Hey, hive. Sorry I’ve been MIA for a week or so. I needed to take a break from ALL things wedding related (including blogging) after a huge blowout with someone in my family over the guest list. Remember my surefire way to ensure that no uninvited guests are included? Well, let’s just say things don’t always go according to plan (no matter how much of a planning control freak you try to be or how crystal clear you try to make things for guests). Needless to say, it was a VERY stressful week.
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Pretty much how I looked all week / Image via Wedding by Color
Now that things have calmed down (famous last words…), I’ve decided to not let shitty situations get me down. It’s less than three months until the big day, and up until last week I’d actually been quite happy planning this wedding for the past 14 months. Since these last few months are bound to include all sorts of drama and stress, I’m choosing to keep calm, carry on, and focus on the big picture (which is getting married, of course!).
Mr. M and I have a big weekend ahead of us—we are going up to Montreal for our final wedding-planning trip in a few days and have a jam-packed schedule, which includes food tastings, a final hair & makeup trial (for me, at least), and meeting with people who will be directly involved with our big day (including our wedding planner, photographers, etc.). I’m reallllly excited to be heading up there, as the last time we visited was in July.
We also plan on doing some “us time” activities such as the spa (we’re obsessed with this AMAZING spa called Bota Bota—it’s an old ferry boat that’s been refitted as a world class spa), checking out two restaurants we haven’t been to yet, and going on a Brewpub tour. I’m looking forward to getting stuff done while having a great time in this city that we love. And I plan on leaving the drama behind—at least for the weekend.
So fess up, hive. Anyone dealing with some insane wedding drama as your big day draws near? Anyone else wishing they had eloped instead (or finally understand why people decide to)?
I have been warned that the last 90 days is crunch time which means ‘stressful’. It sounds like you will get it figured out well enough though. Good tip!
My parents are divorced and my mother hasn’t wanted anything to do with the wedding or even remotely interested in it, however she thinks she is going to do the day of mother and bride stuff with me. I informed her she will not be that my step mom who is doing everything to help with the wedding will be. She is now theartening to not let my little sisters be in my wedding they ard two of my bridesmaids! Serious stress!!! Also trying to figure out how to tell the best man his girlfriend isn’t invited because she is totally fake to my face and talks crap behind our backs! Do not want her at my day:-)
So far we are good…other then my mom calling me a bridezilla a few times last month…we’ve been ok. It is hard to wedding plan and be anal about things. people think you are going crazy and telling you to calm down. I was calm until you called me a bridezilla! I would guess we all have those moment
I’ve had way too much bridesmaid drama for my liking and makes me really wish all I had was a MOH and Best Man. Always have to have that one person that wants it to be about them when it’s actually your day. I’m in the 90 day crunch period as well. Stress Stress Stress!
Well I’m from Montréal if ever you have questions. Especially for the Spa’s…I rather go to Strom Spa then Bota Bota, nothing special about it. The boat dosen’t go anywhere by the way girl!
I’m about 2 days away from dropping everything and catching a plane to elope somewhere. We had a huge blow out yesterday about the guest list.
I am exactly where you are. I remember 2 years ago two of my best friends were getting married, they were my roommates at the time so I was literally emerged in EVERY wedding planning detail. I remember thinking, these girls are crazy and losing it over nothing. I swore I would never be that girl. Now, I can say that I haven’t. I have been super calm easy-go-lucky, and not stressed. I have let both my family and his family have says in our big day (while not compromising what we want) and I thought it was SMOOTH sailing. Well, about 8 weeks before the wedding it was like shit hit the fan. We sent invites out this week and both our mothers all of a sudden had additional people to add… Our guest MAX budgeted for is 150, we were inviting 170 and they brought it up to 190 which makes me nervous. Then, I started planning rehearsal dinner with FMIL.. I wanted a CLOSE family/wedding party affair inviting only our parents, grandparents, siblings, nieces/nephews, our wedding party (and their dates) and a few out of town guests. We had it at about 30 people max. Well, his mom AND my mom just simply couldn’t not have their besties there (wait a minute this is OUR wedding) so now our rehearsal is like 70 people… So much for my vision on that.
Also, my fiances brother and his fiance are getting married in August after us. She has mentioned VERY little about her wedding until everyone starts focusing on ours (which they have to because we are so close..) As in she sent out her Save-the-dates two days after we mailed invitations… UGH… and we have about 60 mutual guests. All of a sudden all she wants to do is discuss HER big day.. I don’t even want to get started on that.
This isn’t my families fault but our florist quoted us a price back in November.. she said it wasn’t “an exact quote” but that was a ballpark guess and we didn’t need to meet with her til end of February. Well we met last week and her quote almost doubled.. Seriously? Needless to say, we are not using her because we feel lied to and we found another florist who is giving us a better price. Mini melt-down.
I never saw the point of eloping but I have come to appreciate it… haha. I am excited for our big day but we got so many hurdles to get through… I am glad I only have 26 more days to deal with it all…
UGH, that sounds awful. We’re still a year and a half out, so nothing like that yet. Plus our families are staying out of the planning. However, I did almost freak out the other day when my sister/MOH, who is about 5 months pregnant, decided to call me a bridezilla because I was talking about the wedding. I was by no means having a bridezilla moment, but she nearly made me have one after that! It was just nasty of her to call me that, and I know she just did it to be spiteful! Stupid things like that make me wish the wedding was closer so it could just be over with, but at the same time, I’m glad I still have a lot of time to plan and get things sorted out.
I am hoping this is the first and last of your wedding drama, I know how much it sucks! Forget about it and enjoy your time at that spa!
@futuremrshockey: Oh man, mom drama is always the hardest 
Also sucks about your bro’s gf, hopefully your brother will understand.
@faeriegirl05: I hear you, I’ve kept most of my frustrations (before last week) to myself because ultimately people don’t understand and I don’t want to be accused of being a bridezilla when that’s not the case.
@jlrhine5240: Hindsight is 20/20 Hopefully you can make the best of it with your BMs.
@beeandrashid: Oh I know! We went there for the first time last year and we actually loved it. Our massages were fantastic and I love the water circuit. This time around I’m just getting a mani/pedi though 
@sarg88: @beeandrashid: Sorry you ladies are feeling that way It sucks when things don’t go smoothly.
@Brooklyn55: WOW, seriously what is up with the parents adding people AFTER the invites have gone out?! I’m sure you went over the lists with them beforehand and now all of a sudden, there are all these new peeps that just HAVE to be there. That to me is the worst, especially when you spend all this time and energy planning and budgeting for a specific number of people. Sorry you are also dealing with this girl!
And luckily you were able to find another florist on such short notice–it’s all almost over, just 3 1/2 more weeks!
@Blonde17Jess: People can really get nasty when it comes to weddings. Luckily you still have plenty of time to figure out who are the people who genuinely care about your wedding planning and those who are just haters.
@Mrs. Pony: I hope so too–thanks Mrs. P!!
sadly when my mom called me a bridezilla i got off the phone with her and asked FI if i was being crazy at that point because she called me what she did…it upset me more that she called me that more then anything. There have been many times I just wanted to jump a plane to vegas and be done with it!
I’m sorry about the drama. =( weddings always brings out the weirdest in people.
I’m glad I still have a lot of time to plan and get things sorted out.
My dad the other day went to a funeral, did you guys know my daughter is getting married. You guys are all invited! I almost fainted…
Sounds like you need the weekend away (and the spa!). Have a blast and don’t think about the drama at home!
@beeandrashid:
Haha .Lol. Honestly parents can drive one crazy during weddings, but we love them anyway. My mom, Bless her heart but she’s trying me…still trying to add guests, 5 days post RSVP deadline. Honestly!!!!!!
Miss Mongoose, New Haven, CT Age and Occupation: 28, Digital Advertising Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Business Development Engagement Date: November 19th, 2011 Wedding Date: May 2013 Venue: Hotel Nelligan in Montreal, CA About Me: I was born and raised in Queens, NY (though you would never know due to my lack of a "real" New York accent) but currently live in Connecticut with my fiance. Anyone who knows me knows that I have a crazy obsession for planning and organizing things, so it comes as no surprise that I'm currently obsessed with planning our wedding. I love dancing, music, traveling, reading fiction novels, cooking, the color blue, cupcakes, all things space science-related and TV shows created by Joss Whedon and J.J. Abrams. My fiance and I have been together for seven years and are so excited to finally get married next year. We are planning a peacock-themed destination wedding in Montreal, one of our favorite cities in the world, with 100 or so of our closest family and friends. While we may look very different on the outside, we have eerily similar personalities (probably due to the fact that we share the exact same birthday) and share very similar passions. But above all else, we love each other and love to have FUN!!!
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