lol
We were the same way. Our theme is “Our favorite things”. We’re having our ceremony in our favorite park, the reception is in a new banquet hall owned by our favorite local restaurant, our cake is coming from our favorite bakery.
That being said, everything circled around our color scheme-pink, brown, and ivory. I think everything will look amazing!!
dont worry about theme! But im sure your asking this bc your not sure how to “decorate” your wedding..how about a decor/theme for the season you plan on getting married? For example, my wedding will be in spring, so my “theme” is flowers and spring colors. Simple easy, yet so many options! good luck!
don’t get intimidated by others
I wouldn’g worry about anything, just go with what your heart tells you. i always loved the vintage theme, or a Gygpsie theme, that to me means, go with anything at all. Wedding are so overrated that you have to be this or you have to do that or go with that. NA. you do what you can afford and do what your heart tells you.
Pffft, who needs a theme? Our theme was “Have the best time we possibly can!” Our color scheme was “whatever looks nice” – I am not the biggest fan of monochromatic or duochromatic weddings and events. Yay for mix-and-match, anything-goes attitudes – I think it always does come together to look lovely
I’m not sure I have a theme exactly…maybe shabby chic rustic? Pretty much I liked some rustic stuff and I liked some stuff with fancier vintage details? I didn’t really focus on what my theme is more-so than what I DIDN’T want the theme to be. And that’s a fall theme, just because I’m getting married in September doesn’t mean my whole wedding has to reflect the supposed “fall season”. I put a firm no to all pumpkins, apples, and fall leaves for decor. When I look at my wedding photos I want them to not be overly season based no matter what season I get married in.
I think themed weddings are really fun and cute, but I just didn’t want to commit to anything, so my theme was “wedding” haha. Even colors, I had a pretty broad palette — pinks, purples, champagne, ivory, black — but as long as you choose what you like, it’ll work!
I’m totally jealous of people like you that can just pick pieces you like and it looks designed and intentionally mismatched and charming! When I try things like that, it just looks like a hot mess/garage sale. If your living room looks that good, I’m sure your wedding is going to look just fab.
We don’t have a theme or even “wedding colors”. Everyone keeps asking, and it’s freaking out the mothers who are worried about their dresses. We just want to have the thing that we like and suit or personalities and our venue. Beyond that — it just dosn’t seem like it’s worthwhile to stress or over-plan. We’re going to enjoy the day no matter what, and we hope in the end the guests’ experience isn’t ruined by there being two shades of brown.
Miss Jackrabbit, Brighton, UK Age and Occupation: 26, Office Manager Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Songwriter Engagement Date: October 5, 2012 Wedding Date: September 2013 Venue: Fabrica Gallery, Brighton About Me: I honestly thought I'd go all Monica Geller when I started planning our wedding, but in truth, things couldn't have gone much differently. I am working my way through this venture, figuring things out as I go, and adopting a 'Que Sera, Sera,' approach to making decisions. When I'm not organising the biggest day of my life, I can usually be found drinking a glass of wine, crafting up one thing or another, or stopping my cat from head-butting me in the face.
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