The Party!

No, this isn’t about our reception, which I am sure will end up being one of the most amazing parties our guests have ever experienced.  This is about something much more important—our bridal party!

I knew from the get-go that we would most likely have lopsided sides of the bridal party, and I was OK with that. When thinking of who I wanted to stand with me as I married Mr. B, one question came to mind: Who do I want to get ready with on my wedding day? Who would I miss if they weren’t there with me, getting our hair and makeup done together? Who do I want to distract me with dance parties and mimosas in case I get nervous or stressed? OK, that’s more than one question, but you get the idea!

I am blessed to have so many amazing women in my life. I have college friends, work friends, adult friends, etc. I will go ahead and cut to the chase here. I have 10 bridesmaids. Ack! I know, I know. None of them were people I included for the sake of including them—they are all people I love deeply and would feel incomplete if they weren’t getting ready with me.

Oh, add to that a junior bridesmaid (Mr. B’s daughter). We aren’t having a ring bearer or flower girl, so it all evens out, right?

At least we won’t be this big:


Tony Romo’s wedding (Image via The Today Show / Photo by Badgley Mischka)

Yes, apparently she separated her bridesmaids by hair color.

Mr. B has six groomsmen, which made it easy for us to decide how the processional will go. Mr. B and his best man will be up front at the beginning, and then the wedding party will walk down the aisle in groups of three (two bridesmaids for each groomsman). I’m sure the guys will feel awesome walking two beautiful women down the aisle, especially Mr. B’s 12-year-old son!

I wanted to ask my ladies in a big/grand/Pinterest-inspired way, but time was not on my side. I called the women who do not live near me and asked the others over dinner or a glass of wine, and they all said yes! These women have already been such a wonderful presence in my life, and I cannot wait to see how much fun we have in the months ahead.

Is it crazy to have 10 bridesmaids? Or would it be crazy to not include everyone who is so special to me?


Mrs. Bicycle

Tallahassee, FL/Savannah, GA
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    x0jlynn03 2112 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:06 am

    I don’t think it’s crazy! I have 9, and have no had ANY issues with it. There’s always someone around to help, it’s so fun when we all get together.. picking out a dress was simple, no fights or unhappy girls. I think it’s fine to have a large bridal party! We also have 9 guys. You’ll have a blast that day with all those ladies around!

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    Mrs. Bracelet 1411 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:14 am

    I say include whoever is special to you. We also had uneven numbers, me four and him three – so my MOH walked the walk by herself.

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    Ashley R, Guest @ 9:41 am

    Haha, I always love that picture of Tony Romo/Candice Crawford’s wedding. I actually went to college with Candice Crawford and know some people who went to the wedding…the wedding party was apparently the least over-the-top thing about the whole shebang!

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    sinfulli2sweet 320 posts, Helper bee @ 9:59 am

    I definitely don’t think you crazy….your actually lucky to have that many friends that you are that close with. I definitely don’t have that much because I’m really not that close with people and some people I’ve just grown apart from. Kinda wish that I had a group of girls to talk wedding with but unfortunately I do not :( but it’s okay our bridal party may be lopsided as well it matters to FH but at this moment I could care less. He keeps saying just put this person in and I think he’s joking but then he sounds serious and I’m like I don’t want to just randomly throw someone in my wedding and I don’t want people I’m not super close with or who won’t offer to help me so I may have 3 or 4 including MOH and he may have 5 – oh well!

    Good luck with everything!!!! and have a blast with your girls!

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    Mrs. Squirrel 276 posts, Helper bee @ 10:00 am

    I have 9 BM and I can’t wait!!! Just think of all the fun you will have with everyone!!

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    debeachgirl 742 posts, Busy bee @ 10:12 am

    I had 7. Mostly b/c they Mr. wanted 7 guys. Looking back I am so happy I had 7. They covered my whole life and different parts of my life (childhood, grade school, high school, college, law school). Many didn’t know each other or hadn’t seen each other in years. The best part they all got along great. And I love seeing they have friended each other on FB and comment back and forth.

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    Mrs. Lyre 512 posts, Busy bee @ 10:13 am

    I had 9, and it was fine! Mr. Ly had 8, we had one groomsman double up, but really it made very little difference in the grand scheme of things. I think bigger bridal parties are better, more people to help shoulder the costs, as long as they all get along! :)

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    brooklyn55 743 posts, Busy bee @ 10:20 am

    I think its a personal decision for everyone. For some smaller is better and for some bigger is better. My husband and I struggled with it for a bit because we had no idea what we wanted. I knew I had to have 3, my two best friends (both friends from college) and my cousin who is like a sister to me. Fiance knew for sure that he had to have 2, his brother and best friend all the way from childhood to now. I was all set on it being even so he asked his college room which was kinda sticky because he had 2 roommates in college that he is good friends with but this one was his closer friend (and the one hes stayed in better touch with since graduation). He considered adding the other roommate, but me having to have equal would have had to add another and my next go-to girls was my old college roommates.. well there was 2 of them that I am equally close with so I could not add a 4th bridesmaid without adding a 5th and he doesn’t have a 5th friend that he is SUPER close with.. so we decided to stick with the 3.. and we don’t think the other roommate was to upset by it.. We still included him in most of the wedding party stuff (rehearsal dinner, let him stay in the groomsmen suite, etc) and he was kinda glad to not have to pay for all the groomsmen expenses! As for me, there was a few other girls I wanted by my side and even though they were bridesmaids, I included them in our day and I had about 13 people total in my suite getting ready with me (3 bridesmaids, mom, her best friend, grandma, another cousin, my 15 year old niece, his sister, his brother’s fiance, and 3 other girls who had parts in our big day (and would have been bridesmaids if we had went with bigger wedding party).

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    KatieD52413 99 posts, Worker bee @ 10:22 am

    Do what makes you happy!! Just think about all the love you’ll be surrounded by on your big day!

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    Mrs. Treasure 1641 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:45 am

    I am a firm believer in picking the people you want to pick, numbers be damned. I had 2 bridesmaids because that’s who I wanted, and Mr. T had 6 groomsmen for the same reason. The whole point of the wedding party is to have your nearest and dearest up there with you, not to have an even number.

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    Mrs. Bicycle 624 posts, Busy bee @ 11:31 am

    @Ashley R: Ahh! I bet the wedding was incredible!

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    Mrs. Bicycle 624 posts, Busy bee @ 11:33 am

    @sinfulli2sweet: I am very fortunate and I appreciate all my special women so much!

    @Miss Squirrel: it is going to be such a blast! I can’t wait!

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    ladymegbeth 227 posts, Helper bee @ 11:56 am

    Wow, you are SO lucky to have that many wonderful women in your life! I’m having three (best friend, sister-in-law, future sister-in-law) and can’t imagine wrangling that many ladies…lol!

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    almost-mrsp 2056 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:32 pm

    I think it’s fine! I have six and I’m getting some raised eyebrows. Whatever, you have to do what feels right to you!

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    Jennifer, Guest @ 2:28 pm

    @Mrs. Treasure: Truth! This made me feel better because I’m always a little worried about having a smaller bridal party. You’re absolutely right, though. It should be about the people who matter most to you, not having more just to have more or having an even number.

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    mkelove 666 posts, Busy bee @ 4:08 pm

    I’m echoing everyone else here but iIt is totally okay to have that many as they all mean so much to you!

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    MrsBunnyBear 99 posts, Worker bee @ 7:58 am

    I had eight bridesmaids at our destination wedding and it was wonderful! We had a blast together and I got to spend the day with my best friends!

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    Mrs. Otter 1321 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:31 pm

    BIG props to you for including everyone that you love! I couldn’t do it. My sanity would not allow for it, eeeeek. I can’t wait to see how all your photos turn out :)

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