Sweet Dreams

I’m just going to come out and say it. Mr. Whale and I will be spending the night before our wedding together. But shhhh! Don’t tell our parents. :)

Some of you might be surprised to hear this, because you already know we’re not doing a first look. But our reasons for not doing a first look have nothing to do with tradition or bad luck. We just don’t want to see each other before the ceremony. But you know what we do want? A good night’s sleep before the wedding.

This is me when I’m too excited to sleep:

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This is what I wish would happen every night when I get into bed:

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I am going to be the biggest ball of nerves the night before. I’m terrified that I won’t sleep at all. Just to give you an idea of how excessively antsy I get, let me remind you that I only slept about two hours before our engagement photos. The engagement photos”¦seriously, who gets so nervous for those that they can’t sleep? During the weekend I went dress shopping, I didn’t sleep more than four hours any of the three nights”¦I was just too darn excited about my dress.

So”¦it will be an absolute miracle if I sleep before my wedding day. And the only way that miracle will occur is if Mr. Whale is by my side the whole night. I can’t explain it, but I sleep better when he is in the bed. I know some people get a little twinge of excitement about getting an entire bed to themselves if their significant other is gone for the night. I am definitely not one of those people.

Even knowing this, I contemplated sleeping apart just for the sake of tradition (and for my parents’ sanity). But then I realized that tradition is sometimes just a bad idea. Rules were made to be broken, right? So I approached Mr. Whale and said, “How would you feel about spending the night together on the night before our wedding?” His response? ”Of course we’re spending the night together. What else would we do?”

I guess we solved that problem.

What are/were your sleeping arrangements on the night before your wedding?


Mrs. Blue Whale

College Park, MD
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:30 am

    I feel the same as you. I figure we sleep together every other night, and I want to be as relaxed as possible, which means sleeping with fi!

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    may2013wedding 110 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:56 am

    My father who is paying for the ceremony and reception venue adamantly said that we weren’t going to sleep in the same bed the night before… even though we’ve been living together for 3 years! Oh well can’t argue with the pops!

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    krislynn_sd 72 posts, Worker bee @ 7:12 am


    Can you please not copy and paste part of my comment? That would be very nicely appreciated if you could have said the same thing in your own words.

    Thank you.

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    anemonie 1578 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:19 am

    I am SO glad DH and I spent the night together before the wedding.

    We got a chance to use our bridal suite’s giant jacuzzi, which was really relaxing plus we didn’t have a chance to use it the wedding night. We both slept well because we sleep better together, and there was nothing like waking up to him the morning of the wedding and being, “Oh my Gawd, we are getting married today!”

    We also shared coffee and a light breakfast in the suite as bridesmaids and groomsmen and a few family members started showing up, which was nice because there was a lot of lighthearted joking around to calm my nerves. Then we shared a kiss goodbye until the ceremony. Wouldn’t have had it any other way!

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    nifty_geek 22 posts, Newbee @ 10:25 am

    My DH and I slept apart the night before the wedding, but we’re kind of un-traditional in the fact that we technically spent the night of the wedding apart too!

    We got married at a camp about an hour away from our hometown, and when I say camp, I mean bunk beds, cabins, no cell reception and MOOSE. Haha. Instead of trying to cram the two of us in one teeny single bed, we slept in the only cabin that had two bunk beds on the one wall, We slept head to head so we could at least hold hands before we fell asleep! It may not be everyone’s idea of romance but it was perfect for us. :)

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 10:34 am

    @nikstar: Oh geez. That sounds all too familiar. Maybe I should just get a prescription for a sleeping pill…

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    futuremrsdino 73 posts, Worker bee @ 5:50 am

    We’re currently discussing this. As most of my friends are horrified that I even considered meeting my fiance after my hair and make up trial, this will go down like a lead balloon!
    However, I, like you, think I will struggle to sleep before the wedding. Plus if we’re spending a fortune on a posh hotel room, why shouldn’t he get to enjoy it too?

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    futurejohnston288 3 posts, Wannabee @ 8:14 am

    My fiancée and I plan on doing the same thing! (P.s.: I’m soooooo not telling my mother until the night before the wedding! Lol)
    I really see nothing wrong wi it! I moved in with my fiancée after a year of being together, so now that its been almost two years I can’t get a good nights sleep without him right next to me. Dare I even say this, but I can’t go to sleep if he’s not snoring right next to me lol.

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