My mum’s best friend’s daughter is getting married four months before us. When we got engaged those two got incredibly giddy and started talking about how they would go shopping for mother-of-the-bride dresses together, and help with invitations, and every other thing under the sun that best friends talk about.
But what made me laugh the most about the stories I heard was when my mum asked what her friend’s daughter’s name would change to after she was married.
“Well, I don’t normally beat you on many things,” my mum said to her friend, “but I think I beat you on this one!”
My mum hadn’t even asked me if I were going to take his name, she just assumed. And she assumed correctly.
I hadn’t even thought about not taking his name, if I’m honest. I remember before I met him that I joked about only going out with men with good surnames from then on, and his is definitely a good one. My mum’s friend’s daughter’s fiance’s (wow—say that after a few drinks!) surname doesn’t quite have the Italian flair that my mister’s certainly has.
It’s another thing I’m looking forward to once we’re married.
Image via Carlton Adkins Wedding Photography
A friend of mine has debated this subject a bit, first wanting to keep her name, then wanting a double-barreled name, and finally settling on turning her current surname into a middle name so she can continue to use it.
Me? Not bothered about keeping it. Don’t get me wrong, I love my surname—it’s my name. My initials, JQ, are awesome and JP is just, eh. JP doesn’t even look like me. That’s the first time I’ve ever written JP to reference myself…it looks weird. I’ll have to get used to that.
But would I want to keep my maiden name just because I like my initials? Nah. I like the thought of being Mrs P. His Mrs P. And if I have to lose my current surname to be that, then I’m happy.
My mum was an only child, and because of that her maiden name wouldn’t get passed on to another generation. So instead of keeping her name to herself, she gave it to my brother. Her maiden name is now his middle name and my brother absolutely loves it (it’s in his Facebook name and everything), so I think I may follow on that tradition and pass down my maiden name to a child of my own.
Luckily, my maiden name is also a girl’s name (and boy’s?! according to Wikipedia!). Although I’ve never heard of anyone in the UK with it as their first name, a certain character on a very musical TV show in the States leads me to believe it might become popular in the next few years over here, and passing it on to a daughter might be a nice way to keep it in the family.
Did you find it easy to switch over to your new name?
- Brighton, UK
- Office Manager
- Wedding Date:
- September 2013
- Fabrica Gallery, Brighton