My Bride Moment: I Said Yes to the Dress!

Early in my planning, I kept forgetting I was a bride. I mean, obviously I was doing bride-esque things, like booking our venue and failing at favors, but it was a weird combination of having been thinking about doing this for so long and diving into doing it head first that kept me somewhat detached.

Bridesmaid Y and I went to a bridal show in the first month of my engagement (I’m telling you, folks, I wasn’t messing around), and I definitely experienced some sort of overwhelming, awe-inducing, “whoa this is real” feelings. But—and I’m willing to bet many brides and/or brides-to-be would say similar—nothing, nothing, NOTHING compares to picking a dress.

I have so much to say about this day. I’ll save the suspense and tell you all now: We were able to leave with not only my dress chosen, but also the dresses that my bridal party will be wearing—which was very important to me, because having everyone together is a rare occurrence.

We went to a local David’s Bridal for our dresses. Being the lunatic stalker thorough person that I am, I scoured reviews, ideas, hints, any and everything related to this type of experience beforehand. Unfortunately, I encountered numerous negative reviews—even from Weddingbee—and I began to freak out inwardly. Of course, I know enough about the internet to know that often only the extreme cases warrant reviews, but I still started to have mini anxiety attacks. What if they don’t know what they’re doing? What if I get a complete bitch and end up snapping? What if they won’t let me use the appointment for both me and my girls? What if all of the dresses look hideous on me? What if MY dress, my dream dress, fails everywhere like the favors did? I was sincerely, legitimately concerned.

Here’s the thing: every single thing that I worried about went flawlessly, every single thing that I thought I wanted didn’t work. Yup, you read that right. It was a day of “No way! Really?”

This was my vision a la David’s Bridal’s Dress Your Wedding:

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Personal image created using David’s Bridal Dress Your Wedding tool / Set in stone…

As I planned my just-in-case backups, I made sure to avoid strapless dresses or one-shouldered dresses. I was adamant that I did NOT want strapless. I wanted A-line, and I really wanted a halter.

I tried on a handful of dresses, and my girls as well as the David’s Bridal women had such patience and care. The reviews I read did not apply to my experience; my attendant and the store manager were so phenomenal that I actually wrote them a very heartfelt thank you letter. Pittsburgh ladies, PM me if you want names and details because I will happily provide them.

The first dress I tried on had me feeling like a bride. I took a deep breath as I saw myself in it, and inside I was saying, “Don’t freak out. It’s only the first one, it’s only the first one.” The girls loved it, and Bridesmaid Badonk (Mr. Palm Tree’s sister) immediately got a little teary over it. I gave it a solid nine and a half, but that was because in my head and heart I was still holding out for my dream dress.

I went on to try others (some hits, some misses, as is life) and then the Wild Card came. The Wild Card was one that the store manager had picked out for me, after gauging my reactions to some I had already picked. This dress had everyone in tears almost the instant I stepped out of the dressing room. Of course, seeing them misty made ME misty—even the store manager got a little choked up upon my reveal. I did LOVE this dress, and I gave it a nine; I felt gorgeous and the dress itself was beautiful and stunning…but it just wasn’t my dress. I still had a lot of feelings for and about the first dress and, of course, I was still holding out for the dream dress.

I changed out of the Wild Card and into the dream dress and…before I even saw it I knew that it wasn’t it. I realize that all of this “feeling” and “knowing” sounds like a bunch of horse doodoo, but it’s true: I could just feel that I wasn’t going to get married in this dress. I walked out and pretty much everyone else instantaneously agreed. I allowed myself a tiny bit of mourning and then my attendant and I decided to try the first dress on again to see if I went from a solid nine to a solid ten after being able to compare. I put it on and…yup, you guessed it: I knew.

“I’m pretty sure this is it, guys,” I told them as I walked out, already deep-breathing to prevent a complete and total meltdown. Of course, it was the exact opposite of what I thought I wanted: It was strapless, it had a corset, it was ball-gown-esque, and it was “big.” But it didn’t matter. My checklist went out the window and my feelings took over; I couldn’t stop smiling and thinking about Mr. Palm Tree at the end of the aisle seeing me in this dress. Some of the girls were still lobbying for the Wild Card, but I explained to them that while it was beautiful, it wasn’t right. It just wasn’t me. This dress, though, was me. I remember a very specific moment, when I glanced down at my dress and teared up and I looked up a tiny bit and caught Bridesmaid Y’s eye and saw her red-eyed and holding back…and I semi lost it. I just kind of smiled and tears spilled over and I allowed myself to get caught up in the moment for a little. I had been planning this for so long. I had been waiting for THIS moment and here it was: I was officially a bride.

All photos courtesy of Rev. Fun, all from David’s

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The Dream Dress. I would’ve had it in sapphire (“Marine”) blue, but it still was not for me. I felt it made me look old. Rev. Fun said it looked like a Teen Mom wedding dress.

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The Wild Card dress (in a size and a half too small, for the record)

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The jaw-dropping train/back of the Wild Card dress

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The bustled back of the jaw-dropping beautiful train of the Wild Card dress…

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My halter backup that I loved, that everyone else disliked almost instantly. For the record, I still love it.

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Back of the above

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Back of what Rev. Fun dubbed “the Emily Gellar wedding dress” with my marine sash

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Emily Gellar’s wedding dress, the front. This is me telling them that the off-the-shoulder straps drove me bananas.

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Rev. Fun, Bridesmaid Blackout, and Bridesmaid Y waiting for the bride

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Bridesmaid Badonk, MOH Mem, and Rev. Fun (Bridesmaid Tiny Dancer was in the dressing room with me, helping with dress number one and the undergarments.)

Unfortunately for you readers, I am not allowed to have a picture of me in my dress, because I will absolutely positively cave and show Mr. Palm Tree. I had to send my veil home with Bridesmaid Badonk for fear that I’d show it to him. I can, however, show the dress on the David’s Bridal model, and you can all use your imagination.

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Image via David’s Bridal website / The back of my dress, which will be laced with the Marine (sapphire) ribbon

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Image via David’s Bridal website / The front of MY dress…it makes me teary when I look at it too much. <3

So this was an extremely successful, emotional, and surprisingly EASY part our David’s Bridal adventure.

Next up: the bridal party dresses (a surprisingly giant chunk of our time/day).

BLOGGER

Mrs. Palm Tree

Age:
25
Location:
Pittsburgh, PA
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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    futuremrshicks13 84 posts, Worker bee @ 9:17 am

    your wild card dress is MY WEDDING DRESS!!! and the SAME thing happened to me! I thought I knew what I wanted and when they pulled that one out…it was a done deal! You look beautiful in all the dresses!!! How fun!

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    courtoni 177 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:21 am

    Beautiful dress. I think you made the right choice!

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    BM Y, Guest @ 9:29 am

    GAH, I still get teary! The wildcard was a really nice dress, but some things are just RIGHT. :)

    EEEEE LOVE! Can’t wait to see you in it for real for real! Love always! <3

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    BM Y, Guest @ 9:32 am

    Also, after our other bridal shopping experiences, I have to say that David’s really and truly knocked it out of the park that day with how great their employees were and their patience with us! One-stop-shop, indeed!

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    dancingriss 420 posts, Helper bee @ 9:54 am

    Ha! The wild card does not look to small on you! It looks great :)

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    debeachgirl 742 posts, Busy bee @ 10:18 am

    Beautiful dress!

    I had a great experience with David’s I got my dress there and made a few trips with my girls for their dresses. They also wore Marine. I let them pick whatever they wanted as long as it was long (winter wedding) and not satin. Everyone (7 – he had too many groomsman) picked a different dress and I loved seeing them all come together. I think the one bridesmaid dress in your David’s board is the one my MOH picked out before she got pregnant and had to change styles.

    My dress was the one I picked out before going. I tried it on second. Knew it was the one but tried on a few more to be sure.

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    krislynn_sd 209 posts, Helper bee @ 10:23 am

    Your. dress. is. gorgeous! I can totally picture you in it. What an amazing choice!

    More proof that if we lived closer, we’d be besties. :) I also went to David’s Bridal and found my dress – first one I tried on at David’s. It was all lace, strapless and trumpet (and I didn’t want a strapless or a trumpet gown)

    I LOVE David’s Bridal. I initially thought it was going to be horrible – but they rehired some employee’s and the one I got was ridiculously fun, knew I was shy and wasn’t going to stand for me to be shy on my dress shopping day. She definitely boosted my confidence and was extremely helpful.

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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1069 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:48 am

    @futuremrshicks13: Girl, that dress is pheeeeeenomenal. I’m so happy for you! That train: SWOON.

    @courtoni, @dancingriss: Too kind. ;) Thank you so much! I love her.

    @BM Y: I can’t even read it because I’ll cry, too. And truth.com about David’s! Amazing.

    @DEBeachGirl: I have a post coming up about the BM dresses – that was a whole other adventure. ;) I’m so glad you had a good experience with David’s. They get such a bad rep because they’re a chain, but not all of the stores deserve it.

    @krislynn_sd: THANK YOU, kindred spirit of mine. :) And good for your consultant! I’m so glad you had a great experience and your dress sounds stunning. David’s Bridal Win!

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    Mrs. Squirrel 276 posts, Helper bee @ 12:20 pm

    So exciting!!! It looks great on you!

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    Mrs. Pony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 1:21 pm

    Your dress is gorgeous, I love the scalloped neckline!

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    shortbread 290 posts, Helper bee @ 2:25 pm

    Wow, I love the dress you picked. I also think the wild card dress is fabulous. I also had a great experience with David’s Bridal. My consultant was so patient and even insisted I not buy the first dress I tried on without trying other styles first. Ultimately, I tried on multiple styles and still opted for the first dress. I went in with a vision and thankfully my vision actually worked on me. It can be such an overwhelming experience and it’s good when you find a consultant that is positive and helpful. I can’t wait to see you with the dress on.

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    Mrs. Toadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:30 pm

    Uuuuuu I looove the top!

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    Mrs. Sword 1019 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:40 pm

    congrats on finding your dream dress! What a wonderful feeling! You’re going to look so beautiful. :)

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 9:06 pm

    Gorgeous choice!

    Ashle

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    MrHT 40 posts, Newbee @ 9:36 pm

    Ha! Beautiful dress.It looks great

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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1069 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:15 am

    @Miss Squirrel, @Mrs. Pony, @Mrs. Toadstool, @Miss Sword: Thanks ladies. The scalloped top is ALSO something I would never have thought I’d “go for” but it’s such a nice touch! I love her. ;)

    @Shortbread: Yay for MORE positive DB feedback! I’m so glad you had a great experience. I totally agree, a consultant can definitely make or break the appointment.

    @ChicagoDreamer, @MrHT: Thank you! :)

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    Mrs. Mongoose 726 posts, Busy bee @ 11:35 am

    Such a beautiful dress!! I can’t wait to see pictures of you in it!

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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1069 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:11 am

    @Miss Mongoose: Thank you! I can’t wait for the pictures, too.

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