The Bridesmaids’ Dresses Revealed!

After I said yes to my dress, hugged the store manager AND my attendant, and paraded around a bit, it was time to choose the bridesmaids’ dresses.

A lot of people expressed surprise when I mentioned we were aiming to get both my dress and their dresses chosen in one day. Honestly, it wasn’t any additional stress and it was necessary for us. At that time, we were pretty much scattered: Rev. Fun hailed from Atlanta, BM Badonk lived an hour away, BM Tiny Dancer was in college about three hours away, and BM Blackout and MOH Mem worked in the healthcare field and had to schedule days off two months in advance—if we had a weekend where we were all together, we were going to take full advantage and get sh-t done, for real.

Again, I had a pretty strict set of ideas in my head: no strapless, I wanted MOH Mem to be in a different color, I wanted them to be all the same style, and I wanted them long. Even though I had what I wanted picked out (I won’t shove the DB Dress Your Wedding image in your faces again, but I will tell you that you can find it here), I had sent an email to my girls telling them I was open to their opinions and ideas. I assured them that I would not pull a Topanga, but I also let them know that they didn’t have to like the dress in terms of style—they just had to be comfortable and able to dance.


Image via Screenshot via YouTube / “Those. are. the most BEAUTIFUL dresses I have EVER seen.”

My main goal was finding one dress that fit everyone. When you have a variety of heights (I’m talking from 5’4” to right around 6′), weights, shapes, booties, bazoombas, and not to mention a variety of skin and hair colors, it seems next to impossible, but I was confident that I had chosen quite a few dresses (including backups, of course) that would fit and flatter everyone.

Odds are you can see where I’m going with this one. I was wrong, wrong, wrong. I don’t even know where to start. My number one preferred dress made MOH Mem and Bridesmaid Tiny Dancer (blessed with bazoombas) look like streetwalkers. A one-shouldered dress was another favored backup, but the odd flowers on the one-shoulder just didn’t lay correctly, and also the cuts around the torso area were strange and the whole thing was very busy. A favored backup dress that Bridesmaid Badonk had picked had this weird ruffle thing on the side that would’ve been fine, but it started at the chest and so it fell funny on some of the girls.


Image via David’s Bridal


Image via David’s Bridal


Image via David’s Bridal

I do have to give the girls credit—none of them threw hissies or forced their ideas/opinions…some of them even threw in a “but I’ll wear whatever you want me to, of course” disclaimer after voicing a less-than-enthused opinion. Of course, I didn’t want or expect my girls to be wishy-washy or placating; I wanted and expected their opinions. They are well aware of the fact that I have zero problem with standing my own ground, but they also know that I value honesty and do appreciate their input.

This having been said, however, I was growing a little frantic and having more than a little bit of anxiety when dress number 95,830,394 (in reality, it was probably like number five or six) was debuted and still failed. Someone suggested, “We don’t HAVE to pick them today,” and I immediately flew into slightly panicked, make-a-decision mode. There was no way we were leaving the store without having this settled, partially because it was one of maybe three or four times we’d all be together throughout the whole process, and partially because I absolutely cannot stand things hanging over my head. We went there with a goal and we were freaking going to achieve it, come hell or high water.

I started thinking out loud at this point. “Maybe you guys COULD wear different dresses…” Bridesmaid Y started cracking up at this point, pointing out that quite literally everything I was adamant about regarding my dress AND their dresses was going out the window. Thankfully, MOH Mem and Bridesmaid Tiny Dancer kept calm and were able to calm me down by stating that even though I might think that’s the solution now, I don’t like the way that looks and on the day of the wedding, seeing everyone in different dresses will disappoint me and I’ll regret making that decision.

So, onwards and upwards. We tried tea length dresses, we tried other short dresses, we tried a very heavy, not season appropriate (Who knew such a thing existed? I sure didn’t, until someone else told me it did.) but pretty dress that Bridesmaid Y modeled for us:


Personal photo

Then, as everyone went back into the favored backups pictured above (excluding the halter option), the mystical powers of David’s Bridal sent us a magical being. She was a fellow bride-to-be who was actually trying on dresses next to me. She came over with a catalog and said, “I’m sorry, but I’ve been watching you guys try on dresses and I just wanted to let you know that I was recently in a wedding and we wore this dress and it was honestly amazing.” She went on to tell me that their bridal party was also of all different shapes and sizes, and it flattered everyone. I asked if they were able to dance, because the dress was strapless and the LAST thing I want is for everyone to be holding up their dresses all night. She assured me that they were able to move all night long and it was great. I don’t remember if MOH Mem ran off to get these ones or if I flagged down my attendant, but somehow the dresses were brought over in everyone’s sizes and this was born:


Personal photo / Please ignore the bra straps. ;) From left to right: Bridesmaid Blackout, Bridesmaid Tiny Dancer, Bridesmaid Y, Rev. Fun, Bridesmaid Badonk and MOH Mem. The actual color is the one featured on BM Tiny Dancer & BM Badonk.

IT. FIT. AND. FLATTERED. EVERYONE. Do you see the halo around this picture? No? It must just be my continued euphoria. It even passed the dance test:


Personal photo / Bridesmaid Badonk, booty popping—and the dress didn’t move!

After I yet again fanned the mist away from my eyes, I officially declared these THE dresses…and also gave a giant hug to the magical fellow bride, who really saved the day.

As is life, the exact opposite of what I wanted ended up as the perfect fit. I didn’t want them to look formal, I didn’t want a shiny material, I didn’t want strapless. Somehow, though, this worked. My bridal party was transformed from slightly hungover (but still radiant!) ladies into a beautiful, holy-shit-this-is-freaking-real bridal party. It was a very successful, if not exhausting, day, and I am so beyond grateful (and freaking emotional—I cried as I wrote this!) that all of the people I hold so very close to my heart were able to be there.

Did your bridesmaids have a lot of input in choosing their dresses? Was the process easy or long and involved?


Mrs. Palm Tree

March 20
Pittsburgh, PA
Wedding Date:
May 2013

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    bracelet 1419 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:53 am

    You tell this story with humor and grace. :) Since I went to try on the dresses for my ladies, there was no fussing.

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    Future mrsjk, Guest @ 8:55 am

    Love the dresses, they are the same ones my girls are wearing for our fall wedding they are going to be in truffle and wine

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    mspalmtree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:40 am

    @Jenn: Mine fit ‘off the rack’, too! So fortunate. And believe me, my MOH is chest-fabulous as well. I think strapless, surprisingly, worked best with this? The shawl is a good idea, just in case.

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    mspalmtree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:41 am

    @Mrs. Bracelet: Haha, thank you! I try. And if I went to try on the dresses for my ladies, it’d have turned out a MESS. So lucky for the no fuss!

    @Future mrsjk: I think that BM Blackout & Rev. Fun are in the wine color as well and I LOVE it! It’s such a deep, understated beauty.

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    mspalmtree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:42 am

    @Miss Lemur: It was almost a hissy fit. What do you MEAN we can come back?! That is not an option! Lol. I hate having things hanging over my head.

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 11:05 am

    @Miss Palm Tree: Bahaha I would totally do this. I think we may have similar personalities ;)

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 12:54 pm

    So funny, you and I are very similar–I also went in thinking that a) I would get a certain bridal gown and b) my BM’s would wear a certain dress and neither of those things ended up happening! For my dress, I never in a million years thought I’d wear a ball gown and for the BM’s dresses, I had two distinct dresses in mind that I was ultimately disappointed in when I saw in person. I was about to leave the shop and then saw the PERFECT dress on a mannequin as I was literally walking out the door! Like you said, sometimes life gives you the absolute opposite of what you thought you wanted :)

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    ABoxForPandora 36 posts, Newbee @ 2:18 pm

    I used the dresses you ended up picking. It was a LONG process that finally ended with that dress. I only had 2 bridesmaids, both about the same size, with the same body “issues” (their words, not mine!). My wonderful MOH and I spent about 3 hours in DB one day, taking pictures, trying to narrow down a color, fabric, and dress. I’m so happy with how they turned out! We did those dresses in truffle, with a jacket. It was a December wedding, and my ladies hate their arms. They were able to move all night!

    To make the dresses a little more personal, we removed the “bling” that comes with them, and bought broaches that were shaped like peacocks (peacock themed wedding, I know, cliche’, but I picked it before it became popular!) and stitched them on.

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    mspalmtree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:17 am

    @Miss Mongoose: It’s amazing how it all seems to work out – I didn’t even have time to be disappointed over the dashing of the dress dreams because I was so excited with the result. :)

    @ABoxForPandora: Ah, that “bling” actually is what made me go no-sash for my MOH. So awesome that you removed them and made them your own!

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    Ms_Maple 115 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:59 am

    You are way more patient than I am! I had the various body sizes, height, etc in addition to a 10 year age gap between the oldest and youngest in my party. I decided that I wasn’t going to be the one to stress out about finding a dress they would all like so gave them a color at David’s Bridal and let them pick out their own. One less thing for me to stress out about :)

    I am glad you were able to find something in the end. What a relief huh?

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    mspalmtree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:40 am

    @Ms_Maple: SUCH a freakin’ relief! Lol. I admire Brides like you who take that route – one of my BMs is going that route with her wedding and although I’m pumped, as a member of the wedding party, to make my own decision, I could never do it for myself as a Bride. I’m a lunatic.

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    h_annas 62 posts, Worker bee @ 2:45 pm

    my bridesmaid’s dresses are really similar. I totally didn’t want strapless for them and I originally hated it when the store attendant showed it to us, but then when they put them on, something magical happened. :)

    Prior to finding these dresses, we had such a headache with finding something that flattered everyone. I am glad that the process is over.

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    mspalmtree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:43 am

    @h_annas: They are, for real, the Traveling Pants of bridesmaids dresses. ;) I’m glad you had a similar experience!

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