My “Somethings,” My Own

We all know the phrase, “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver sixpence in her shoe.” (OK, maybe not everyone is familiar with the last part (myself included) until Mrs. Archer sent me her sixpence to use on my wedding day. Yay!)

My guess is we’ve all probably wondered what we’d use for each of our “somethings” on our wedding day at some point during the planning process. That said, I’m a big advocate for making your wedding your own and making it unique and personal to yourself and your partner. So who cares if you have all your somethings picked out way in advance or if you scrap them all together? Since there was a piece of me that wanted to complete my “somethings,” I decided to go ahead with them, but in my own special way.

Something old: Grandma Sword’s handkerchief, passed down to her from the Grandmother who raised her. Her Grandmother received the hankie as a gift when she was working at a hospital in the 1930/1940”²s. The handkerchief is decorated with beautiful Japanese embroidery, and my favorite part is that you can’t tell which side is the front and which side is the back. Does anyone know what that technique is called?

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Something new: Our family tartan! While the standard answers of dress, shoes, and jewelry are also fitting, there’s nothing quite as new as our newly minted tartan! It doesn’t exist anywhere else. Mr. Sword and I designed it together and had it wove in Scotland and then shipped to the US. Boss Lady has made me a beautiful tartan shawl to wear on the wedding day and I couldn’t be more thrilled to match Mr. Sword’s kilt!

The best part is all I’ll have to do is look around our bridal party or our reception room and I’ll see bits and pieces of our tartan everywhere reminding me of this journey Mr. Sword and I are starting together. The tartan is symbolic of two cultures joining into one, and it reminds me of all of all the special people in my life who have had a hand in sewing it, crafting it, cutting it, wearing it, and carrying it around for the past year as we prepare for the wedding.

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Something borrowed: My new last name. I don’t believe I’ve spoken about this before, but I’m insanely excited to take Mr. Sword’s last name. It’s such a personal thing that I almost don’t want to talk about it. Truth is, I currently have the BEST last name ever. It makes no sense, and it has never been pronounced correctly on any first day of school since the beginning of time, but it’s pretty awesome. Plus, it’s been my identity for 29 years and it’s provided me with the best Gmail address ever. No numbers or middle name for this girl!

While I do love it, I’m happy to lose my last name as sort of a rite of passage. It’s a leap of faith and of trust. It’s an act of respect to those women in my family who have taken their husbands names before me. It’s about putting the whole before the individual. And it’s about creating a new baby family with Mr. Sword.

I’m always going to think of myself as my former last name in some ways, but I will be so proud to sport Mr. Sword’s name is just a few short weeks. And then I’ll FINALLY be able to hang out on Twitter. Cause I signed up with newlastname. Duh.

Something blue: My mothers. Both Mom Sword and my Future Mother-in-Law are wearing dresses in the color blue, and since my ideal shade of blue is purple, I decided the two most important ladies in the room would cover that “something” quite nicely. You’ll have to wait for photos of their dresses until after the wedding!

OH AND ONE MORE THING! It’s the Swords one year engagiversary!!

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Yep, exactly one year ago today, the very shy Mr. Sword proposed to me at the top of the John Hancock building in front of many strangers and his future in-laws. (Clearly, he was smitten.) If you want to read about it, check this out. I sorta kinda knew it was coming”¦still, it was one of the best days of my life!

(all photos personal)

How are you covering the tradition of the “somethings?’ Does anyone else have a fun twist, I’d love to hear about it!

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Mrs. Sword

Location:
Chicago
Wedding Date:
March 2013

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    hma812 390 posts, Helper bee @ 5:33 am

    Blue shoes but so far that’s all I have. I don’t necessarily care about the rest of the somethings and I didn’t buy my shoes thinking that they’d be my something blue, I just really liked them.

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    MaggieL 494 posts, Helper bee @ 5:54 am

    Seriously love your dress in that last picture!!

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    texasaggiemom 594 posts, Busy bee @ 6:29 am

    Thanks for your thoughtful and articulate explanation of your decision to take Mr. Sword’s name. It’s a very personal choice that may not be right for all brides, but I love how you explained it and am so pleased that my daughter is making the same choice. I can’t wait to see how all your details come together – this is going to be one of my favorite Bee weddings!

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    shaynapunim 654 posts, Busy bee @ 6:41 am

    Your grandmother’s handkerchief is lovely!!

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    Mrs. Bracelet 1410 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:11 am

    Judging from your photo, the handkerchief’s embroidery technique seems to mainly be matsurinui (for the twigs) and jibiki (for the petals & leaves, though some might be nuikiri). If it’s expertly embroidered, the pattern will show almost identical on both sides as the threads are laid in the same pattern on both the right and the wrong side of the fabric.
    Just my two cents from Japanese embroidery class in Tokyo. I hope this helps!

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    blessings 665 posts, Busy bee @ 7:15 am

    Where did you get your black sparky dress? Very cute!

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    money 12 posts, Newbee @ 7:20 am

    last picture!!

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 10:26 am

    I love your somethings and totally didn’t know about the sixpence. Where does one find a sixpence?! I know my lunatic self is going to feel incomplete without one now. Oy.

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    Mrs. Pony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 11:25 am

    I love your take on the somethings, and your grandmothers hanky is just beautiful!

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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:52 am

    Happy Engagiversary! We’re coming up on our one-year engagiversary too… time flies when you’re having fun! :)

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    Mrs. Toadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:35 pm

    I love the idea of the Tartan as the something new, because it is the beggining of a fantastic tradition for your new fami9ly.
    Happy engageversary!

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    Mrs. Sword 1019 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:16 pm

    @TexasAggieMom: Aww thank you, I’m so glad you liked it.

    @Mrs. Bracelet: Thanks for the info Bracelet! Yes, it’s identical on both sides, so neat!

    @blessings: Gah, no idea where I got the dress! I bought it last March. :( Department store is my guess though…

    @StephK527: haha! Oops! Well I bet you could find one online or an older relative?

    @Blonde17Jess: Happy engagiversary to you too! Time totally does fly…

    @Mrs. Toadstool: Thanks Toadstool! :)

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