This seems to be a pretty common debate in the wedding world—to invite kids or not? As you will learn, I have the world’s smallest family. This means I don’t have any little cousins our nieces or any other children I need to invite. We do, however, have two very special kids on the guest list—Mr. B’s son (M) and daughter (A). That was pretty much where we decided to end the list of underage guests. Pretty much…
At one point we thought about inviting the children of some of our guests who are friends with A & M. With the guest list tight as it was, though, we didn’t want to have to remove certain friends to make room for children. No kids of friends—decision made. We then thought about Mr. B’s sisters’ children. There are only three of them in total and they are Mr. B’s family—we easily figured out a way to make room for them on the list.
That’s about it—we are having an adults-only wedding with (up to) five children there. Not the end of the world! I don’t plan on making coloring books or figuring out activities for them, which a lot of brides who have kid-friendly weddings have to do. They all get along so well and A & M love my friends. They’ll be too busy busting a move and eating cake to care that they’re in the minority. In fact, I think M will actually really enjoy being part of an adults-only crowd.
We don’t plan on asking our friends to leave their babies at home alone during the weekend, though. I am looking into babysitting services to recommend to guests while they enjoy the wedding. I know making a trip to Savannah is an expense, and I hope families are able to make a little vacation out of it.
The only question I have left is a pretty major one but not an uncommon one—how do I let guests know to make other arrangements? I have a section on our website for childcare, but not everyone will go to the site or notice the link. I will use specific names on the invitation (John Smith, not The Smith Family), but I’ve heard brides complain about how people assume they can bring their whole family. I was recently in a wedding that had the following at the bottom of the reception details, “Respectfully, an adult only occasion.” I like it! But then will people wonder why the five previously mentioned kids get to go?
So now the important question: Should I be safe and add wording on the reception detail card, or should I assume everyone will know that we are only inviting the specific people listed on the invitation? What did you do? Did it work?