The past seven days have been simultaneously amazingly awesome and ridiculously overwhelming. Let me give you an overview of the schedule:
Wednesday: Depart Maryland at 5:15 AM for a choir directors’ conference in Dallas.
Wednesday–Friday: Spend literally all day (8:00 AM–11:00 PM) at the conference, and some nights out at karaoke. 
(Any other music teacher bees out there? Wasn’t it an amazing conference?)
Saturday: Spend half a day at the conference. Catch a flight to Atlanta. Head straight to my first dress fitting in Atlanta. Eat dinner then pass out in the hotel.
Sunday: Sight-seeing around Atlanta.
Monday: Hair trial in the morning. Drive two hours to wedding venue to meet with coordinator to finalize details. Meet with potential cake lady (not sure exactly what to call her…). Drive back to Atlanta.
Tuesday: Have second dress fitting. Drive to Tennessee to spend the night with my grandma.
Wednesday: Visit both grandmas. Drive to Kentucky to be at my parents’ house.
And just so you know how crazy it will be, I also have my shower and bachelorette party coming up this weekend and about six craft projects on the docket for the next two days. Aaaaaah!!!
To say I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed would be quite the understatement. I think I’ve hit a stage in wedding planning where I honestly just want to crawl under a blanket for a few weeks, emerge the weekend of our wedding, and just hope for the best. I don’t have that feeling of, “Why didn’t we just elope?” (Yet.) It’s more of being torn between my perfectionist self and my lazy self. (OK, and my cheap self. That one always shows her face eventually.)
For instance, I can’t find a hair flower that’s the right shade of white, the right size, and a reasonable price. My lazy self wants to just buy a frickin’ flower and get over it. My perfectionist self wants it to look exactly like it does in the picture in my mind. And my cheap self insists that I can probably make one myself. (I’ll keep you posted on how that adventure pans out.)
I just really want to not have the wedding weekend be filled with utter madness. I don’t want to have to make any decisions. I feel like I’ve already made all the big important ones like the venue and the photographer. Why are the small decisions killing me? After this past weekend, I know that by our wedding day, I don’t want anyone to say, “Do you want this picture frame here or here?” or “Well what do you think about putting the candy buffet over there instead of here?” or whatever silly questions are going to be asked. This week has shown me that I will not do well if that’s what I have to do. When it comes right down to it, I don’t do well under pressure. I just shut down.
So I’m trying to make most of those decisions now. And it is about to drive me crazy. But I’m hoping it will be worth it in the end.
Are other May (or April or June) brides feeling overwhelmed? How do you make all the small decisions?
Honestly, if you own a glue gun and sticks, make the flower yourself!
I bought two flowers at Michael’s to practice with, a $12 one and a $4 one (before the 40% coupon). I bought gator clips for $3.
Glue the layers of petals together, cut the stem, pluck the flower (so it’s just the outer petal layer, no plastic), and glue the bottom to the gator clip. Done. It took me all of 15 minutes, and you can find the flower YOU want.
I am starting to feel overwhelmed that I still have quite a bit to finish, but am still waiting for the pieces.
Totally feeling overwhelmed right now. I completely understand how answering all those little questions can be just maddening. I just keep telling the asker, “I don’t care. Do whatever you like.” And I REALLY mean it.
I’m so with you on this. The grad school deadlines plus wedding deadlines are all lining up too much…but if I can make it the six weeks to the end of classes, it’ll be smooth sailing (at least that’s what I’m telling myself). I’ve postponed most DIY until post graduation and only making things that are not essential to the overall wedding happening so if I don’t get to them…only I and maybe FI will know.
June 7 here, totally feeling overwhelmed. The wedding nightmares are in full bloom, the little decisions are starting to turn into “I don’t effing care,” the more RSVP cards I get where people just check the meal they want (instead of putting their INITIALS like it says in the directions so I don’t have to contact them to find out if it was them or their husband who wanted the chicken), the more I want to curl up in the corner with a big ol’ gallon of ice cream.
We are 78 days away, and last night, we just contracted with a completely different DJ because I was fed up with the lack of communication from our old DJ. I’m just ready for it to be over. Don’t get me wrong, still SUPER excited, but the more I think about the painting and gluing I have to do, the more I want to make someone else do it.
I’ll hang in there if you do too?
we are may 25…i am dealing with a bout of wedding planning depression…which is basically the worst possible time for it. I feel like all i ever think about or talk about is the wedding…which it should be at this point but sometimes I just want to scream. It has not helped that my honey and I have not had a lot of time together this week. He is the one who helps me decompress with the wedding planning stuff. This weekend we are taking our parents to the venue to eat and discuss plans and things. Hopefully it will be a productive weekend and the kick in the pants I need to get back to planning
I had to laugh – for lack of a better term I also called our vendor “cake lady”. 
I am also overwhelmed. Not with just wedding planning, but I’m also a musician and am playing a musical in amongst work and various wedding appointments, it’s going to be a little crazy, but I just keep thinking about the big picture! I’m marrying the man of my dreams and in the end it will all be worth it!
I have nothing interesting to say except yay! A fellow music teacher bee! 
You can do it! Just keep focused and remember to take time for yourself.
What are you wanting your flower to look like? I’m sticking some of the flowers that I make in a craft fair this weekend, for the first time at that. and beer koozies, yeah, those go together.
I had some of the teachers from this conference in my store this week, they were super amazing also.
I was in Dallas, too! ACDA is always fantastic. Maybe I’ll see you in Salt Lake City! Our schedules this week are almost identical. My bridal shower is Saturday, I got my dress fitted yesterday, and I’m feeling like crawling under a rug too.
Girl I am right there with you (even though it sounds more overwhelming for you since you’re doing all the DIY stuff)! And it’s only going to increase as we get closer and closer to our big days 
But I feel you about not wanted to make any major decisions, or a million small decisions during the wedding weekend.
My big day was back in January, and I have one piece of advice for you. Assign someone to make all of those little decisions that have to be made during the wedding weekend. Make sure its someone you trust, and someone that knows what your overall vision is. Otherwise you will get bombarded with questions and “suggestions” from every direction.
Hang in there, Blue Whale!! It will all work out in one way or another
@kmarie719: I’ve got a flower from Michael’s. Still trying to decide if it’s right
@ColoroftheSky: I really want to not care. Then someone suggests something I find ridiculous, and I think, “That cannot happen at our wedding.” Maybe I just need to get over it
@paigesbook: You are smart. I scheduled the wedding for the weekend right after graduation. Aaaaah!!
@faeriegirl05: I think we all hit our limit at some point when we’ve spent too much time talking about the wedding. Sending hugs your way!
@Stephanie: The big question is… who gets that job? I’m sure I’ll ask someone when the big day gets here but I need to ponder who I trust most for that.
Like @Mrs. Bracelet, I’m another ‘cake lady’ user. 
Hang in there, Miss Blue Whale – at least it’s almost over, right? And at least it’s been a whirlwind of productivity. YAY for your bachelorette party and shower!
I’m getting married in May and I go through spurts of being overwhelmed, excited, and then the “I just don’t care anymore” attitude. I’m also the same as you with the fact that on my wedding day all I want to do is enjoy myself, I don’t want to be stressed over the little things. I actually don’t want ANYONE to ask me questions about decorations, food, music and whatever else might come up.
“My lazy self wants to just buy a frickin’ flower and get over it. My perfectionist self wants it to look exactly like it does in the picture in my mind. And my cheap self insists that I can probably make one myself.”
HAHA nailed it! this is my life…
Miss Blue Whale, College Park, MD Age and Occupation: 27, Graduate Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Graduate Student Engagement Date: March 10, 2012 Wedding Date: May 2013 Venue: Southern Tree Plantation in Blairsville, GA About Me: I love bright colors, glitter, sugar, cheese, tiny animals, talking in silly accents, dancing, and all things music. I love to plan things, but when it comes time to execute the plans, I tend to panic. My friends tell me that I remind them of a mix between a cartoon character and a Disney Princess. Mr. Blue Whale and I are Southerners at heart, but we’ve been transplanted to the East Coast for school. We both love barbecues, star-gazing, bonfires, music, making up nonsense words, and generally being silly. Our wedding will be a fun-filled destination wedding in the Blue Ridge Mountains. It will most certainly feature bright colors, '80s music, and glitter.
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