Last week was a big week in the Squirrel world—Mr. S became Catholic! After years of thinking and months of planning, this was such a huge evening for us.
Mr. S was baptized and raised as a Christian, but kind of hopped around churches growing up. As an adult, he had a strong relationship with God, but he wanted a faith community as well. Being Catholic has always been a huge part of my life. After we had been dating for a while, Mr. S started going to church with me on Sundays. I never put any pressure on Mr. S to convert. Faith is such a personal thing and I would never ask someone to do that for me. I just wanted to offer my support as Mr. S explored his own spiritual journey.
As time went by, Mr. S slowly started becoming more invested in the Catholic church. I think it was a combination of him getting comfortable since he was attending church regularly, but also our discussions about our future together. He began to paint the picture of us getting married in a Catholic church, tucking our children in after reading from the colorful children’s bible and going as a family to church together.
One day it just felt right.
Mr. S contacted the religious education office and so began nine months of Catholic 101 (which is really called RCIA—Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults). Together we went to weekly meetings where Mr. S learned about the Catholic Church and I supported him as his sponsor. Like many of you, we attended a Pre-Cana retreat. This was a nice retreat, but it didn’t hold a candle to the weekly RCIA meetings. Every week after the meeting we would have a Panera lunch date to decompress and discuss how the week’s lesson was relevant to our lives. It was so refreshing to have that weekly reminder of the big picture. It is far too easy to get caught up in the wedding and forget the marriage.
FINALLY, the Easter Vigil rolled around and Mr. S had his big night. First he professed his faith in front of the community. Since he was previously baptized as a Christian, he didn’t need to be re-baptized as a Catholic. (Minor letdown…I would have loved to see him take a dive in that baptismal font).
He then got confirmed…this was my favorite part. What is supposed to happen is:
1. First says Mr. S’s saint name
2. Offers a blessing
3. Makes a cross on Mr. S’s forehead with oil
After this is completed, Mr. S is supposed to say, “Amen.”
Well, as soon as the priest said Mr. S’s saint name, the eager Mr. S loudly proclaimed, “Amen!” (without waiting for the blessing or the oil). I looked a the priest, wondering what he would do…
We both think it is a little funny, and the good priest starts to bless him anyway.
At this point, I was cracking up. Looking at the pictures, both the priest and deacon are also pretty amused. Mr. S is oblivious…hah shocker. I giggled all the way back to the pew and it was only then that I could tell Mr. S about his very minor faux pas.
I’m just glad my sister was sitting at the perfect angle and could capture the entire progression of giggles.
Mr. S ended the night by getting his First Communion. Overall it was an incredible evening. It was pretty exhausting both emotionally and physically, as Mr. S had all of these sacraments jammed into one four hour service. Yikes! (It ended at midnight.)
I am so proud of Mr. S for taking this step. Although I didn’t ask, he did it not only for himself, but also for me and for our future. At our wedding, one of the first things we will do as a married couple is receive communion together. I know this blog is all about weddings, but the Easter Vigil made me so excited for our marriage. This journey has provided us with such a solid foundation which we can rely on during the bumpy times of our marriage.
How has faith played a role in your wedding planning? Has anyone else converted during the engagement?
- Tampa, FL
- Genetic Counselor
- Wedding Date:
- May 2013
- Davis Island Garden Club