There are a few problems with having a tiny groom.
One is that I had to be very conscious when choosing a dress not to buy one that was big, poufy, and “overpowering” that would make me look huge next to him.
The second one is the difficulty I faced when buying a pair of shoes.
I used to wear heels all the time. In fact, five years ago I had a pair of shoes that were my “comfy shoes.” Shoes I would put on when others had been hurting and I would sigh in relief—and they were three-inch heels. I wore them daily and walked happily in them.
I recently wore those shoes again…they left me in agony.
I haven’t worn heels properly in almost five years, and in that time my feet have adjusted somewhat. It also doesn’t help that in this city I walk everywhere (an absolute minimum of three miles a day), and it just isn’t possible to wear anything that isn’t comfortable, which has led me to become a certain type of person…
… a sensible shoes person.
I have a pair of MBTs. My favourite shoes in the summer? My Crocs. Oh yes—I did just say that. Not the clog Crocs—I’m better than that. But most people are still horrified by my choice of rubber footwear in the hot months. Even though I think they are cute.
|Image via crocs.co.uk|
No? Just me? In which case you’ll probably be mortified to hear that I was actually going to wear these on my wedding day.
My mother put her foot down, but I was saddened by her decision. I wanted to be comfortable! I would be on my feet all day and I could not bear the thought of wearing shoes that hurt me—even in the slightest. I grumbled and hoped that I could still maybe get away with it.
The dress I bought stopped at ankle length and everyone would be able to see my shoes. Boo.
So I had to go out and find some, and that was hard. The majority of wedding shoes are either heels, ugly, or stupidly expensive (£200 for a pair of shoes that aren’t even comfy?!), so that was a resounding “no.”
This meant I had only one other option: standard retail shops. I was dreading this. I didn’t buy shoes from these places because I hated the pain my feet faced when I tried a pair on. I am terrible at breaking in shoes, and I really didn’t want to have to go through all that.
I looked and I looked and I looked, but none of the shoes I found were appropriate. They were either far too casual, garish, or painful. I was beginning to think that I wouldn’t find the kind of shoes I was looking for and, if I did, I wouldn’t have time to go through the breaking-in process that I no doubt would have had to subject myself to.
But then, a few days after Christmas, the January Sale Gods came down and blessed me. I don’t know why I looked on the Debenhams website that particular day, but I’m very glad I did! I found the last pair of gold shoes in my size—at half off!
For £17.50 I told myself I had nothing to lose by just getting them and seeing what I thought.
I loved them.
Were they pain free? Absolutely not. But they were as comfortable as any pair of new shoes were ever going to be. I will have comfortable feet on my wedding day and I will do whatever it takes to make that possible. I stuck plasters [Band-Aids] to my feet and wore those babies around my house all evening. I’ve even got them on right now!
Here I am, chilling out in my living room still in my PJs. Cup of tea and leftover Christmas cake, an unfinished jigsaw on the coffee table, and plasters to help ease the pain. But check out those beauties!
I love how they’re plain gold with that detailed bow at the front—if I could have designed my own pair I probably would have gone for something just like this.
Not really enjoying the breaking in phase. The heels are rubbing a bit and they need to soften around my toes, but I am determined to get past this so I’m not thinking about my poor feet as I’m dancing the night away.
The only thing that needs to be done now is to try them on with my dress when I go to order it later this month. Please, please, look nice, shoes! I cannot go through this again!
Was comfort your deciding factor when you shopped for wedding shoes?
- Brighton, UK
- Office Manager
- Wedding Date:
- September 2013
- Fabrica Gallery, Brighton