Finding the Gold Flats

There are a few problems with having a tiny groom.

One is that I had to be very conscious when choosing a dress not to buy one that was big, poufy, and “overpowering” that would make me look huge next to him.

The second one is the difficulty I faced when buying a pair of shoes.

I used to wear heels all the time. In fact, five years ago I had a pair of shoes that were my “comfy shoes.” Shoes I would put on when others had been hurting and I would sigh in relief—and they were three-inch heels. I wore them daily and walked happily in them.


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I recently wore those shoes again…they left me in agony.

I haven’t worn heels properly in almost five years, and in that time my feet have adjusted somewhat. It also doesn’t help that in this city I walk everywhere (an absolute minimum of three miles a day), and it just isn’t possible to wear anything that isn’t comfortable, which has led me to become a certain type of person…

… a sensible shoes person.

I have a pair of MBTs. My favourite shoes in the summer? My Crocs. Oh yes—I did just say that. Not the clog Crocs—I’m better than that. But most people are still horrified by my choice of rubber footwear in the hot months. Even though I think they are cute.

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No? Just me? In which case you’ll probably be mortified to hear that I was actually going to wear these on my wedding day.

My mother put her foot down, but I was saddened by her decision. I wanted to be comfortable! I would be on my feet all day and I could not bear the thought of wearing shoes that hurt me—even in the slightest. I grumbled and hoped that I could still maybe get away with it.


The dress I bought stopped at ankle length and everyone would be able to see my shoes. Boo.

So I had to go out and find some, and that was hard. The majority of wedding shoes are either heels, ugly, or stupidly expensive (£200 for a pair of shoes that aren’t even comfy?!), so that was a resounding “no.”

This meant I had only one other option: standard retail shops. I was dreading this. I didn’t buy shoes from these places because I hated the pain my feet faced when I tried a pair on. I am terrible at breaking in shoes, and I really didn’t want to have to go through all that.

I looked and I looked and I looked, but none of the shoes I found were appropriate. They were either far too casual, garish, or painful. I was beginning to think that I wouldn’t find the kind of shoes I was looking for and, if I did, I wouldn’t have time to go through the breaking-in process that I no doubt would have had to subject myself to.

But then, a few days after Christmas, the January Sale Gods came down and blessed me. I don’t know why I looked on the Debenhams website that particular day, but I’m very glad I did! I found the last pair of gold shoes in my size—at half off!

For £17.50 I told myself I had nothing to lose by just getting them and seeing what I thought.

I loved them.

Were they pain free? Absolutely not. But they were as comfortable as any pair of new shoes were ever going to be. I will have comfortable feet on my wedding day and I will do whatever it takes to make that possible. I stuck plasters [Band-Aids] to my feet and wore those babies around my house all evening. I’ve even got them on right now!

Wanna see?


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Here I am, chilling out in my living room still in my PJs. Cup of tea and leftover Christmas cake, an unfinished jigsaw on the coffee table, and plasters to help ease the pain. But check out those beauties!

I love how they’re plain gold with that detailed bow at the front—if I could have designed my own pair I probably would have gone for something just like this.

Not really enjoying the breaking in phase. The heels are rubbing a bit and they need to soften around my toes, but I am determined to get past this so I’m not thinking about my poor feet as I’m dancing the night away.

The only thing that needs to be done now is to try them on with my dress when I go to order it later this month. Please, please, look nice, shoes! I cannot go through this again!

Was comfort your deciding factor when you shopped for wedding shoes?


Mrs. Jackrabbit

Brighton, UK
Wedding Date:
September 2013
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  1. bluewhale Member
    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 8:34 am

    The bows!! Love. I too am someone who used to wear heels and now I can’t last more than a few minutes in them. Flats for me too! :)

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    shaynapunim 654 posts, Busy bee @ 8:39 am

    Those flats are beautiful!!

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:23 am

    LOOOOOVE!!!! Any shoe with a sparkly bow is ok by me.

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    elysion 3813 posts, Honey bee @ 9:36 am

    Well now I feel silly… I am totally wearing those crocs in an aqua/pearl color combo for my wedding! I think they are cute and comfy T-T LoL. Love what you ended up with, though!

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    MrsBobcat 227 posts, Helper bee @ 10:09 am

    I own those same crocs! I love them. I have problems too with breaking in flats. Here is what I have found works.
    1. wear them EVERYWHERE!
    2. to get the leather softer so it will form to your feet faster either buy leather softener OR what I do is spray with water if they are weather treated
    3. for your heals if they keep slipping go for the heel grips… they make everything better :)
    4. they make pads that add arch support and everything for flats so those always helped.

    I hope they work!

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    msjackrabbit 1080 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:29 am

    @Miss Blue Whale: Yay for flats!

    @shaynapunim @Mrs. Treasure: Thank you!! They’re sooooo pretty!

    @elysion: Seriously?! Yay! That’s so awesome. The aqua ones are really cute!

    @AlmostMrsBenson: Loving seeing fellow croc owners, hahaha. I will use these tips, thanks! I like the water tip :)

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 11:10 am

    Awh beautiful! It hink I”m going the flats route too… I can’t say I’m a crocs person though 😉

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    cosmo_gmr 488 posts, Helper bee @ 11:29 am

    I love your flats!!! I’m sure they will look gorgeous with your dress… can’t wait to see!!!

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    kit_kath 1327 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:22 pm

    Those are so cute! I wear flats all the time (city walking, plus I’m tall and don’t need the height). I actually love those crocs as well, which is crazy for me to say as I’ve always had a bad opinion of crocs. But those are really nice looking, I might need a pair for everyday use!

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    Medschoolchica, Guest @ 12:59 pm

    Here’s a tip I’ve found to break in new shoes, especially the toe area:

    1) put on a pair of thick(er) socks, then the shoes to be broken in
    2) blast them with a hair dryer to warm up/soften/stretch the material
    3) turn off hair dryer and keep socks and shoes on while the material cools/hardens again (I usually walk around a bit)

    After the shoes cool down they hopefully should have conformed nicely to the shape of your foot. Hope that helps!

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    lealorali 4827 posts, Honey bee @ 2:43 pm

    @Medschoolchica: Such good advice!!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 3:33 pm

    These are so cute! The sparkly bow is just perfect.

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    Almost Mrs.P 2056 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:11 pm

    Those are adorable! And I have considered buying those crocs you posted, so I don’t think you’re nuts. :)

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    MacDav 26 posts, Newbee @ 7:53 pm

    I love your flats!!! The sparkly bow is just perfect.

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    hyena 2537 posts, Sugar bee @ 6:58 am

    Such cute shoes! I second the blow-dryer/socks combo to break shoes in faster. Except I’m lazy and don’t use a blow-dryer, I just stick my feet in front of my space heater. It works the same. :)

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    DBS5127 220 posts, Helper bee @ 8:38 am

    I’ve never seen such cute crocs – I think I need a pair! I will probably also be wearing flats. Me walking in heals is a quite hilarious sight. Good luck breaking them in!

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    McBroombabe13 38 posts, Newbee @ 4:25 pm

    I am in the same boat as you. Me and my fiance are the same height( I have him beat by a couple of inches) and I wanted to make us look as comfortable as ever, not me over powering him. I found the cutest gold flats at Macy’s’. They cost $50 but I love them soo much!!

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:23 pm

    I swore my wedding shoes were comfortable, until I had run in them for 3 hours, then I started cursing those little bastards, but they were so pretty!
    Good luck breaking into them, and even if they end up a little uncomfortable, what is two days of pain, whan you got to dance away on your wedding day?

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    braverbeating 1134 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:35 pm

    They are gorgeous!!! So jealous of them!

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